Dominic Dale's Life Experience

Dale Carnegie was born on1888165438+1October 24th and died on1955165438+1October 60th, at the age of 67. He has been married twice in his life. His first wife was a French countess, 192 1 married him and divorced ten years later. His second wife, Yao Carnegie, married him on 1944. She is his disciple and heir to his career, and gave birth to a girl named Donna.

1On October 24th, Dale Carnegie was born in a small town near Maryville, Missouri. Father runs a small farm. My family is very poor, and I don't have enough to eat and wear. Because of malnutrition, little Carnegie is thin, but he has a pair of big ears that don't match his head.

Carnegie's elementary school has a romantic name called Rose Garden, but it is very simple, with only one classroom. He is not an obedient guy at school. He was almost expelled from school several times for being naughty.

His wide and big ears are the object of ridicule by his classmates. Once, a big boy named Sam White in the class had an argument with Carnegie. Carnegie said some very mean things. White was furious and threatened, "One day, I will cut off your big annoying ear." He was so scared that he didn't dare to sleep for several nights for fear of cutting off his ear after falling asleep for nothing.

After Carnegie became famous, he still didn't forget Sam White. He summed up a philosophy of life: "If you want others to be friendly to you, if you want to get along well with your colleagues and handle the relationship between superiors and subordinates, you must never touch the scars of others' hearts." "Carnegie also found that he was born with a melancholy character. He once confided to a friend: Trouble is with me all my life. I've been wondering where my worries come from. One day, when I was helping my mother pick cherry blossom seeds, I suddenly cried. Mother asked, "Why are you crying?" I cried and replied, "I'm afraid I'll be buried alive like this." "When I was a child, I was really afraid of many things: I was worried that it would be killed by thunder when it rained; When the years are bad, I worry about whether there will be food to satisfy my hunger in the future; Still worried about going to hell after death. When I get older, I'm even more paranoid: I don't know if my dress and manners will be teased by girls, and I'm worried that no girl will marry me. But then I found that 99% of the things that once worried me very much did not happen. "

A young man who has no self-confidence and is almost entangled in all kinds of inexplicable troubles will eventually become a psychological mentor who gives others self-confidence and makes people optimistic. You can imagine how much exercise it takes.

When Carnegie 16 years old, he had to do more work on his farm. Every morning, he goes to school by bike in the city. After school, I rode home in a hurry, milking the cows, pruning the trees and cleaning up the leftovers for the pigs ... At school, Carnegie, who was thin and pale, always wore a shabby and ill-fitting jacket and looked like a listless person. Once in math class, Carnegie was called to the blackboard by the teacher to answer questions. Hardly had he stepped onto the platform when he heard a burst of laughter behind him. Only after class did I understand why his classmates laughed at him. A troublemaker in the class sat behind him, stuck a rose in the crack of his broken jacket, and stuck a note beside it, which said, "I love you, Mr. Rhett Jack." In English, Rhett Jack is homophonic with a broken jacket. Carnegie is not feeling well. After returning home, he said to his mother, "My classmates always laugh at my rags, so I can't concentrate on class." Mom said, "Why don't you try to make them respect you because you worship you?" Don't be sad, I will definitely buy you a new suit this fall. "Carnegie was greatly influenced by his mother when he was a child. Mother is optimistic and indomitable by nature. A big flood, the flood rushed out of the river bank and all the crops on the farm were washed away. Father shouted in despair, "God, why do you always have a problem with me?" "When can I get out of trouble!" But my mother is calm. She hummed and packed up again. My mother has high hopes for Carnegie and has always encouraged him to study hard, hoping that he will become a missionary or a teacher in the future.

1904 Carnegie studied at Rensburg State Teachers College in Missouri after graduating from high school. By this time, the family had sold the farm and moved to the vicinity of the college. Carnegie can't afford the living expenses in the town, so he lives at home and goes to school by bike every day. He is one of the five or six students in the school who can't afford to live in a town. Although he got a full scholarship, he had to work around to make up for the lack of tuition.

Carnegie found the debates and speeches of the college very attractive, and the names of the winners were not only widely known, but also regarded as heroes of the college. This is the best chance for fame and success.

However, he has no talent for speaking, and he participated in the 12 competition, and he was defeated repeatedly. Thirty years later, when Carnegie talked about the failure of his first speech, he said in a half-joking tone: "Yes, although I didn't find an old-fashioned shotgun or anything similar to death, I did think about suicide at that time ... I realized that I was bad at that time ..." After the failure, Carnegie cheered up and challenged himself again.

1906, Dale Carnegie's speech entitled "Memories of Childhood" won the Lebedi Young Speaker Award. This was his first successful attempt, and this speech still exists in the school magazine of Fort Vallance State Teachers College. This victory had a great impact on his life.

In his later memories, he proudly said: "Although he failed 12 times, he finally won the debate. What motivates me more is that the male students I trained won the public speaking contest. Female students also won the first prize in the reading competition. From that day on, I knew what road I should take ... "1908, Carnegie was still poor, but it was a far cry from when he entered the normal college two years ago. He became a man of the hour in the hospital and caused a sensation in speech contests on various occasions. The teachers and students of the whole hospital looked at him with new eyes; But he was not satisfied with this. He began to go out of college and expand the influence of his speech.

His initial goal was to get a degree at school and return to his hometown school to teach after graduation. But in the year of graduation, he found that one of his classmates promoted correspondence courses for international correspondence schools during the summer vacation, and his weekly income was four times higher than his father's hard work. So, after graduating from 1908, he rushed to Denver, where the headquarters of the International Correspondence School is located, and applied for a job as a salesman. Later, he went to South Omaha to sell ham, soap and lard for Amor Company. Although his sales promotion work was very successful, in 19 1 1, he went to new york to study acting. A year later, he felt that he had no talent for acting, so he returned to the sales promotion industry and became a salesman of an automobile company.

But none of these jobs can reach his ideal. He is very distressed that his dream of writing novels in college has not come true and can't be a big deal. He thinks that he should lead a meaningful life, which is more important than making money. He is determined to write books by day and earn living by teaching at night. He wants to teach public speaking at night school, because he thinks he has been trained and experienced in public speaking in college. These trainings and experiences have swept away his cowardice and inferiority, given him the courage and confidence to communicate with others, and increased his ability to be a man. Therefore, he persuaded the president of the new york YMCA to allow him to open a public speaking class for business people in the evening. From then on, he began the career of adult education that he struggled for all his life.

Carnegie collected the most important and rich experience in his life in How to Win Friendship and Influence Others. This interesting and intelligent book will inspire you in your life, bravely overcome your weaknesses and inferiority, and boldly explore your new life path.

However, it is not smooth sailing now, and it will be in the future.

After serving 19 months, Dale Carnegie returned to his motherland and found that his career was not taken seriously. Young people in the 20th century, those with dreams and those waiting for their hearts to be opened, were trapped in the predicament of unemployment. The ranks of the unemployed grow day by day and year by year.

But who is Carnegie? Carnegie is not afraid of difficulties and difficulties! He rallied and finally achieved his "heyday" career. He holds up half the sky for adult education, psychologists and spiritual godfathers.

His second wife, Dorothy, is very supportive of his career, and their relationship has always been harmonious. At the age of 63, Dorothy gave birth to a baby girl named Donna Dale Carnegie, who is currently the chairman of Carnegie Training Company in the United States.