"On the first day of marriage, you made my mother cry with hunger", and my daughter-in-law was so angry that she was "clumsy". what do you think?

I once heard a reader cry. After she got married, her mother-in-law left everything at home. The first day she took off her red wedding dress, she was assigned to clean and let her wash clothes and cook.

My mother-in-law said she was strong, but she was not. She speaks softly and doesn't boss her around on weekdays. But this doesn't mean that her mother-in-law won't put on airs for her, but it's even more difficult to deal with, because people with a personality are more troublesome.

The strength is not obvious. Even at first glance, you will think that she is easy to get along with, so she is deceived by appearances. When she does find out, it will be too late.

The reader finally met such a mother-in-law. Mother-in-law doesn't tell her what to do, not to force her to do something, but to "switch" directly. If she doesn't do it, neither does her mother-in-law, and nothing can be seen at home.

The house is in a mess, she doesn't care, she doesn't care if there is no food, even if the rice in the pot is burnt, people don't move, and their eyelids don't lift, forcing her to do nothing but clean up.

She complained to me that she was really helpless. She felt that such a mother-in-law had worked hard all her life and could not escape, lamenting that her life was hard.

However, I have no sympathy for her. I only said one thing to her, and you are used to it.

It's not that the square face is unsympathetic, but that this kind of thing is useless and really not worthy of sympathy.

If she doesn't do it, do you have to do it? I don't remember anything that says so. What you do is that you feel responsible for this family and can't make it a mess, so it becomes your business.

Originally, there was no obligation, but because of that sense of responsibility, it gradually evolved into a necessity, so when no one was in charge, you spontaneously provoked the girder.

Some things must be done by someone. This idea is ingrained in your mind, so even if you have no choice but to bite the bullet and complain, you still take action.

I obviously want to change the status quo, and I have been complaining, but I have not done less work. In the end, haven't I stopped at my current state?

Zhou Huan is a clever girl, at least I think so. Some people may say that what she did and said went too far. After all, she is still a family. When she is unfamiliar, she should make some concessions and respect each other. After all, for the sake of getting along in the future.

This words, not no one and spin said, think she is too lose face to her mother-in-law, directly put the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law into the bottom, but she directly hit back:

"People respect me, I respect others, people don't respect me, why should I respect her? I am not a virgin. I know exactly what I am doing. It's just that she wants to kill me quietly on the edge and make me kneel.

I did it this time, not every time, but doing it this time means doing it later, so tell me, why do you want to do it? It is foolish to give in, and it is to harm yourself. If you want to hurt yourself, you can go by yourself. I don't care. I don't do such a thing anyway, and you can't control what I do. "

What have you done in this world? Actually, it's really no big deal. If she is mainly, it may not be a big deal. Too bad it's not a deal.

She has only been married to her in-laws for a few days, but her bad reputation is well known in the local area. When everyone heard about it, they all said that the saying family had married a powerful daughter-in-law. She stopped her mother-in-law on the first day and was a "bad daughter-in-law".

The cause is a small thing that many women may have encountered.

Sun Li and her husband have been in free love for three years. Later, when we talked about marriage, we asked for a lot of bride price. When they talk about bride price, they have to do something. In fact, their parents don't really want this windfall, just want to see how the man's family is.

In fact, Sun Li's parents know his character, and he is honest and practical. But what worries them most is that they see some signs of filial piety in Sun Hao.

Filial piety is a good thing, but if you are ignorant, it will be very different. Not that this Zhou Hao is a mother-in-law. He just relented a little and couldn't hide his mother's pain.

On several dates, Zhou Hao received a phone call from her mother on the way. When she heard that her mother had a headache, she immediately passed away to express her condolences to her mother. Although the world is reasonable, my heart is a little unhappy.

"Some things make you uncomfortable, not without reason, and it's not your fault. Those things that you know you shouldn't be angry, but you will still be angry, must be caused by the other party's disrespect for you.

He and I are watching a movie. At first, he was called away by a phone before I ate popcorn. Can I not be angry?

After queuing for two hours, he finally got to the online celebrity hot pot, and he ran away without eating. Can I not be angry?

I have to pretend to be generous. I am full of anger. How can I be happy? "

However, Sun Li's attitude of admitting mistakes is still very good. He is a good-natured man who always makes amends afterwards and is very happy.

Or because of the feelings between two people. Later, parents worried about their daughter and wanted to test the man's attitude, so they understood her boyfriend's family conditions, but persuaded their parents to give 80 thousand bride price and then brought back 30 thousand.

Parents' worries are not unreasonable, and Fan Shi knows it, but she believes that Sun Hao will stand by her side and won't let her be bullied. Sun Hao also solemnly swore an oath to Fan Shi. She believes in Sun Li, and she also believes that her ability is enough to cope with some housework, not enough to be afraid.

She is really a straightforward and careless girl. She has always been good to others, but she is doubly good to others. She won't let others eat good fruit. She is pungent, straightforward, straightforward and confident in herself.

However, Sun Hao is different. Sun Li only promised to protect her from being bullied, but what is the boundary of bullying? I think if her mother-in-law reached out and slapped her, Sun Li would definitely stand in front of her and speak for her, but what about soft nails, or some relatively tactful means? It's hard to say.

After all, in the eyes of many men, the extent to which the daughter-in-law is bullied may be that someone pointed his nose at it. They don't know other tricks, and they don't even know that their daughter-in-law is being bullied. Instead, they think that their daughter-in-law is not sensible and can't be a person.

