How do smart women handle extramarital affairs?

First, think clearly about the consequences of extramarital affairs. When you have an affair in your life, you may be secretly happy. But behind this joy, if you can't control yourself, you will make a mess of your life. Because extramarital affairs will make you dissatisfied with your current marital status and breed a lot of complaints about your family. More importantly, extramarital affairs are often fruitless, and the other party doesn't love you as much as you think. Extramarital love is only emotional comfort, not to mention taking responsibility for you. Once you ask for more, the other person may give up and give you endless disappointment. This vacillating mood will not make you feel at ease, and you can't be happy without peace of mind. So, think about the consequences first, and you will understand what to do next. Second, always live for yourself. If you want to handle this matter well, you must understand that you should always live for yourself, not for each other. Because the other party can never give you the world you want, let alone the long time you want. Li Shishi, a famous prostitute in Song Dynasty, became famous all over the world, not only because she was beautiful, but also because she had her own great wisdom. Even in a place like a brothel, she still lives a youthful life. The main reason is that she always lives for herself. Therefore, whether the emperor Song Huizong or the official Zhou Bangyan, she can become good lovers, confidants and friends with them. The main reason is that she belongs to herself, and even if the emperor wants her to be a princess, she won't stay away. Because she will always belong to herself. Therefore, even the emperor can't do anything about her. Third, try to turn this extramarital affair into friendship or affection. Smart women know that some people like themselves, often because the other person sees their appreciation in themselves. You have to understand that someone likes you, which is not only an affirmation to yourself, but also an ability to make the other person like you and promote their progress. If you have an affair with the other person because he likes you, it will often destroy the purest love between you, and this relationship will also deteriorate. So smart women know how to turn this feeling into friendship or affection, so as to keep this beautiful feeling down. Mr. Lin Yutang created such an image of Yao Mulan in his work "Clouds in Beijing". At first she liked Kong Lifu, but her mother disagreed and married her to Sunya. After the marriage, she knew all about Kong Lifu's hard pursuit and waiting. But her cleverness lies in that she married her sister to Kong Lifu, so that she can become bosom friends with Kong Lifu and become relatives with him at the same time. This not only saved Kong Lifu, but also escalated this extramarital affair. Most smart women know that extramarital affairs are often fruitless. They often know themselves through extramarital affairs, so as to improve themselves. At the same time, they also understand that to cherish this feeling, we must upgrade it into friendship or affection, so as to keep this relationship in their lives. How do smart women handle extramarital affairs? 2. I want to know the adverse effects of extramarital affairs. If you have an affair in your life, you may be secretly happy. But behind this joy, if you can't control yourself, you may make a mess of your life. Because extramarital affairs will make you dissatisfied with today's marital status, you can complain a lot about your family. More importantly, extramarital affairs are usually fruitless, and the other party loses as much love as you think. Extramarital affairs are only emotional comfort and are not responsible for you. Once you set too many rules, the other party will pull away and let you lose countless times. This indecisive mood is not easy to reassure you, and you can't be happy without it. Therefore, if you want to know the adverse effects first, you will know what to do next. Second, always be good to yourself. To solve this affair, you need to understand that you should always be good to yourself, not live for each other. Because the other party can't create the world you want, let alone the long-term you need. Li Shishi, a famous prostitute in Song Dynasty, is often famous at home and abroad. She is not only beautiful, but more importantly, she has her own straight flush. Even in a place like Yee Hong Yuan, she still lives her own fragrance. The key reason is that she is always good to herself. Therefore, whether it is Emperor Song Huizong or senior official Zhou Bangyan, she can be good lovers, bosom friends and basin friends with them. The key reason is that she belongs to herself. Even if the emperor wanted her to be a princess, she refused. Because she will always belong to herself. Therefore, even the emperor can't do anything about her. Third, diligently turn this extramarital affair into friendship or a woman with high emotional intelligence knows that some people love themselves, usually because the other party sees their appreciation in themselves. We should be clear about ourselves. Some people love themselves, that is, they have no doubt about themselves, and they should also be able to let each other's love promote their development. If you have an affair with each other because they have feelings for you, it will usually ruin the purest love between us, and this feeling will be moldy. Therefore, women with high emotional intelligence understand that diligence turns this emotion into friendship or true feelings, and then maintains this happy mood. Mr. Lin Yutang described such a brand image of Yao Mulan in the book "Clouds in Beijing". At first she loved Kong Lifu, but her mother disagreed and married her to Sunya. After marriage, she understood Kong Lifu's hard pursuit and waiting for perfection. But her cleverness lies in that she married her own sister to Kong Lifu, and then she became close to Kong Lifu, and she can also become a family with Kong Lifu. That not only attracted Kong Lifu, but also escalated this extramarital affair. Most women with high emotional intelligence understand that extramarital affairs usually end in failure. They usually know themselves clearly according to extramarital affairs and then improve themselves. In addition, they also made it clear that if we want to cherish this feeling, we should upgrade it into friendship or true feelings, and then leave this extramarital affair in our lives. How do smart women handle extramarital affairs? 1. Good reason. If money is not entangled, words are correct, friendship is not in arrears, and sexual desire is not dependent, goodbye after breaking up is also a friend. A smart woman can't be willful even if she accidentally walks out of the besieged city. You can either get divorced and start a new life. You can go back and make a beautiful turn from outside the besieged city. When breaking up with an extramarital lover, you should first find a reason to convince yourself, and then convince the other party. The other party is more willing to accept it. Second, the time is ripe. Don't pick them at night, especially during the full moon. The closer the moon is to the earth, the subtle changes will take place in the earth's magnetic field. The change of magnetic field is easy to affect people's mood, and emotional instability is easy to make irrational behavior. And don't mention it when the other person is happy. A pot of cold water, so poured down from the beginning-you can imagine the anger. Don't mention it when the other person is sad. Be careful that the other person can't stand doing stupid things. Third, the place is right. It's too fragmented and inappropriate. It is inappropriate to call heaven, and it is invalid to call land. If there is anything special, no one can come and help in time. Too busy place, not suitable. A man has a lot of face, and you offered to break up. Why is the other party embarrassed? He will think, how can I "fly"? I will take you to fly, too. Similar to making it public, it is even more unacceptable under strong self-esteem. Falling out is not good for anyone. Fourth, the way is clever, that is, it depends on who is speaking. Some people like to be straightforward, and your vague expression increases the sense of disgust; Some people like to be smooth. As long as you throw a decision, he will naturally resist. Breaking up is a deliberate decision. What is needed now is to achieve the purpose of breaking up. Some people like to pass the buck and just admit it's their own fault. Some people like to take responsibility, you can say what is inappropriate.