What do you think the reality is?

My college classmate Li Ge is a very warm-blooded person. He is full of energy in everything. So when he was in college, he not only served as the monitor, but also served as the president of the student union and the head of the society, which can be said to be a collection of glory.

At that time, we often drank together and always joked that if we made money in the future, don't forget to brother us. He also said half-heartedly that he would start his own company after graduation and strive to be bigger and stronger in five years, and then invited us to work with high salary.

At that time, he drank too much, always making fun of me, and often said to me, "Xiaowen, you are going to be a soldier in these two years, so take good exercise." When you come out, go to our company as the captain of the public security team and give you a monthly salary of over 10,000 yuan. "

Although we have never taken this seriously, we have no doubt about his idea and ability to start a business. After all, at that time, he did have this ability.

Then four years passed quickly, and many original good wishes turned into jokes under the test of time, such as my so-called captain of the security team.

However, Li Ge has never tried. After graduation, he and several people came to Shenzhen to start a business, rented a cheap farmhouse, and several people crowded into a 30-square-meter house, thus starting an e-commerce.

At first, everyone was in high spirits, but they were soon crushed by the economy in their hands. After persisting for half a year, I still can't see any hope and have to give up.

I heard that he tried other things later, such as selling fruits and shoes. But in the end they all ended up giving up. According to him, some things are not that they don't make money, but that they don't see the hope of the future and feel that it is not worth working hard.

So after four years of wandering, he is now working in an internet company.

Now let's have dinner and drink together. It's our turn to tease him: "Li Ge, life is very sad for me now. I have been thinking about my captain of the security team."

"It's too wronged for you to be the captain of the security team now. I'll hire you as my personal bodyguard and have a meal every month, okay?" After that, everyone began to laugh, and then he would add: "No way, the ideal lost to reality."

//0 1 //

I think there will be many such stories. When we were in the ivory tower, who didn't think about our brilliant future? However, after entering the society, we found that many things were different from what we thought, and our good wishes gradually became fragmented in these differences.

Then let's say * * *: Ideal lost to reality.

But when I think about it, I suddenly find that I can't describe what this reality is.

Ideals are nothing more than some good wishes and some illusions about a better future. So what is the reality? What did my good wishes fail to achieve?

I thought for a long time, but I didn't think clearly. But I'm not reconciled. I think if this reason can't be analyzed, won't it happen again in the future? Won't it still be defeated by this reality that we can't explain?

So I changed my mind. I think since I can't tell what reality is, I will directly analyze why my good wishes can't come true. If the ideal really loses to reality, isn't the reason for this loss what we call reality?

For example, I want to have six devil's abdominal muscles, which is actually not a big ideal, and I have achieved it, but now it is still six and six, and it has become a big piece of meat. But why is this?

Actually, I just didn't continue to exercise. Or don't have so much energy and time to exercise. So the reality is that we don't have that much time and energy?

For another example, I always wanted to practice writing, but I was always defeated and beaten. Today, there are still some copybooks on our bookshelf, but the handwriting remains the same. What is the reason?

In fact, it's because I didn't keep practicing, and the reason why I couldn't keep practicing was that I didn't see any effect. After ten days and a half every time, I still found that once I started taking notes, my handwriting was still restored. It seems that writing on copybooks is different from using different fonts in actual use.

I think this may be because I am too eager to see the results, so I have no confidence to practice, but in fact this situation is definitely impossible to get rid of immediately. After all, it's been more than ten years. How to correct your habits?

So I think the reason for this failure may be that I am eager to see the result, but I don't understand that the status quo can't be changed so easily. So the reality is, can't we get rid of the status quo right away?

//02 //

I think if we get every specific case, then there may be many reasons, and we can't solve the problem of what reality is at all. Or reality is a collection of countless factors, and it is impossible to make it clear.

But the latter conclusion didn't help me at all, so I think there must be * * * in these various reasons, even if it is not accurate at first, as long as it can help me solve the problem.

So the answer I can think of for the time being is: reality is exchange.

Anything you want, you have to take out what you have and exchange it for the same value.

The key point here is equivalent exchange. What you take out is not worth enough, so naturally you can't get the same thing.

It's like saying that I want to buy a villa of several hundred thousand in Shenzhen. I think anyone will find it funny. But isn't it just as ridiculous to practice good fonts with a few copybooks and a month?

This is not an equivalent exchange, so I can't get it at all.

I think this kind of equivalent exchange is easy to understand in the material world, because every commodity is clearly marked, so it is easy for us to judge. But when it comes to our spiritual world, it is very difficult. Because we can't price every capability, we often underestimate the cost of acquiring certain capabilities.

//03 //

For example, how much strength and time are you willing to bear when practicing devil's abdominal muscles? If you are not a professional, you may have no idea about it at all. You might think I can pay two hours a week. But this is obviously not enough.

And if you don't have the right method and intensity, you may not even practice for an hour every day. So I think, you see, all the costs of this kind of communication are not only your time, but also good methods. The former is born to us, while the latter can be exchanged with money or time.

So I think that many times our wishes have not come true, in fact, it is just that our bid is not enough. And we often say that the ideal is lost to reality, in fact, it is only a wrong estimate of the ideal price, which leads to the joke that you want to buy a Shenzhen villa with hundreds of thousands.

So in order to avoid this situation, when we want something, we can take out a piece of paper and write what we have on the left and what we want on the right to see if we have enough price to exchange.

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