15-year-old boys have poor self-care ability.

When Xinyu was in the third grade, her parents wanted her to receive a better education, so they contacted a foreign school. However, a few days after the child went out, she called all day, complaining about this and that, and kept crying. The whole family, old and young, are worried and don't know what to do. Grandparents felt sorry for their granddaughter and complained, "At that time, I didn't agree to send Xiaoyu abroad. I have never left home since I was so old. Suddenly, I was sent so far. Can children adapt? Take her back quickly. I can't study at home Let's talk about it when we grow up ... "

Dad blamed his grandparents for doting on their children. How old are they at home? They don't even have to peel eggs, they always pick out fishbones. They also tidy her schoolbag, prepare clothes and can't even wash socks every day. That's great. They can't do anything outside. There was a dispute between two generations about whether their children would stay or not, and the family atmosphere was once tense. ...

Viewpoint 1:

Usually, children have heavy learning tasks and are unwilling to delay time. They should try their best to take care of their lives so that they can study with peace of mind.

Viewpoint 2:

Children need not only the ability to learn, but also the ability to live and cooperate in order to adapt to society. Children should do their own thing.

Comments on the story:

Like Otawa Xinyu, a junior high school student, she has excellent living conditions and is the "apple of her parents' eye". They are used to the days when their clothes are stretched out to make ends meet, and they are meticulous in food, clothing, housing and transportation. In this regard, the performance of ancestors is particularly obvious. Of course, some parents think that their children will face fierce social competition in the future and need to study hard and master various skills. In order to have more time to study and participate in various special classes, they take care of almost everything in their children's lives. Children lack the opportunity to exercise and the ability to take care of themselves, resulting in strong dependence.

For example, when the teacher asks why he didn't bring his homework at school, many classmates will say that his parents didn't put it in their schoolbags, and they have to complain about their parents when they go back from school. Asked why there are so many mistakes in homework, students will say that mom and dad were busy last night and didn't check. In reality, we can see this phenomenon everywhere: grandparents are always worried that their children are hungry, cold and tired. They walk together and are reluctant to take their schoolbags. When they take the bus, they often sit by themselves and watch.

Parents should realize that cultivating children's self-care ability and self-reliance ability is far more important than academic performance. Children who don't take care of themselves in life often lack the ability of self-management and self-learning in their studies. These habits and abilities need to be paid attention to at ordinary times and cultivated step by step, rather than overnight after problems arise.

Wisdom tip:

1. Too many children can't take care of themselves. They should have the consciousness of "letting go". They should not worry about their children's suffering, but still take care of them, for fear of delaying time and failing to do well. They should consciously create opportunities for children to experience, try and acquire their abilities.

2. Respect children, trust children and enhance their sense of responsibility. For example, teach children to wash underwear and socks; Let the children check their homework, tidy the room, etc. At the beginning, parents should patiently and specifically tell their children what to do first and then what to do, step by step, from helping to letting go, and checking and urging when appropriate. Of course, children may make mistakes in the process of doing it, and parents should be tolerant and encouraging.

3. In a family in it runs in the family, the support of the elderly is very important for the cultivation of children's ability. In the cultivation of children's ability, it is necessary to match goals with words and deeds, and guide children's growth with action and love.