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What are the wedding customs in Xi'an?

There are

Six Rites

" in ancient weddings (

One is to accept, the other is to ask for names , three Najis, four Nazhengs, five application periods, and six wedding periods

)

Proposal

Marriage matters between men and women are arranged by matchmakers according to the orders of their parents. , thinking they are a good match, they exchange

Geng Tie

(age, birthday eight

Chinese characters)

Press the bottom of a clean tea cup in front of the statue of the God of Stove,

to test the divine will.

Abnormal

In case of abnormality, please ask a fortune teller

Arrange the eight characters

to see if the year and age are compatible and whether the zodiac signs are in conflict with each other. In the old days, some people

had a superstitious belief in the so-called big conflict in six years and a small conflict in three years; men marry at double ages and women do not marry at nineteen; they call it chicken or dog

(

Chicken and dog are at odds

)

, dragon and tiger

(

Dragon

Tiger fighting

)

, tiger and sheep

(

The sheep falls into the tiger’s mouth

)

, Snake and rat

(

Snake swallows rat

)

It is difficult to match, and marriage can only be discussed after it is considered to be thorough.

Engagement

Discuss the marriage before the engagement,

discuss the marriage first

“

Small gift

”

In the age of buying and selling and marriage, bargaining is common.

General

Four Magenta

Six magenta

” (

Silk

Four to six pieces of satin clothing

)

, two gold rings, one pair of gold earrings; betrothal gift, thirty-six small gifts, sixty-four medium gifts, and one hundred large gifts

Twenty

(

Silver coins

)

; food, number

“

Sixty-four

”

That is, Baotou

Yes, oil bag

Only, sesame cake

Just wait, there is still old wine

Dan

The burdens are not equal, so there are children

老久甏

say. After the engagement, the man carries the above-mentioned gifts to the woman in a box. The girl's return gifts

mostly include gold balls, oil bags and embroidery made by her daughter. Proof of engagement, given by the man

Notice

, commonly known as

Red and green paper

”

(two layers of paper

red on the outside and green on the inside

)

The woman sends

Approval,

commonly known as

“

文定

”

In the old days, when the husband and wife quarreled, my wife often said that I had it

“

Red and green writing paper

”

to restrain her husband. Following

Wen Ding

Then we will choose auspiciousness to marry, and we will pick it up at the date shop

Good day

”

day.

Relatives and friends give gifts, most of which are in cash at weddings, or wedding silk ribbons or wedding axes, with the words

A hundred years of good marriage, and five generations of prosperity

A match made in heaven

etc. Wedding gifts are mostly embroidered or silk

satin quilt tops, quilt tops or daily utensils. Some also give red dates, peanuts, longans, and lotus seeds as a gift.

Have a son early

”

meaning.

In the old days, there was a custom that matchmakers were not allowed to drink tea when they first entered the house.

It was said that

“

matchmakers do not drink tea

”

Said that drinking tea will dilute the marriage.

Also known as matchmaker

Matchmaker's cupboard

, if a matchmaker can eat

hundred meals

, he must be rewarded

Thank you for the matchmaker's wine

But after marriage, if there is discord between husband and wife or between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the matchmaker has

the responsibility of mediating .

Getting married

Please have a drink

The wedding day is called

“

A good day

”

. As the saying goes

Please have a drink and pay homage to your birthday

The groom will be holding a red paper

Notice

Invite elders

relatives and friends to a wedding banquet

(

Good Japanese wine

)

, elders should write

“

under their names Know the word "

. On a good day, there is a custom of waiting for a husband and waiting for a wife. The parents of both parents invite their children to eat steamed buns, clams, elbows, chestnuts, and lotus seeds to ask for money.

Five sons passed the exam

”

Lottery. Three to five days before the good day,

The man sends the woman off

Pan in front of the sedan chair

Generally geese

, meat

cubes, fish

Wait.

