If you want to feel valuable, you must first be able to provide value to the other party.

1.

Last night, classmate Amin helped me sort out the question I asked about "what kind of work do you think is valuable?"

Counting all kinds of divination, tests, and appointments with consultants, I have forgotten how many times this has happened. So, for me, the journey of finding myself never stops. It seems that the answers given by everyone are not really in line with my heart.

It is also because I am constantly growing, so I also need such a role to guide me in the process.

After all, I am a dynamic change, so I can't always rely on static results to control the road ahead.

I was able to get this opportunity this time because I saw that Amin had a quota for interpretation in the astrology talent course final assignment sent out in the circle of friends. Because I had been shocked by this magical constellation interpretation before, I didn't hesitate to ask her for a place this time.

In fact, it is selfish. First, because I am also very interested in this field, I want to see how she is studying, although she personally does not represent everything. I know that Amin has learned the Enneagram very well before, and she can be regarded as my senior sister, and she is also a No. 6 in the Enneagram like me.

Then if she learns well, it means that this ability can be learned and is not as profound as imagined. I, who is also a size 6, can also try to develop in this area.

After having such an example, I will be more confident in learning later. In the process of learning, you can also learn from her. Just like after we talked last night, she said that she felt connected to me when she communicated with me.

Facts have also proved that I did not choose the wrong person. After all, we are both babies No. 6, so we are definitely reliable.

2.

We started at 8:30 pm and communicated by text throughout the whole process. So the progress was a bit slow, and we chatted until almost 11:30. To be honest, if you are not a very close person, who would be willing to spend so long combing it for you?

So I was really touched. When I saw it took so long, I felt really embarrassed to apologize to her for taking up too much of her time.

She replied that she also enjoyed the process.

So this is also a happy thing for me. In this way, you will not feel that you are adding trouble to the other party, but you will also provide value.

In fact, this method is more suitable for slow-paced people like me. Because it takes time to get into the state, instead of being afraid of the passage of time, I fail to truly express my inner thoughts.

At the beginning, the questions asked were relatively simple, and I could answer them without thinking. After all, I am someone who has gone through many consultations, and I know the general pattern more or less.

Even when I saw her question, I knew what the essential question she wanted to ask was. I will also subconsciously forge a question to make it look like it fits my personality.

I often find the answer in the process of answering, so I actually have the answer in my heart. I'm just too lazy to think deeply and just stay on the surface. Or you know the real answer, but don’t have the courage to face the result.

When the questions asked later became increasingly difficult to answer, I thought of giving up several times. On the computer side, I stared at the screen for a long time. Calm down and think carefully about what you are thinking deep down in your heart. I don't know what answer I can give. This is a question I have never thought about.

Some of it is because the setting is too far away and I dare not think about it. Some people are worried that they will be laughed at if they say it, so they want to cover it up with other answers.

Because in a consultation a long time ago, after frankly speaking about my dream, the consultant laughed at me like a joke. Since then, I have carefully protected that dream that was far away from me. I'm afraid that one day I will speak out and be ridiculed again.

However, this time, I listened to my heart. Since I have chosen the other party, I must trust the other party. Therefore, I chose to be honest. But I still pretended to tell a joke and told my true thoughts.

With the mentality of taking a gamble, I decided to take the risk.

I don't know what kind of result I will get, but no matter what, I accept the result calmly.

Because, since I can be hurt, it is also because I gave the other person the opportunity to hurt myself.

3.

As time passed and I got closer and closer to the answer, I panicked a little.

This has always been the answer I wanted to find, but when it appeared, I was a little scared. I still don’t believe that this is what I really want in my heart. I always feel that it should appear in a more divine form instead of showing up in front of me without any preparation.

So, after the appointment, Amin and I said that I was still not sure, and I had to confirm it again and again.

Is being able to serve as a guide and help others really what I want?

Will I really enjoy this process?

Would I still be willing to do this without any compensation?

I thought about it carefully, and then remembered the first time I had a zodiac reading with Yang and Yixin. She mentioned that I like to learn courses, but I also enjoy learning and explaining it to people around me. People listen.

At that moment, I thought of myself after finishing the financial management course and explaining insurance knowledge to the sister group, and I was in a very burning state. I enjoyed that feeling very much. I felt that I had not learned these courses in vain and that I had made a lot of money.

Nowadays, it is very meaningful to learn something and spread it to the people around you. Just like I always like to share my workplace experiences in the community, I don’t want others to take the same detours as me.

When I encounter a problem, I also tell myself that I can write an article and share it, which can provide ideas when other people encounter the same problem.

When I sign up for a course, I will also think about signing up myself first, and if it is good, I will recommend it to friends around me who need it. Or you can learn it yourself and then teach them. In this way, you will now have the ability to help them solve problems that you could not solve before.

I feel very painful when others ask me for help when they have problems, but I am unable to help. I really want to have enough ability to help them solve their confusion. Even a little bit makes me feel valuable.

I enjoy that when my friends are indecisive, they always come to me to discuss solutions. I am very grateful for their trust in me. When they say that and feel much better after talking to me, I also feel very satisfied.

I still remember that a rich fan who was a fan sent me Starbucks coupons after adding me on WeChat. I feel scared because I feel that I am not providing value and it is unfair.

But when she said that after reading my article, she could see a different world. I accepted her gift calmly because I felt that I really provided value to her.

I am also very grateful for her love for me. In order to live up to her love and to allow her to continue to see more different worlds, I will definitely keep writing.

It seems that everything is explained. If you want to feel valuable, you must first be able to provide value to the other party.

However, I still doubt whether this is just all the information I have collected on this point. If it were changed to another point, would there be rules to follow?

I don’t know the answer, but I think I can follow Amin’s advice and try to go in this direction first. Through continuous combing, the answer is slowly found.

Anyway, coming into this world is just like what the book "Silent Confessions" says,

Throughout our lives, we want to get rid of the expectations of others and find our true selves.

Therefore, I will not stop moving forward in my journey of finding myself.