Always feel embarrassed in front of your classmates? How to overcome it?

Don’t be embarrassed, face it bravely! ! ! Having confidence does not necessarily mean you will win, but not having confidence will definitely lead to losing. We can neither be arrogant nor belittle ourselves in life. You should face life with confidence! When a person is in a difficult or embarrassing situation, he or she can sometimes use humor to avert danger and overcome difficulties; or humor can be used to indirectly express subconscious intentions, express ideas and deal with problems in innocuous situations. For example, there is a story: The wife of Socrates, the famous Western philosopher, had a very bad temper. One day, when Socrates was talking to a guest, the lady suddenly came in and cursed Socrates, and then poured a bucket of water on Socrates' head, making him wet all over. At this time, Socrates smiled and said to the person: "I have known for a long time that after the thunder, there will be a downpour." The originally embarrassing scene was reduced to a minor issue by Socrates' humor. It can be seen that humor is also a noble and mature psychological defense mechanism. Relevant experts from Yanyuan Bosi Psychological Counseling Center have divided psychological defense mechanisms into positive and negative functions through years of investigation and clinical practice. 1. Performance of positive effects: It has a relieving effect on extreme or aggressive behaviors; it can temporarily eliminate inner pain and uneasiness; it may lead to solutions to problems, etc. For example, sublimation can transform socially unacceptable motives or behaviors into acceptable motives or behaviors, allowing individuals to gain psychological satisfaction. Another example is that the compensatory effect can make people smarter, more alert, learn from each other's strengths, gain psychological satisfaction and alleviate certain frustrations. 2. Manifestation of negative effects: Psychological defense mechanisms cannot really solve real problems and often have a "self-deception" nature. It often only plays a negative role in allowing people to escape reality, sometimes complicating practical problems and aggravating psychological conflicts. When people encounter setbacks, they often feel unhappy, even painful and anxious. In order to prevent these unpleasant and painful emotions from suppressing and torturing yourself, especially for a long time, you must try to avoid or reduce the occurrence of anxiety. We call certain ways of coping with or adapting to frustrating situations that individuals learn in life practice as defense techniques. Just as the physiological activities of the human body have the ability to keep physiological and biochemical activities relatively stable and balanced, psychological activities also have the function of restoring and maintaining emotional balance and maintaining peace and stability. The psychological defense mechanism itself is not an abnormal or pathological psychology, but if it is used excessively or inappropriately and hinders the individual's adaptation to the surrounding social environment, it may lead to psychological abnormality. In short, the purpose of learning humor and establishing a psychological defense mechanism is to deal with the relationship between oneself and reality, so as to eliminate psychological frustration and seek inner peace. If you are not able to use your psychological defense mechanism well in real life, you cannot use humor to protect your "self". Or if your psychological defense mechanism has been seriously hindered in your daily life, then please go to professional psychological counseling (Yanyuan Bosi Psychological Counseling Center) in time and let the psychological counselor provide timely psychological counseling.