How is a family destroyed?

Dad called me and told my brother Dandan not to contact Xiao Liang, let alone lend him money.

I was surprised and asked what was going on.

Liang Xiao's father is often called a "snob", a particularly smart person, a typical "swing". Whoever gets along well in the local area will be labeled; Whoever has no power or influence will bully others.

Some of our neighbors are very developed. They are leaders of towns and counties. Every Spring Festival, he invites people to dinner at home and acts like a family. And he will sow discord between these people and others.

When I was a child, a neighbor was the mayor, his wife and children were still in the countryside, and the family was still farming. Another neighbor has a tractor at home and often helps. Later, the mayor's family moved to the county seat, and he would come back to farm during the busy farming season. This neighbor with a tractor is very practical, still trying to help, and has not climbed up because of being an official.

Liang Xiao's father often went to the county seat, so the mayor asked him to bring some wine and other things to his neighbors who helped him, but the neighbors never received them, so Liang Xiao's father kept them for himself. Later, when the mayor's wife asked the neighbors if they had received anything, they were at a loss, but it was not easy to ask again.

I had a conflict with Xiao Liang's father, probably around 2000. At that time, my father had business problems and owed hundreds of thousands of foreign debts. He saw his mother and said sarcastically, "You all owe so much money. You don't have time during the day, and you have to drink pesticides at night. "

Mother is a very honest person. Before marrying her father, she had been learning to sew and make clothes. Faced with such a situation, she could only secretly shed tears herself.

But my personality is like our family. In rural areas, I often use a word to describe "temperament", which means that I have a strong personality. I ran home and took a kitchen knife and rushed out. "Get out at once, or I'll chop you to death."

Later, he spoke ill of me everywhere, asserting that I would never do good deeds, get married and so on.

Unlike his father, Xiao Liang is kind and helpful. People in our village are more economical, and almost every family raises chickens. Later, several companies also contracted land and built chicken farms for large-scale operation. Liang Xiaola sold chicken feed to chicken farmers in the village and made a lot of money.

With money, people are not satisfied with their present life. Xiao Liang's private life is very chaotic. He has a little wife and is said to have given birth to a daughter. This little wife's husband is in prison.

Xiao Liang's wife is honest, but she works hard. I have been married for almost 20 years, and my parents-in-law have always been the masters of the family. When she goes back to her parents' house, she has to give her parents-in-law all the money for shopping. Her first daughter, her parents-in-law are very unhappy. The second child was born with problems and did not live for 7 days. Finally, the third child gave birth to a healthy son, and her husband had a hard time.

Later, Xiao Liang opened a factory in partnership with others, and the business was gone. He lost a lot of money he earned before. At this time, our old neighbor, the mayor, has retired now, and advised Liang Xiao and Liang Xiao's father: "This is the only loss, so don't rush into other businesses. When people have no money, they easily panic. Let's seize the past and wait for two years. "

Liang Xiao's father retorted, "My son is not like this. He must know."

In fact, Liang Xiao really panicked, and he also needed money to raise a little wife outside. At this time, someone took him to Beijing to do business, and he had to invest more than 200 thousand. He had no money, so he borrowed a lot of usury, and all his money was gone.

Liang Xiao's brother-in-law is a middle school teacher in the town. Liang Xiao used his brother-in-law's ID card to open a credit card with a limit of 50,000. He also borrowed 70,000 to 80,000 from his sister, adding up to hundreds of thousands. His sister just bought a house in the county town in recent years, and she doesn't have much money. I spent so much money on my credit card that I had to find a way to pay it back myself.

Her sister used to go back to her parents' house every week, but after this incident, she seldom went back. Although the teacher's salary has risen now, it is about 5,000 yuan a month, and the salary for two years is all on Xiao Liang. No one is happy about it.

Recently, many people come to his house to ask for money, usury, and the interest is very high. Now it's almost more than half a million. Usury, once involved, is basically difficult to turn over.

Liang Xiao's parents are almost 70 years old and have lost a lot of weight recently. His mother has never done odd jobs before, but now she starts to work, peeling garlic for others, which costs more than ten yuan a day.

After this incident, something happened. One of our people is dead, and there will be a funeral. Liang Xiao's father went to help steal someone else's cigarette, but he accidentally fell out, which embarrassed him.

