In a family with many children, why do parents show favoritism?

In a family with many children, why do parents show favoritism?

Let me answer this question, why do parents of families with many children show favoritism? There are many reasons. Some parents treat their children well if they think they are filial and obedient, so they will give more financially and materially. Some parents have external reasons, such as if their children are doing well outside, and there is a certain limit to their children. Such children are also favored by their parents due to their social status and economic strength. Some parents are biased against their children’s spouses. Parents will decide their attitude towards their children based on the strength of their children’s spouse’s family. For example, if their daughter marries a powerful and wealthy If your son marries a powerful daughter-in-law from her natal family, her father-in-law and mother-in-law will also think highly of her. Parents will also be partial to their son, daughter-in-law, and their children.

In short, people have different opinions, and parents’ attitudes towards their children are also different. Some disadvantaged children, such as those who are honest, can’t get into trouble, and are not very flexible, no matter how filial you are, your parents will not. Your parents are very arrogant in front of these vulnerable children and use all kinds of unpleasant words to humiliate and reprimand them. Parents think that such children are incompetent.

Because disadvantaged children are often discriminated against and treated unfairly by their parents, family conflicts arise. When it comes to raising the elderly well, family disputes often arise, and some children are not good at raising the elderly. , although the government now stipulates that it is an obligation to raise parents well, and it is a sin to not raise the elderly well. Parents give us life, and we must repay our parents for their upbringing. However, some parents do have problems in treating their children. Parents treat Although your children can't drink a bowl of water, you can't bear too much burden. You should take care of their children's feelings and give them love, so that you can die well!

In families with many children, parents are often blamed for partiality, and parents are also very distressed by this.

My uncle’s family has six children, three sons and three daughters. Except for the eldest daughter who does not think her parents are partial, the other five children all think their parents are partial.

The eldest son and the second son thought that their parents favored the third son, while the second daughter and the younger daughter thought that their parents favored the eldest daughter.

What does the actual situation look like?

My parents were farmers and didn’t have much savings. They borrowed foreign debt to marry their eldest son. When they were preparing to marry their second son, their father was already ill.

The old father did not see a doctor, let alone cure the disease, so he began to drag his illness and arrange for his second son to get a wife. He borrowed money from here and there to get his second son a wife as well.

At this time, the old father became more seriously ill and had no money for medical treatment. He passed away soon after. He could not close his eyes before he died because he still had a younger son who had not married a wife, and so did his wife. Frail and sickly.

The two sons, who were married at this time, also complained that their parents favored the third brother because their father left three shabby houses for the third brother.

The eldest daughter has been smart, well-behaved, and good at studying since she was a child. She has been helping her parents with farm work during holidays. Due to her hard work, she was admitted to college. After she graduated and started working, she used the money she earned to While treating his elderly and sick mother, he saved money and borrowed money to marry his third brother.

The other two daughters were not well-behaved since childhood. They were unwilling to help their parents with farm work, and they did not study hard. Later, they did not go to college and stayed at home to farm.

When life in the future is no better than that of their elder sister, they begin to complain about their parents, saying that their parents favor their eldest sister, and that is why the eldest sister has the good life she has today.

My mother couldn't explain anything, she could only cry secretly with sadness.

"Those who are in power are blind to the eyes," and the neighbors all laughed at the children. They did not tell them about their own shortcomings, but blamed their parents for being partial.

I hope my answer can help you!

There is an old saying: Fathers and mothers only care about their grandchildren, and grandparents only love their children. Filial piety. The greatest expression of filial piety is obedience, acting in accordance with the wishes of the parents. If they go against their parents' wishes everywhere, Parents are always worried about their parents, make everything difficult for them, are unfilial and do not follow the right path. Such children will definitely have a headache for their parents. Parents’ partiality and sometimes extreme criticism may be because they hope that every child will become an adult. For Children who are incompetent hate iron and cannot become steel.

In a family with many children, why do parents show favoritism? This problem is relatively common in society. Children are treasures in the hearts of their parents, but as they grow older, their personalities change greatly, and they are also divided into strong and weak ones, so parents always prefer the weak. After they all got married and started families, the differences became even greater.

