Only oneself can become a strong man who dominates life!

Writer Lu Yao said: I am alive and my soul is peaceful!

In life, we often see some neets refuse to rely on their own ability to support themselves. But rely on parents. When my parents died, I traded myself for someone else. And many facts have confirmed a truth, relying on others is never as practical and practical as relying on yourself!

Then, the next story is about a man who refused to rely on himself, only wanted to rely on others to strive for happiness, and finally went to collapse. This is Su Tong's famous novel Wives and Concubines in Groups.

Su Tong is a professional writer. Because of his long illness in childhood, he has a deep understanding of loneliness, death and disease. Most of his novels are mainly about women.

Most of his understanding of women comes from his childhood observation and thinking, and he was once praised as a male writer who knows women best and is best at writing about women. The despair, pain and loneliness of the female characters in his works make readers feel deeply depressed and suffocated.

The novel wives in groups tells the story of a woman who just went to college for a year from the third angle. Because her tea factory closed down and her father committed suicide, she had to marry the Chen family as a fourth aunt, and gradually melted into the jealousy in the backyard, witnessing the tragic fate of Chen women, and finally she went crazy.

I will explain this book from three aspects:

1. Collision with Yan Er: Everyone else has their own shadow. Being kind to others is equal to being kind to yourself!

2, infighting with the third wife: the map is not a real territory, what you see is not necessarily true!

3, and the temptation of waterfalls: love is not an adventure to cross the rubicon, but a fallen wish box!

Next, I will explain the first part: the collision between Song Lian and Yaner-everyone else has their own shadow, and being kind to others means being kind to yourself! This part is the beginning of the story.

Nineteen-year-old Song Lian was carried into the Chen family's garden at night. When she was a freshman, her family's tea factory closed down and her father committed suicide. She was practical and chose to get married.

Chen Zuoqian first met Song Lian in a western restaurant. She filled the cake with 19 with small candles and celebrated her 19 birthday early with disappointment.

Chen Zuoqian was satisfied with Song Lian, not only because Song Lian was young and beautiful, but also because she had some subtle and charming power, and even saw all kinds of ecstasy in her later years.

As soon as Song Lian entered the gate, he met Yaner. Yaner and other maids all laughed at the way Song Lian washed his face. Song Lian was furious and ordered Yaner to pour water, but Yaner asked who she was, so fierce?

The next day, Yaner was appointed as a girl by Chen Zuoqian to praise Lian. When they formally met for the first time, Song Lian checked Yaner's hair for fear of lice, saying that her hair smelled and forced her to wash her hair with Chen Zuoqian's prestige. Yaner was very angry and spat at Song Lian's black and white dress.

There is bad blood between their master and servant, which creates opportunities for others. So who saw this opportunity first?

The Chen family has three wives. The first one is as beautiful as jade, old and pale, and fat. She is often infatuated with Buddha and doesn't even know that Song Lian is married. See Song Lian, beads broken, jade read the sin in her mouth, but don't let Song Lian help her pick it up.

Zhuo Yun, the second wife, is very hospitable. See Song Lian, take out all kinds of candied melon seeds to entertain.

Mei Shan, the third wife, recently lived with Song Lian, but she said she was ill and didn't go to see Song Lian. Song Lian was surprised to find her peeping behind the curtain. I think Meishan is strange.

On the wedding night, Meishan sent a maid to call Chen Zuoqian away on the grounds that she was seriously ill. Chen Zuoqian didn't go back to his room to praise Lian all night. Song Lian knew it, but he didn't violate it.

Yaner always goes to Zhuo Yun, and Song Lian thinks Yaner must have spoken ill of herself in front of others. Song Lian once saw Chen Zuoqian take the door and touched Yan Er's chest. Although it is natural in an instant, Song Lian feels that she should be nice to Yan Er. The arrogance of wild geese has a lot to do with Chen Zuoqian!

Song Lian saw her own shadow in Wild Goose, and she thought: Even a little girl knows that she needs that kind of courage, and so do women!

Song Lian, a female student, had to marry Chen Zuoqian, a shriveled old man, in order to live a comfortable life and take shortcuts!

Yan 'er, a vulgar servant girl, was promoted to be a wife by her master and used as a servant girl. Yaner thinks it's good to climb master's tree! Put pressure on Song Lian to remind her not to underestimate her. Maybe she really climbed on her head that day!

Song Lian and Yaner, to some extent, have the same purpose. They all want to live a good life by men, but they just don't want to rely on themselves.

Okay, this is the first part. Song Lian, who first arrived in Chen's family, got to know Chen's three wives and Yaner, and got along well with Yaner.

The first wife is cold, the second wife is warm, and the third wife is mysterious. Yan Er also relies on the existence of experts, and does not attach importance to Song Lian. Song Lian's life in Chen Jiashi began to show signs of disappointment. Why did the third wife hide behind the curtain and peek at Ode to the Lotus? Is mistress really as likable as she appears?

