What do you think is the reason why Qin Ying and Xiao Earthworm broke up in Ode to Joy 2?

There is a plot that exposes chastity in Ode to Joy 2. Qin Ying, the little earthworm's boyfriend, invited Sisei to dinner when he suddenly heard Qu Xiaoyu say that the little earthworm was not a "virgin", his face changed greatly and he left indifferently.

Part of the audience was very angry. They went to the garage with Qu Xiaoyu and beat Qin Ying up.

"What age, also take chastity to verify feelings, ignorance! Feudalism! Looking for tears! "

Qin Ying and another part of the audience didn't believe it. They feel that they have no chastity. If they dare to tear me, I will tear it back!

Sister Fan thinks tearing is bad for everyone. Obviously, this matter is a cognitive problem. Qin Ying is still young, and his views on marriage and love are not mature. His elders should intervene and do ideological work.

Qin Ying didn't buy Fan Dajie's intimate mode. He suggested that it was his attitude towards premarital sex, not his experience. Qin Ying's sentence that girls don't love themselves and don't know how to love each other left Sister Fan speechless.

Andy finally saw the core of the problem. She wrote an email to Qin Ying (using Andy's italic font in the email), which raised some questions that people avoided when arguing about chastity:

First, there is a kind of people who pay attention to moral integrity, only ask others, but do everything themselves. Throughout the ages, there are many hypocrites who have different opinions and must be despised.

Secondly, there is another kind of person who pays attention to moral integrity and is strict with self-discipline, and looks for a spouse on this condition. I think this is a kind of belief, I have no doubt about it and respect my choice.

Why do men have a virgin complex?

From one point of view, the difference between a hypocrite and a man who is strict with himself lies in: collecting multiple virgins VS marrying only one virgin.

Speaking of Qin Ying's concept of marriage and love, Qin Ying showed that he was not a rogue, because he fell in love with the little earthworm for the purpose of marriage, and he would not have sex with the little earthworm until the wedding day.

From the perspective of evolutionary psychology, the most effective way for a man to ensure that the child conceived by his wife is his own, not that of Lao Wang next door, is to ensure his wife's chastity.

If a wife's chastity belongs to her, then all the resources she gets outside will not be wasted on other people's children.

Explaining chastity in this simple and rude way is too purposeful for men and women to have sex after marriage. Should those Dink families change their minds?

The difference between human beings and animals is that in the process of socialization, human beings are not only driven by biological instinct, but also influenced and driven by social motives. Biological instinct has long been diluted by social motives, and it is everyone's growth environment that can affect people's choices.

Suppose a man grows up in a sexually repressed environment.

He asked his parents how they came. Mother was silent. Dad quipped, "Dad found mom in the back hill, and mom and dad invented you."

How was it invented? Asking is equal to asking in vain.

Only when I was a minor, when I wanted to be close to my mother, I was always accused by my father, and the accusation contained hatred.

Finally, one day, the man got a black shell with a red secret book inside. He opened a chapter of Genesis and found that Dad was not lying. Eve is a rib on dad. Only when he finds an organ that is not occupied by his father will this woman truly belong to him.

I thought you were one, but this morning's phenomenon shows that you may be two. If my guess is right, it means that my attitude towards you is wrong, and I apologize. You can ask for reasonable compensation.

Fourth, my mistake is taken for granted, because in today's world, the probability of meeting one is extremely high, while the probability of meeting two is close to zero. Of course, I'm not saying this for myself. Putting forward four is not denying three.

Obviously, these two articles talk about the same thing, that is, self-prejudice.

Personal experience+affirmation of the surrounding environment = self-prejudice.

We prefer to reject unfamiliar things and deny them. What is more serious is to give them a pathological name: "This person is XX cancer, this person is XX doctrine, and this person is XX mother ..."

Then we contentedly wait for the person defined by us to attack us and narcissistically appreciate our ability to distinguish.

Attributing anxiety and dissatisfaction with the unknown to others is like robbing others of their self-esteem.

Everyone has the limitations of his own vision, just like a frog in a well, lacking the experience of others.

Andy used to be biased against Bao Yifan and thought he was a playboy, but he didn't know that he might just have never met anyone who wanted to spend his life with him.

