How to teach children who steal money at home?

Parents should know why their children's pocket money is not enough. Is it instigated or coerced by others, seduced by material desires, or possessed by bad habits? The essential question is, did it happen by accident or has it become a habit? After what happened, how did he deal with his mistakes? If parents just shout, "You stole something-I don't want to know anything else!" Then this is the stupidest parent.

There is a popular view that "stealing" is a special fault that needs to be severely punished by parents. On the other hand, educators have a lot of data showing that, on the contrary, children are afraid to tell the truth and tend to be dishonest because of fear and humiliation.

There is such a suggestion in pedagogy: "We should start from the needs of children. If a child's requirements are reasonable and natural for his age, then the family should give them as much satisfaction as possible. Let children feel that adults care about them and respect their wishes, so that they will not take other people's things to satisfy their wishes.

Children are absorbed into family economic activities.

Absorbing children into the family's economic activities and even the budget is the best way to educate children about money in family education, so that children can understand the meaning of money, the position of money in life and how to use it. Children will feel that they are the masters of the family and learn to use money reasonably.

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Reason: Why do children steal money?

Play games online, buy snacks, buy favorite stationery, toys, books you want to read, send birthday gifts to your classmates, go out to play with your classmates and so on. When these needs can't be obtained from my parents in a proper way, I have to "take them privately". Parents should control overreaction, calmly analyze the reasons why children steal money, analyze the real reasons, and help solve the consequences of stealing money caused by other bad habits and behaviors.

Ordinary children only steal money occasionally, but fortunately their parents won't find out. In the interview and investigation, the reporter found that many children stole their parents' money, and some parents admitted to the reporter that they stole their parents' money when they were young, which was not necessarily related to "poor study" and "crime". The article "Coward" included in San Mao's album "Allure" is a story about stealing money when she was a child. "When I was talking, I found that my sister and brother were laughing. They all stole money, and they felt very sad. This past has passed. "

Some children spend money lavishly and steal money into a vicious circle. After the formation of bad habits, parents need to preach patiently and take appropriate measures to correct their children's behavioral deviations.

Some children obviously have pocket money, but they still like to steal it. If they don't steal, they will feel uncomfortable and become "addicted". Professor Luo Xuerong from the Institute of Mental Health of Central South University said that children addicted to theft suffer from conduct disorder. At this time, parents must not be afraid of doctors and take their children to a regular psychological clinic for treatment.

Suggestion: Respect children and guide them correctly.

In an interview with experts from Changsha Counseling and Guidance Center for Minors' Psychological Development and Children's Psychological Problems Research Institute of Central South University, the reporter suggested that the word "stealing" should not be used easily for children's behavior of taking family money, so that the psychological pressure on children will be less, which is also conducive to education.

First of all, parents should try their best to control themselves when they find problems, instead of being furious and beating and cursing. Call the child and sit down and talk seriously. Let children talk about their own ideas, what to spend money on, and how to deal with it. According to the facts, focus on two aspects for children: one is right or wrong. Connecting with reality and explaining how to treat money to children will reflect a person's quality, and small problems will make big mistakes if they continue to develop. The second is what to do if you want to spend money. Tell the child what you want to buy. Tell your parents that it is considerate for them to give money or not. Asking for money is not good for children's growth. If parents usually ignore some reasonable needs of their children, they should give them a self-review and convince them.

Secondly, parents should set an example in financial management. Some children steal money from home because they find that their parents don't have a clear concept of their own money, thinking that they don't know if they have taken it, so that children take advantage of it. Experts believe that it is necessary for parents to make a more detailed record of family income and expenditure in front of their children. On the one hand, it can cultivate children's good financial habits, on the other hand, it can let children know their own economic situation and cultivate the awareness of rational use of money. Also, children should be given moderate pocket money. How much pocket money to give should proceed from reality, look at the family's economic conditions and the actual needs of children, and guide children how to spend money.

Finally, experts suggest that the starting point of changing children's behavior of taking family money is to respect their personality, never look down on children at once, never deal with this matter in front of outsiders, not to mention that children have stolen money, and never "expose their shortcomings" from time to time, punish them at will and hurt their self-esteem.