Look at the dowry

The man goes to the woman to move the dowry

(

Dowry

)

The woman places the dowry in the hall for people to watch, which is called "

Looking at the dowry

The utensils are draped in red threads, the clothes are scented with sandalwood, and several silver coins are placed at the bottom of the box, commonly known as

Press box money

”

. The dowry is moved to the groom's side and displayed

in the hall for people to view, also called "

viewing the dowry

The grandma takes the woman's key bag, takes the keys and opens the box, commonly known as

Taking out the box

The best man in bed

One day before the wedding, the man will

make the bed

by one person

全福

Women, take

pair of chopsticks Tie a red thread,

place it under the groom's mat,

call it

lay the bed

One to three nights before the wedding,

a little girl with both parents

(

a boy

)

Sleeping with the groom,

sleeping inside the bed,

called

“

best man

”

I will give this little guy steamed buns,

peanuts,

eggs,

apartment

Bao gave birth to a son

I wish,

wait

Good

Day

”

When you leave that morning, you have to give a red envelope, commonly known as

“

Take out the urine bottle

”

Open the face

The bride’s wife used five-color cotton yarn to twist the hair on the bride’s face. Commonly known as

Open face

" (

Contains modern beauty meaning

)

The guests are happy to eat

Open noodle soup and fruit

. As the sedan came to the door, the woman's family set off firecrackers to welcome the sedan, and immediately left the door open

Blocked the sedan door

Waiting to wait. Start after entering the red envelope

. The sedan must be parked with the sedan door facing outward. Someone from the girl's family will light a red candle and hold a mirror to look into the sedan to expel the evil spirits hiding in the sedan. This is called

. At noon at the girl's house, there is a main banquet wine, commonly known as

Open-face wine

, also called

Getting married wine

Getting into the sedan chair

Before the bride gets into the sedan chair,

The groom’s wife urged her to dress up three times,

pretending not to get married,

too lazy to dress up

(Of course there are also feudal marriages

Those who really don't want to), then sit on the mother's lap, and the mother feeds her daughter the rice in the sedan chair, which means not to forget the kindness of nurturing. There are

three unusual customs: first,

Crying on the sedan chair

. When the daughter gets on the sedan chair, the mother cries to see her off. The words she cries are mostly blessings and instructions, such as:

Nana, ah, nan, I have to carry you

Oh, it's making a noise! ??Go alone and come with the tide

! ""

Respect your parents-in-law and respect your blessings, and respect your husband for having food to eat

Waiting,

The bride was moved and said goodbye in tears. Second,

Hold the sedan chair

. The bride is carried into the sedan by her elder brother. After entering the sedan and sitting down, her buttocks should not move casually

to ensure safety and stability. Third,

Pour out the ashes of fire

. A fire pot burning charcoal and spices is placed under the bride's seat, and a mat is tied to the rear bars of the sedan, commonly known as "inside the sedan". Fire, the mat behind the sedan chair

”

. When getting up the sedan, the woman's family sets off firecrackers and sprinkles tea leaves and rice grains on the top of the sedan.

The bride's brothers accompany the sedan, which is called "

seeing off the sedan

. In urban areas, people carrying sedan chairs should go around Chitose Square or Sanfaqing

(

Place names

)

etc.,

To discuss

Chitose

Three shots

”

Lottery head. The brothers will return as soon as they arrive, and they should pack some fire ashes and light incense or cigarettes from the fire. When they return home, they should put them in the fire jar, commonly known as

Pouring fire ashes

, also known as

Catching fire

”

Worship

The sedan chair enters the door,

The groom’s family plays music and sets off firecrackers to welcome the sedan chair.

After the sedan stopped, the sedan door was removed.

A five or six-year-old girl dressed in makeup

(

commonly known as

Get out

The lady in the sedan chair

Welcome the bride out of the sedan chair, pull the bride's sleeves slightly with your hands. Get off and get out of the sedan chair. When the bride leaves the sedan chair, she first steps over a vermilion-lacquered wooden

made

horse saddle

, walking on a red carpet, stood on the right side of the wedding hall supported by Xiniang. At this time, when the groom heard that the sedan came in, he pretended to hide elsewhere.