Because the living conditions of Liang Xiao's family were better before, it was considered that the village was relatively rich. Liang Xiao's father is angry with his neighbor. After this happened in their family, most people were watching jokes, and people around them said it was karma.

I asked my father, "Is there any way to remedy it?"

Dad said, "Now hurry up and find a middleman, that is, someone with more status and prestige in our county, to negotiate with loan sharks." The money can only be repaid at bank interest or with tens of thousands of dollars, otherwise even the principal will not be paid. This is basically feasible. "

Dad went on to say, "Xiao Liang is still young. After several years of hard work, he basically turned over. I am most afraid that when people have no money, especially when they are in debt, they tend to have a bad attitude. At this time, Liang Xiao's father should persuade him to live a good life with his family. "

Obviously, the situation has not improved. Liang Xiao has never had a hard time before, and he has never owed so much money to others. He was so scared that he collapsed. During the Chinese New Year, he lost more than 10000 in gambling, and his family didn't even dare to mention him for fear that he would be unhappy. After staying at home for a few days, Xiao Liang was persuaded by his parents to leave. He asked for too much debt at home. Liang Xiao's daughter is studying in a technical school in our city, and she dropped out of school to go out to work because of this.

Because of dad's business problems, it took our family 10 years to pay off all the foreign debts. This shows that the money earned in ten years, except for family expenses, is used to fill holes, not to develop. Besides, children are small and they can save some money. When they get old, they will spend all kinds of money on their studies and basically have no savings.

When buying a house, the house has just been built at home, and parents can't get the money. During that time, my father was embarrassed to call me, and my mother was too worried to sleep, crying alone at home. Later, all the problems were solved and life was planned. There is no pressure and parents are relieved.

Actually, I lived with my father for about ten years to pay off my debts. I have experienced the coldness of the world and the truest side of human nature, so my ability to withstand pressure is much stronger than that of my peers.

When in debt, people are most afraid of losing their vigor and mental breakdown. It is difficult to have the courage to take a difficult road, and it will also become a hooligan, breaking the jar and breaking it, so that people around you can hide far away.

A family is really fragile, and I don't know what will destroy it. The key step, it doesn't matter if you take a wrong step; Take a few wrong steps and the fate of the whole family may be rewritten.

Brother Dandan didn't listen to our advice, but he lent Xiao Liang some money, not much. It was an emergency. I asked why? He said, "In those days, when our family had no money, many people around us looked down on it, including Liang Xiao's father, but I went to school in the county and took me home every time Liang Xiao came. I remember this friendship. "

My father and I have been talking about this problem. Life is so long, how can we avoid such a tragedy?

We talked about karma. Dad said, "Don't be evil. You should think about whether this happened to us. If you can't stand it, don't treat others. I always believe in karma. We don't have to deliberately do good, but we must not do evil. Also, you should have awe of things, and don't get carried away because of the temporary scenery. In difficult circumstances, we should change with constancy and keep a low profile. "

I've been thinking about it for a long time. Not only sunny days, but also cloudy days and rainy days should be considered. Many times, we are fighting against human beings. Improving a family's living conditions, such as eating meat every day, will not make a family poor, but the wrong investment will.

When we invest or decide to do something, we must ask ourselves, "What if I lose?" After making money, everything is easy to say. If you lose money and you can bear all the consequences, then you should do it boldly.

Dad has actually missed many opportunities to make a lot of money in recent years. His current business, to some extent, is an intermediary, making money by using the relationship accumulated before. Now as long as someone asks him for investment and needs his money, he will refuse it all, preferring not to have the money.

He said, "I'm in my fifties. If I lose money, there will be no 10 years for me to turn over. At that time, I will leave a debt for my children. I am not qualified to be a father at all. Now, I think making money is enough for our old age and will not add to your burden. As for helping you, you can't count on me. "

I agree with my father, but I still feel a little distressed. What a proud man he is, now he has resigned himself. You may delay, but time will not. The fairest thing for people in this world is time, which has passed many years in a trance.

Finally, I ended with my father's words: "Life is long. Winning the beginning doesn't necessarily win the end. We must be kind, or God won't give us too much good luck. In this life, the test is endurance, and it doesn't matter if you gain or lose for a while. Compared with the long life, the present difficulties are nothing to be afraid of. The most important thing is to keep your feet on the ground, divide your books and live a good life. "