Singularity thinks Andy's intimacy barrier is too serious, but she doesn't know that it's only for people who don't love her.

When we thought you were one, but you were actually two, is there still three? The beginning of the apology shows that the relationship needs to go further. The kind of people we deny is often because we lack contact with them.

Five, because four, it can be inferred that you also made a mistake when contacting Xiaoqiu. You judge Xiaoqiu strictly by geographical proximity and attitude.

So you didn't confess at the beginning of your relationship, which led to Xiaoqiu's feelings and serious emotional injuries. Since it is your fault that Xiaoqiu feels hurt, you should apologize to Xiaoqiu.

6. Because the probability of meeting Er is close to zero, Xiaoqiu doesn't have to declare all his background at the beginning of contact with you. Before you announce that you are Er, Xiaoqiu can only treat you with a general attitude.

I believe that you are also hurt in this relationship, but Xiaoqiu doesn't have to apologize to you because she is not a fool. You accuse Xiaoqiu of not being the second, and even hide the fact that you are not the second. This behavior is logically wrong, so you should continue to apologize to Xiaoqiu.

Many people choose their familiar and preset emotional model, but they give up the person they liked because they are afraid of taking too many unknown risks in their feelings.

Andy pointed out Qin Ying's logical mistakes here, and carefully examined the traces of sophistry. The purpose is to strive for emotional redemption for small earthworms.

Recalling this story, Qin Ying said that Little Earthworm was the kind of girl in his dream, which showed that Qin Ying had his own standards for his partner. This standard includes asking the other person to be a virgin, but Qin Ying never talked to Little Earthworm about his standard. He just fantasized that Little Earthworm was a partner who met his standard, so Qin Ying was so disillusioned when he learned that Little Earthworm was not a virgin.

The little earthworm is not diligent because she thinks that love can change a person's standards, just as we set many requirements when looking for a partner, such as height, appearance, age, occupation, income and so on. For people who have no feelings, these things are more important than chastity. For those who have strong feelings, we will immediately slap ourselves and shout to the TM standard, and we will talk about it later.

Qin Ying and Xiao Earthworm had a fierce conflict on the issue of chastity. Both of them are people with solid thoughts. Although their positions are opposite, in fact, all roads lead to the same goal, and they all deserve a face.

It is understandable that audiences with opposite views are fighting. If one side accepts the other side's position, how can it love and kill each other in a lonely and snowy life?

If you are strict, you should have the same attitude towards others and yourself. Please refer to three and think carefully about five and six. If you deny five or six, you deny that you are two, and you belong to one. Then the above three, four, five and six are invalid.

8. Welcome to call and tell everyone. I don't supervise and I don't ask you to supervise.

Five, six, make a statement for me.

Nine, welcome to refute and supplement.

Andy didn't force Qu to answer the question of whether premarital chastity was important, and Fan didn't refuse to fight. She clearly knows that this is the relationship between Little Earthworm and Qin Ying, and it is not objective to judge others' feelings with her own experience.

Now, there is a disagreement between Qin Ying and Xiao Earthworm about premarital sex. Qin Ying ran away, but the little earthworm didn't want to give up this feeling. Therefore, the small earthworm is at a disadvantage for the time being, so it is better to turn initiative into passivity. Andy finally gave the initiative to Qin Ying, indicating that he didn't supervise or ask for it. Everything still needs Qin Ying to refute and supplement. Whether Qin Ying wants to continue his relationship with the little earthworm or not, he has gained great respect for his self-esteem.

Look carefully, Andy didn't mention the word "chastity" at the beginning of this email, but took the word "chastity" as a reference. That day, Qin Ying invited everyone to dinner, without giving money. This is obviously a question of upbringing, which is related to chastity. If Qin Ying doesn't come forward to give an answer and draw a full stop after reading this email, it can only show that he is also a love rat.

Qin Ying can punish the worm with his own fantasy, and the audience can also use his own fantasy to anger people who have different views with him. It's just that it's hard to be chaste, but it's pure, but you insist on taking the fall for chastity. Where did the moral integrity go at the critical moment? Is it broken all over the floor?