He was invited by a small lady holding flowers and candles

(

Looking

)

Go back and stand on the left side. The layout of the wedding hall is the same as that in other places, but the worship ceremony is slightly different. There is a father-in-law, usually the groom's grandfather or uncle. The person giving the incense, the groom, and the bride all follow the praise and gestures. The praising person shouted: Let’s go to the temple to see the ceremony, and play

music

! (

Music begins

)

The person who gave the main blessing knelt down in front of the incense table. Everyone knelt down! First incense, second incense, third incense! Kowtow, kowtow again, kowtow three times! The praiser then went on to sing: Rise, level up, reset! Kneel down, everyone is fragile! Singing: Sheng, bye! Liang, bye! Liang, bye! Sings again: Kneel down, everyone

is crisp, read the blessing chapter! A 13-14-year-old boy knelt on the right side of the Buddha worship bench and finished reading

(

Read it by heart in advance and don’t read it wrong

)

. The praisers sang again

: Sheng, worship! Liang, bye! Liang, bye! The whole process is collectively called

Three kneels, nine kowtows, and six bows

. Finally, the praiser sang:

After the ceremony, leave the class and send it to the bridal chamber! In the meantime, when the bride and groom are worshiping in the hall, there is a custom of kneeling in the front. It is said that whoever kneels in front can control the latter. As a result, they kick the mat while worshiping, and the groom rises from his sleeves. A joke about refusing to worship.

After the complicated worship ceremony,

two young ladies held dragon and phoenix candles to guide the bride,

the groom led the bride into the bridal chamber holding colorful balls and silk ribbons.

The feet

must be walked on the sack,

usually

only,

There are also

sacks,

one passed by,

Xiniang and others passed it to The front is paved on the road,

meaning

carrying on the family line

Five generations meet

After entering the bridal chamber, men and women sit on the edge of the bed on the left and right sides, saying

Enthroned on the bed

by a person named Fushou Both sides

The woman lightly taps the bride's head with the scale beam, and then picks it off

Hijab

, means

satisfactory

, means

A square scarf, please

”

. The groom leaves as soon as he is seated

The bride changes her makeup and the guests eat

Changing soup and fruit

. Then, the bridegroom and bride performed

visiting ceremony

in order of relative and seniority

Kneel down to meet each other and say

See the big and small

. When worshiping, two large seats are placed in the hall. The couple who are being worshiped sit together. If one of them is deceased, they will also sit on the left and right of the man.

The other Empty.

Bi Bi gives a red envelope to the bride,

commonly known as

meeting money

The parents-in-law don’t need to pay for the red envelopes.

They call

“

daughter-in-law

the daughter-in-law’s own family

The bride bows when she meets her peers.

When the juniors meet her,

the bride also bows

Meet the money

”

After that,

hold

“

Waiting for the feast

”

The bride sat at the head of the table, and

women accompanied the banquet to persuade her to eat, but the bride was too many to actually eat. After the banquet, the bride accompanies the bride to the kitchen

Personal circumcision

There are customs such as fishing for vermicelli and touching loaches. , called the chef.

Helangjiu

On the night of worship, the husband’s family prepares a banquet called

“

Helangjiu

”

The bride must pour wine for the elders and guests table by table. The wine must be filled but not spilled. The wine is red, the dishes are many, and the music plays hundreds of birds and phoenixes, dragons and phoenixes. During the dinner, the bride

was serving hot dishes

(

changing the soup

)

Xi Niang shouted: The bride changes soup

(

Changes makeup

)

Let’s bow

After the banquet, the Xi family invited two blessed and virtuous guests

to the bridal chamber to greet the groom and bride

“

Three drinks are easy to drink

”

Etiquette, every time you drink wine

(

The newlyweds only take one sip

)

Exchange wine glasses. The host of the congratulations

must sing the words of congratulations at the same time, which are both playful and peaceful, such as: Congratulations to the groom on the first glass of wine. If there is any gossip, others may want to

listen to it. house. After the second glass of wine to congratulate the bridegroom, things are discussed secretly in the room, to be careful not to ask others to come.

(

Look

)

. The third glass of wine congratulates the groom and wishes the husband and wife to grow old together and have a son, the number one scholar, soon.

It is night, and there is a custom of noisy new houses. The proverb goes:

Three days without any trouble

. On the wedding day, the bride does not talk much to the guests. When there is a quarrel, she first teases the bride to speak and looks at the buttons on her clothes. Five buttons are said to be "five sons" Admitted to the examination

Looking at the condyle of his feet, he said he was looking at a longevity star. The commotion lasted until

midnight.

