Don't judge others.

One thing I have learned is not to speak ill of others in front of close people.

In modern society, when we open the webpage, we can see many comments from women who worship money in love rat. Sometimes, it seems to give us an illusion, as if we are in a primitive jungle, full of terrible tigers and wild animals. These people are terrible beasts, eager to eat "kind" us.

And some discriminatory headlines, such as "She asked me to buy 3000 leather clothes just for dating" and "Green tea bitch tore it myself", are particularly eye-catching.

There is a saying in the Bible: Don't judge others.

I don't know what the life of these people who write stories online is like, but I feel from my own experience that there are really not as many bad people as you think.

Simply put, this sentence means not to judge a person's character or label him as a bad person.

For example, for example, I have a former colleague who obviously hates me. I told him that he never cooperated with his work, and it was the first time I met him at work. I really can't think of anything that offended him. Until one day, I ran into his mother near my home. His mother looked at me in disgust at that time. I remember that my colleague and I are both students in the same yard, but he is several years younger than me, and both his parents know my family. At that time I seemed to understand why he hated me. So, just because parents hate a person's personality?

One day, he called my husband and said he saw a kitten and asked me what to do, because I usually like small animals. He said he saw the cat in the morning, but he didn't care. He saw it in the afternoon. It's really unbearable. We drove to the place he said, and the kitten was really pitiful. She broke four legs and took her last breath. He said he would send it to the pet hospital and pay the fee. We sent it there, and the doctor was hospitalized immediately, but when he returned at night, he died because of his injuries. The doctor said he buried it in the grass nearby. So we stayed with the kitten at the last minute.

So how should everyone judge this person? Indeed, he hates me, and he still hates me now, because I can feel it, but I think it is still a little premature to judge a person's overall good.

Another colleague is a fellow villager with me, so when I first entered the company, I was very enthusiastic about my husband and me, but because of a small matter; Conclude that she has ulterior motives.

Although I have suffered from depression, I am good at it, just a little more convincing than the average person. I once played werewolf killing, and used my knowledge to persuade everyone to follow my choice, killing a good man just because I concluded that his tone was a little hesitant and nervous. My argument is that although he said a lot, but the content is not as real as micro-expression, the result proved that I was wrong and dragged everyone into the water. So this time, I still poured out my feelings, because my feelings are more subtle than the average person. As a result, my family believed me, and even my husband hated this female colleague.

As a result, we alienated our female colleague, but time proved that she was not a bad person, and I also lost a chance to get a friend with a long-term friendship. I deeply regret my hasty and quick judgment of a person's quality.

Now I understand why God wants us to love.

Many times, our judgment is wrong. Even in some cases, our judgment is right, but we are not mechanical. Besides reason, we still have feelings. Even if the other person is imperfect, we still have feelings for her.

For example, a girl complains to you, but a boy ignores him. Maybe you can simply talk about love rat and ignore him, thinking that everything can be solved, but she still has love in her heart. As I wrote before, no matter how bad a relationship is, it has its meaning. It is better to learn something than nothing. Girls just deleted boys, and what happened? Maybe, as I do now, I face the wall alone every day.

I once had a good friend, but I made the mistake that God told us not to judge. At that time, she had some radical views, because she would get angry when life was not going well, so I analyzed this relationship from a rational point of view. She is paranoid and unfit to get along with, which has a negative influence on me. She is a person full of negative energy. I unilaterally terminated our friendship.

It turns out that I was wrong. After I left her, I was not cheerful than before, but more lonely and depressed. I remember how happy we were when we talked together. In fact, she didn't care so much about other people's comments, just wanted to vent her emotions. She didn't hate others that much, but she was only defensive at that time. She wants to stick to her point of view and change the status quo. She might not be so excited. And sometimes she gets angry, all for me, afraid that I will get hurt.

I just feel how much she cares about me now, but it's too late.

I understand that no one is perfect. What about myself when I judge others? I am dark, taciturn, easily angry and sincere. Actually, I love skeptics more than she does. But she accepted all of me and never judged me.

I regret why I didn't study the Bible earlier, but it was too late.

I think of Lincoln, why he is so unwilling to criticize others with words. One officer's behavior at a time made him fly into a rage. He wrote a sharp and aggressive letter, then sat by the fire for a long time and threw it into the fire and burned it.

In fact, most of us are dualists, no one is extremely vicious, and no one is as perfect as the virgin Mary. It's too harsh for me to ask my friends with the virgin Mary. If I were in her environment, I might have done worse. In fact, now that I think about it, I actually caused her a lot of thoughts, but I was skeptical at first, and this emotion was also transmitted to her.

In fact, what you reap is what you planted.

The dissatisfaction and anger you see in others may just be a mirror that shines on yourself.

Many books about spiritual growth never simply attribute the reason why you met love rat, but teach you how to love.

I think learning to love others is also an eternal topic for me.