After boys get married, the difference between their economic conditions and other poverty and filial piety is even greater. If one daughter-in-law is unfilial and overbearing, the parents will always prefer the overbearing daughter-in-law in order not to cause trouble, and they will wrong another kind, tolerant, and filial daughter-in-law. Therefore, the habit of parents' preference is formed.

When daughters get married, there are filial and unfilial daughters. Some daughters have good family conditions, but they are a little harsh on their parents, which leaves a shadow in the hearts of their parents. There is a rumor in society that the richer you are, the more unfilial you are, and the poorer you are, the more filial you are. Sometimes parents prefer the poorer one and resent the other. In addition, the youngest child always feels like him (she is young and has not grown up) in the hearts of the parents. Therefore, in families with many children, parents always have preferences. In fact, every child is the mother's favorite.

Every family situation is different. No matter what their parents do is right or wrong, children should be tolerant and tolerant and not care about it. After all, their parents have raised them up and made them a family!

I hope that people will live long and the world will be peaceful!

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Families with many children are bound to be biased. If there are more boys than girls, then girls must be preferred. If there are a lot of girls but only one boy, then the boy must be regarded as a treasure in his hand. The situation in our family is that the parents tend to feel sorry for the third child. She is the youngest sister! Because the boss is more obedient, there is nothing to worry about. The second child is also married now, and the family is relatively stable. Only the third child has been in poor health since childhood, and his parents are most worried about him.

In families with many children, it is common for parents to have so-called "partiality". There are two reasons for partiality: one is the parents' reasons, and the other is the children's reasons.

Let’s first look at the parents’ reasons. There are two situations. One is preference for "obedient" children. As the saying goes: "The palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are all flesh." Originally, parents should not and do not need to be partial to their children. However, the five fingers extending out of the palm are not all the same length: multiple children born to the same parents have different temperaments and personalities, higher and lower IQs, sooner or later they become wiser, and their likes and dislikes are different. As the years go by, these children gradually have different imprints on their parents' hearts. Some children are "obedient" and some are "disobedient." So, when parents encounter a good thing and need to make a decision about their children, it is natural that the first thing they think of is the "obedient" one. The second is that parents who favor sons over daughters favor their sons. Parents in most rural areas have a tendency to favor sons over daughters, and in some places the preference for sons over daughters is very serious. Parents pay more attention to their sons, care more about them, and spend more energy and financial resources, such as nurturing sons who prioritize reading. Also, when parents' property (such as real estate) is distributed, generally only sons are considered and not daughters. This is the partiality caused by the residual feudal thinking.

Secondly, there are reasons for children.

In fact, as mentioned above, children who are sensible, obedient, diligent, and perform well are likely to be favored by their parents. This is also caused by being a child yourself. Why don't you be the one who favors your parents? Who doesn't like good? In school, teachers definitely like students who have good academic performance and outstanding discipline. In the unit, leaders or bosses specify that they like employees with good ideological and moral character, strong work ability, and capable and willing employees. Even when choosing a piece of clothing, you must choose a good-looking style and a color you like if the material is the same. On the other hand, when you become a parent yourself and face the multiple children you have given birth to, you will also be "partial" involuntarily.

Don’t worry about your parents’ favoritism, just be yourself!

The ten fingers are not aligned and the eccentricity is normal.

In fact, this is a misunderstanding. Every parent loves their children. This is human nature. Just like the title says that parents prefer a certain child, this equation does not hold, but why does this happen? Because there are many children, parents know best which child is suffering in life, and giving preference to their children is a silent compensation. If this happens in the family, let's understand each other. We are born from the same roots, so there is no need to worry about each other.

Most parents love their children equally. Parents will prefer those who are smart, well-spoken and pleasing to their parents.

Some parents love their children who are physically and mentally weak more.

My co-worker Sister Hu has two boys, one named Daming and the other named Daliang. When they were young, we all saw that they loved their second son Daliang very much. Both brothers have joined the workforce. The younger brother Daliang's workplace is better, and the workplace has a house. He bought a house with a little less money.

Brother Daming’s workplace was not good enough, and the family gave him a down payment. Later, the family’s living conditions in all aspects were not as good as his brother’s. Sister Hu and her husband used one person’s salary to pay back the eldest son Daming. Home loan.

This is what parents do. If a child’s family situation is not good, he or she will help them more.

Some families have many children, and parents simply do not have the conditions to help take care of any one of them. It can’t be said to be biased. Every situation is different.