The groom then goes out to see off the guests, and the bride begins to lay out the bedding. The bride is immediately rewarded with a red envelope. If the bride thinks it is not enough, she pretends to stand still and waits for more to be added before going out. The bride closes the door, and the newlyweds eat the bedside fruit

The groom goes to bed, and the bride

sits on the candles

Do not blow out the candles, candles

Go to bed as soon as possible.

Also, you have to do your best during the day.

At night, you break open the door and jump out of the window to enter the new house and take away the groom's clothes.

The quarrel is successful.

Newcomers will be fined

candies and cigarette money.

After getting married

Returning home

When you get up the next day after getting married, the groom must open the door. On that day, the man prepared a sedan chair to invite his uncle. After receiving tea and refreshments, he retired to A-mei's new house to rest. At the luncheon, ask my uncle to sit at the head table and say

We will drink together

Don't use hairy crabs

(

My uncle jokingly called hairy crab

)

. After the banquet,

pick up the groom in a sedan chair and accompany the bride back to her parents' home,

calling

back home

”

Send with the sedan chair

“

Wang Niang Plate

”

A load.

A banquet at the parents-in-law’s house

“

The first-born son-in-law

”

Avoid using rock sugar turtles.

Returning from the banquet,

As soon as the bride comes out of the sedan door,

The noisy guests among the guests will be preceded by twenty or thirty benches from the front of the sedan chair.

The door of the new house is set up

Xianqiao

The groom is asked to support the bride

On the Bridge

The guests laughed and urged, if they walked steadily, they would be in the new house

In front of the door

Qiaotou

Pile another bench on top of the bench and hand an oil Bao, the bride is asked to bite the oiled bun and walk through it, euphemistically calling it "

Carp Jumping

Dragon Gate

. On the third day,

On the third day, he went to the kitchen, washed his hands and made soup

The bride cooked and cooked Distribute the sugar noodles to the neighbors.

Full Moon Chart

Newly married,

my parents-in-law’s family sent people to send a load of gifts,

called

Full Moon Disk

I also gave out some gift certificates,

with varying amounts,

It is commonly known as

花Laughing Ticket

" for the son-in-law's family to reward those who helped arrange the wedding.

In the old days, there was a great disparity between the rich and the poor.

The above are wealthy and middle-class families.

As for the poor people, they cut a double happiness character out of cardboard,

paste it

with gold paper, hang one on the wall, a pair of flowers and candles, and a crappy one. They took the sedan chair and went to the church to get married.

Nowadays, people in Xi’an hold weddings.

They have inherited some old customs from ancient times.

Of course, there are also many complicated things that have gradually evolved

Simplified. The "four kinds of etiquette" in Xi'an wedding customs are a etiquette that the elders of both men and women attach great importance to; whether you are

Finally; whether you are having a Chinese-style wedding or a Western-style wedding, these "four rituals" are an indispensable and important part of the wedding process

! If you give it well, your parents will be satisfied; if you give it poorly, your parents will be angry, and it will probably affect your future life.

One of the "Four Gifts": "Heart Meat"

As the saying goes, "Cut it with one knife, about six pounds, four ribs, three layers of streaks, and the skin." "This piece of meat is very particular and is called "heart meat". According to research, the average baby girl is about six pounds when she is born; these six pounds are dropped from the mother's body, and are naturally the mother's "heart and soul". It is not easy to raise her into an adult. , Nowadays, once he gets married, the new son-in-law must pay back these "six pounds" to his mother-in-law.

Therefore, when the groom buys meat

(

Wet market

)

, he must indicate that it is For the meat used in the "Four Gifts", choose fresh, ribbed, three-layered and with the skin on.

The second of the "Four Gifts": " Lotus root"

(

Also called lotus root

)

This kind of lotus root is not used for cooking, and its shape is also different. Two roots grow side by side, growing vigorously, with small branches growing from nodes, and branches regenerating branches, and the roots are intertwined. There are big and small ones, but there must be no breakage. This kind of lotus root has the meaning of "giving birth to children in succession", which means giving birth to five sons in succession. However, family planning is a basic national policy. This lotus root has the effect of "continuous sons". I have a new idea,

I even connect my son, and then I connect my grandson with a little help; I have no choice but to promote the old tradition of "preferring sons over daughters", but you

have to admit it : This idea is deeply ingrained in the minds of many people! It is difficult to change even for a while. Similarly, when you buy "Lotus root"

(

Lotus root

)

(

Wet market

)

It must be explained that it is for "giving four gifts".