Sun Li is like this, so on the first day after marriage, when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had conflicts, he stood up and gave a bad help.

Shortly after the bride price storm ended, Sun Li got married. On the wedding day, the wedding reception was very lively. Many folks, relatives and friends from both sides came to the scene, as well as many people from other places who came to attend the wedding. Sun Hao and his old classmates are very busy, especially in this world.

Being a bride looks beautiful and relaxed. Actually, that's not the case at all. After all, it is a big festival, and many people get married together. Her makeup began to be tidied up in the early hours of the day before. When she went to bed that night, she put on makeup and made her hair look. She didn't sleep well all night. The next day, she put on a little makeup and went to the wedding scene.

A whole day later, she was strangled by a wedding dress and stood in high heels. One day, she was so tired that her back ached and she didn't eat much. It can be said that she was exhausted and sleepy when she saw off the last wave of guests at night.

After returning home, I cleaned myself up in a hurry, cheered up and ordered the gift money I received that day. It's early in the morning.

When she was confused, she seemed to hear her husband say that she would go to the scene the next day to entertain some old classmates who could not come to the wedding. She doesn't know whether this is a dream or a reality. She just sighed and fell asleep. She was really tired. The next day, her husband left, and she didn't know.

It was dark and unconscious. I woke up suddenly and found that the sky began to darken slowly. When I looked at my mobile phone again, it was already past five in the afternoon. She got up quickly. After all, she is not the only one in the family.

Sun Hao's new house hasn't been installed yet, so she still lives in her in-laws' house. She thinks she slept so long on her first day of marriage. I'm really a little embarrassed. After all, she is not at home now, so she can't be so casual. She has to take care of her in-laws' attitude, so she should get up quickly and look at the situation.

As soon as I went out, I saw my mother-in-law and her husband sitting in the living room. Mother-in-law is depressed while drinking porridge. Sun Li seems to be sitting next to comfort her mother-in-law. She quickly greeted her mother-in-law.

"Mother-in-law, I'm sorry, I accidentally overslept and let you see a joke." But her mother-in-law ignored her at all, and her mood seemed to be even lower. She was even more in tears. At that moment, Sun Li stood up, strode across the world and glared at her.

Haven't understand the situation, Sun Hao began to have a hate iron not to produce expression accused her:

"What's wrong with you, how can you sleep all day? Do you know that if you don't cook for a day, my mother will be hungry for a day? When I came back, she was hungry and cried. I cooked this bowl of porridge for her. "

After listening to Sun Hao, she understood everything. She was speechless, but she was relaxed. She thought it was a big deal, but as for making the atmosphere so serious, it turned out to be such a small matter.

"Oh, that's it?"

Sun Hao was even more angry: "What's your attitude? This thing is still young? If you do this, people will say that you are a bad daughter-in-law, but my mother is afraid of calling you for fear that you will be angry. How can you be so ignorant? "

Hearing this, Zhou Huan ignored her mother-in-law's eyes and burst into tears. Zhou Huan was sneering.

"That's enough, old lady. I'm really good at acting. I really didn't look at it. Are you worried about me? I don't believe it. In this case, Sun Hao believes. "

She asked Sun Li directly, "It doesn't matter what others say about me. Do you think I am a bad wife? " Sun Hao was speechless when asked, and what he said was illogical: "I believe you are not, but what you did is wrong."

Zhou Huan smiled: "What's wrong with me? Maybe you don't have to do this for me. My mother-in-law is sitting here and we can talk face to face. " Mother-in-law was busy wiping her tears and didn't speak. After waiting for a while, she simply continued.

"Sun Hao, I hope you know my mother-in-law, your mother, I don't have any disrespect for her. If one day she is paralyzed in bed, I will try my best to serve her, but she has hands and feet and is not paralyzed.

You told me I made your mother cry. Think about it. I've only been in your house for one day. How did your house come when I was away? Why have I been here all day and haven't even cooked? As for it? It's not true, is it? What do you say yourself? "

"I ..." Sun Hao looked at her mother, looked at the world, struggled internally and couldn't say a word.

At this time, my mother-in-law still looked weak and wronged, and stood up to make peace.

"It's all a family, forget it, let's call it a day, don't mention it." The matter subsided for a while, but then somehow it got out again. I said that on the first day of dealing with the devil, I would give my mother-in-law face, set rules and not give food.

Anyway, I didn't say anything, and neither did Sun Li. How did you get out? Maybe it really happened to be listened to by others, embellished by others and turned into gossip, which became the talk of local people.

It doesn't matter: "Say I am evil, then I am evil to some people. I will be what she wants me to be. I am not afraid. "

Do you think it's wrong to play around? I still think she is a smart girl, and there is nothing wrong with it.

Those things at home should have been shared by * * *, and they have never been the responsibility of just one person. If you are willing to take full responsibility, that's all right. Those who have the ability to work hard and are willing are also peaceful.

But if you still feel unfair and uncomfortable after all this, you are asking for trouble and asking for it.

Either do it, don't complain, or seriously seek fairness, not mope.

No one has the right to interfere in your own household affairs, only you can save yourself from the pain.

The best thing is, don't be weak from the beginning, stick to your principles, stick to your bottom line, let the other person see your clear attitude, and then life will be better.