Next, let's look at the second part: the struggle with three wives-the map is not a real territory, and what you see is not necessarily true!

Song Lian found a very beautiful place in Chen Jia, but it was very dark. There are stone tables and benches, but weeds grow vertically and no one goes. There is a well, the well water is dark, standing at the wellhead and looking around, suddenly cold, terrible palpitations!

Zhuo Yun, the second wife, brought a roll of silk to Song Lian. She found Song Lian pale and told him about the "dead well"-three people had died, and I don't know who it was, which was taboo for the Chen family.

Zhuo Yun Sheng gave birth to two sisters, Yi Rong and Yi Yun. On this day, Song Lian met them in the garden, but they were ignored, calling her "little wife" behind her back! Song Lian was surprised. You know, what kind of parents have what kind of children. Zhuo Yun should say these words in front of the children!

Song Lian first met Yuru's son, Fei Waterfall, at the invitation-only banquet, which impressed her as young and handsome. The next day, I met the waterfall at the chrysanthemum viewing party. Feipu learned that she didn't like crab claws, so she changed them. Song Lian felt that there was some kind of tacit understanding between them. In fact, she doesn't hate crab claws, but likes others to care about her feelings, but Phipp cares very much.

This morning, Song Lian heard the Beijing Opera singing outside the window. It's Meishan She sings when she is happy and cries when she is unhappy! Song Lian went out and listened silently, tears filling her eyes unconsciously. Seeing this, Meishan thinks that Song Lian and himself have something in common. For the first time, she showed a kind expression and said a meaningful sentence: if you do well, you can fool others, but if you do badly, you can only fool yourself.

Meishan doesn't even know where she is from, and she looks very good. Chen Zuoqian, an amateur singer, followed after several meals.

Chen Zuoqian asked Meishan to come in and sing a song for him. Meishan said, I don't want to! Just walked away. Chen Zuoqian felt that he had spoiled Meishan in those years. When something went wrong, Meishan dared to scold Chen Jiazu for eight generations. Song Lian understood Meishan very well and said: She is poor, with no relatives and no worries. She is afraid that you don't love her, and she has a bad temper!

Song Lian began to feel that Meishan was not as unbearable as Zhuo Yun said, nor as mysterious as she imagined. They have some connections. Meishan asked Song Lian to play mahjong. When Song Lian picked up the dropped card, she found four twisted legs of Meishan and the doctor. She was stunned!

Song Lian heard the flute of the waterfall and thought of his own Xiao, but he couldn't find it. She suspected that Yaner had stolen it. Facing the evasive geese, Song Lian is more convinced that Yaner stole Xiao, and forcibly broke down Yaner's box, only to find a cursed little man with a needle in his chest and "Song Lian" written on it in big letters!

Song Lian was mad. She hit Yan Er and then realized that Yan Er couldn't write. Someone helped Yan Er. After some torture, I knew it was Zhuo Yun.

Zhuo Yun came to Song Lian's side and wanted to cut her hair into ear-length short hair to look younger. Song Lian refused, so she had to cut it for her, only to Zhuo Yun's ear.

All this was clearly seen by Meishan-Song Lian saw Zhuo Yun's trick, and this pair of scissors was actually an act of revenge. Meishan said: If I hate someone, I will cut off her ear and leave nothing! Meishan talked about pregnancy, and Zhuo Yun drugged her to have an abortion, but it was useless.

Song Lian's temper is getting bigger and bigger. Because she was small, she and Chen Zuoqian vomited. Chen Zuoqian was impatient and had to slam the door.

Outside the window, the servants were burning leaves, and the smell of smoke made Song Lian very uncomfortable. At dinner, I had a conflict with my first wife Yuru. Song Lian was depressed, and felt that he was so powerful in the Chen family.

Song Lian was sitting in the room sulking, and Feipu came to see him. In order to make her happy, Feifei plans to find a teacher to teach Song Lian to play. Their hearts took another step forward, but no one could guess each other's hearts.

On Chen Zuoqian's 50th birthday, Fei Lan and Yi Rong broke the vase. The three wives argued and refused to give way to each other. Song Lian came forward to comfort her, but she was ridiculed by Yuru. Song Lian felt heavier and went back to his room to sleep. In a more depressed trance, she heard the call of Jing: Song Lian, come down!

It was not until dinner that Song Lian realized that she couldn't do it. She should please Chen Zuoqian, which is good for her later life. She gave Chen Zuoqian a wool scarf. Seeing that other people's gifts were so luxurious, she felt that everyone should see her special position in front of Chen Zuoqian, so she kissed Chen Zuoqian in public.

Chen Zuoqian is a man of 50 years old. He has never received a cheap higher education. Under the eyes of Kwai Kwai, he was embarrassed and angry, and scolded Song Lian on the spot. Song Lian felt ashamed and resentful, and ran out of the banquet living room with tears in his eyes.