The third of the "four gifts": cigarettes

The meaning of cigarettes is: taking "smoke" and "marriage", which means a happy marriage. It is best to buy two pieces to make a pair. Yes, for good luck

The fourth of the four gifts: wine

Wine: means "lasting forever"; it is best to buy two bottles. , come in pairs, seek good luck;

Marry the bride

The convoy to welcome the bride early in the morning is already waiting outside the door

(

Generally, the number of vehicles in the fleet to welcome the bride is an odd number and there is a beautifully decorated float

only waiting for the handsome groom and his entourage to get on the car

You can go straight to the bride’s house

The departure time is usually

6, 7

Click around

It’s early in the morning

You must set off firecrackers before setting off

Firstly, it is for good luck

Secondly, it means to inform the public

(

The wedding team has set off

)

. Let’s set off firecrackers at the door of the bride’s house

It means

(

The wedding team has arrived

At this time

The bride’s relatives and friends will keep the door closed

the second door will not be opened

Waiting for a share.

When the motorcade arrives at the door of the bride’s house, they set off firecrackers

and then start thinking of ways to open the door

Telling jokes

asking mother-in-law to open the door

giving a share

A mess

The door opened after a while

But the door to the bride’s room has not been opened yet

and she still has to go and say good things to the bridegroom

. It was so lively to fight

and call the door open. On the other side, a simple breakfast prepared by the bride’s house has already begun

the guests eating a few side dishes

drinking After a few sips of wine

we waited for the door to open and the bride to get on the float. Usually the bride is carried into the car by the groom

Of course, there are also people who walk into the car

In some places it is possible There is a saying that the bride’s feet never touch the ground from the time she leaves the house to the time she enters the door.

Here

The bride has been received

all that is left is to go home and enter.

The motorcade returned to the groom’s house

The excitement started

The sound of firecrackers was loud

People watching the excitement at the door were everywhere

Brides generally don’t get out of the car easily

They are important people

And they may be big people

500

blocks

, 1000

blocks. At this time, the groom’s friends

had already prepared

, and some of them blocked the door and refused to let in

There are playful smiling faces waiting to take off

the groom’s shoes

There are also people waiting to scatter fireworks. After the bride gets off the car

a small fire will be lit at the door

, and the bride will jump over it

(

Overdone

It means that life is prosperous

Girls nowadays are very smart

Wait until the popularity dwindles

Even no more popularity

Just jumped over

What's more

The groom hugged him directly. Until the bride sits on the bed in the new house

, OK,

the wedding is over.

Having trouble in the bridal chamber

The custom of making trouble in the bridal chamber to drive away evil spirits can be found in both the north and the south.

Before the newlyweds enter the bridal chamber,

in the middle and lower reaches of the Yangtze River,

the groom must sleep the night before

in the bridal chamber,

In advance, two girls were asked to hold red candles and take pictures of the new house;

Tianjin people asked the band to play music in the new house.

With

Seeking good luck.

After the newlyweds move into the house,

it is still very important to drive away the evil spirits in the house.

For example, in Dongzhang,

after entering the house, the groom should symbolically shoot an arrow at each of the four corners of the

room, or hold a single sword and shoot at each Make a virtual chop in the corner, and sing: "One chop to kill the monster, two chop to kill the monster, three chop to kill the monster

The ghost has a bad head, four chop to lose the god, leave quickly, smile and watch the unicorn send you off Come." A more common custom is to have a permanent lamp built into the new house. This is what the so-called "bridal chamber night of flowers and candles" means.

Some scholars have said that the custom of "listening to the bridal chamber" is actually a protective measure to prevent ghosts from entering the bridal chamber.

Nowadays, not only the family is happy to have a wedding ceremony, but also the relatives and friends who are having the wedding ceremony are also happy to take the opportunity to make a noise,

using All kinds of new tricks make the bride and groom dumbfounded.

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