Song Lian's life in the Chen family has gone downhill, even the servants can feel it.

Okay, this is the second part. This paper mainly tells the story of Song Lian's relationship with his three wives, from a blind confusion to a clear and true view that Chen Fu's wife is not what they saw with their own eyes, but another meaning hidden in it.

Maps are not real territory, eyes can deceive people, but as long as they are judged according to facts, they are basically the most real.

Song Lian's bad luck is not over. What happened to her hazy relationship with the waterfall? Has the relationship with Chen Zuoqian eased?

Next, let's talk about the content of the third part: the temptation with the waterfall-love is not a desperate attempt, but just a fallen wish box!

On the day of the swoop, I brought my good friend Master Gu to teach Song Lian how to play. The three of them discussed all kinds of oral sex, and Yuru sent someone to call Feipu away. Master Gu's little brother can't teach anymore, so he has to go.

Song Lian is like a mirror in her mind. She knows that Fei Pu treats her differently from others, but she still feels unreliable. The yard is full of rumors about the quarrel between Feipu and Yuru.

The next day, I met the waterfall in the garden. Song Lian pretended not to know the reason for their quarrel, and the waterfall was not found. The waterfall said: I am not afraid of jade shavings, but I am afraid of boredom and women. Women are really terrible! But you're not like them.

Song Lian felt that this sentence gave her at least comfort, like the winter sunshine with a little warmth.

On this day, Feifei said goodbye to Song Lian and asked her: If you leave and never come back, will you cry? Phipp's obvious temptation, how could Song Lian not know! Seeing Master Gu waiting for him, Song Lian was a little jealous.

Song Lian spoiled Chen Zuoqian, who came to visit her, and they relived their old dreams, but Song Lian inadvertently remembered the waterfall. Song Lian couldn't meet the special requirements put forward by Chen Zuoqian, and Chen Zuoqian slammed the door again, leaving Song Lian to cry alone.

Zhuo Yun was spoiled because she could meet Chen Zuoqian's requirements. Meishan didn't like it, so she asked someone to remember it, and Zhuo Yun broke it.

Yaner wrote Song Lian's name on the toilet paper. Song Lian forced her to eat dirty toilet paper, so she got sick, so the Chen family sent Ma Song to wait on Song Lian. Chat, talked about the declining of the Chen family, the death of the dead in the well, Song Lian dare not turn off the lights to sleep.

Song Lian remembered her birthday and asked Ma Song to buy food and drinks. Ma Song told Song Lian that Yaner died and kept calling your name when he died. Song Lian was drinking alone, and the waterfall came, and the atmosphere became ambiguous. Song Lian seduced the waterfall. The waterfall couldn't help thinking that "women are terrible", and he refused to praise Lian!

Song Lian, who was drunk by Yuru, told Chen Zuoqian's scandal and completely annoyed Chen Zuoqian.

Song Lian saw a dead goose coming to kill her. She waited quietly for death, but she didn't die.

Meishan dressed up beautifully, braved the heavy snow to have a tryst with the doctor, and was brought back by Zhuoyun in the afternoon. Song Lian is very concerned about what Chen Zuoqian will do with Meishan.

Song Lian heard Meishan's Peking Opera singing again, full of sadness and fate. In the early hours of the morning, seeing Meishan being thrown into the well, Song Lian let out a thrilling scream, and since then Song Lian has gone crazy!

The above is the third part. Without Chen Zuoqian's favor and Fei Pu's ruthless refusal, Song Lian could not see any hope. For love, she felt that she was not putting all her eggs in one basket like Meishan's, but that she was going to fall by her own wishful thinking.

The above is the whole content of the book wives and concubines. To sum up: Song Lian, a college student, married 50-year-old Chen Zuoqian as his fourth wife after his father died. When I first arrived in Chens Songlian, I met three ladies, Yaner and Philip. They are not what they seem. In fact, everyone has something dark, depraved or bravely pursued in their hearts.

Under the attack of various internal and external forces, Song Lian has nowhere to escape, especially at the end of the novel, the cowardice of the waterfall and the pleasure of Meishan's brave pursuit are stifled and become the last straw to crush Song Lian. Let Song Lian see no hope, all roads are blocked, and Song Lian can only collapse.

From Ode to Lian, we also see some beautiful qualities, such as simplicity, kindness, persistence in being respected, understood and pursuing beauty. For the Chen family, it will hinder the development of Song Lian, and ultimately harm Song Lian.

Whether men or women, whether intellectuals or not, should support themselves with their own strength, rather than relying on others, knowing that everything of others is also obtained through hard work. Song Lian in the novel can support herself with her own ability if she doesn't choose to get married.

Only by relying on oneself can people live a practical and real life, have the ability to support themselves, and have the courage to leave without losing themselves!