Why don’t you get a divorce if you are not happy? Because I am afraid of being discriminated against if you get divorced.

Why don’t you get a divorce if you’re not happy? Nowadays, many people will ask those who are in unhappy marriages. Many people may give various reasons. For the sake of the children, they do not want the children to lack the love of their father. This is one reason, but it is not the real reason. The real reason Yes

Afraid of being discriminated against for divorce

There is a very strange discriminatory idea about divorce in Chinese society. To me, divorce is not a shame for a person, but a shame for a family.

Most of a man’s divorce will not have much impact on his personal value. Some parents even advise their daughters to find a man who has been married once and has been trained by his ex-wife. It’s almost done, I know how it hurts.

But divorced women are different. They are second-hand and worthless, and get a lot of insulting comments.

Divorced women are like that. It is even more troublesome to have children. Women love their children more if they take better care of them. It will be difficult to find children if they follow the woman. Therefore, when faced with the situation of divorce, many women, including their families and parents, are divorced. What are you going to do next? Just bear with it for now, and it will be fine when the child grows up.

In feudal society, a man could divorce his wife, but a woman could only be divorced. A divorced woman had very low status when she returned to her natal family. Like the story of the peacock flying southeast, the original relationship between Jiao Zhongqing and Liu Lanzhi was Very good, because Liu Lanzhi's mother-in-law looked down upon her, so Jiao Zhongqing had no choice but to take Liu Lanzhi home. Originally, he was waiting for it to ease up after a while, so they took him back in person. But his brother was very angry when he found out about it, and there was something wrong at home. The divorced woman was so embarrassed that she decided to marry her off. In order to fulfill their vows, Liu Lanzhi had no choice but to throw herself into the river and die. Her ex-husband Jiao Zhongqing hung himself from a branch in the southeast. It was a human tragedy, and the peacock flew southeast like this. was born,

Feudal society not only discriminated against divorce, even if your husband died and you remarried, it was regarded as a sign of unruly women. In Huizhou, Anhui Province in the south, there are large chastity cards for widowed women, Dream of Red Mansions In the story, Li Wan is obviously a very energetic person with a high level of education and fashionable clothes. However, after her husband died, she could only suppress herself into a living dead, and Xue Baochai and Baoyu were married. After getting married, Jia Baoyu knew that he didn't like him. Later, Baoyu disappeared, so he couldn't file for divorce and had to remain a widow because it was the face of the family.

In order to prevent her husband from cultivating herself, ancient women could endure anything. In Dream of Red Mansions, Mrs. He accepted it in his heart, licked his face, and discussed countermeasures with his daughter-in-law Wang Xifeng. He took the risk to talk to Jia Mu's important people, and how lowly he would be in order to save the marriage.

Some people say that there is no such thing in society now. Yes, there was news a few years ago. There was a pregnant woman in Jiamusi. Because she was not a virgin when she married her husband, her husband was resentful, and she still She was pregnant, and she helped her husband go out to find a nurse to play with at home. However, the little girl resisted and helped her husband kill the little nurse.

Although it is an extreme case, with such social atmosphere and public opinion, women are full of fear of losing their marriage. In reality, some threaten their husbands with suicide, and some turn a blind eye when their husbands cheat on them. There are so many people jumping off buildings with their children, even intellectuals cannot avoid it.

In the name of the people, Gao Yuliang, deputy secretary of the Provincial Party Committee, and his wife, one is a provincial cadre and the other is a professor. As a result, Gao Yuliang Wu Huifen had an affair and had children. She was forced to divorce, but she insisted on maintaining the semblance of a husband-and-wife relationship, fearing that others would make fun of her.

Therefore, society’s discrimination against female divorcees makes women’s marriages obviously not good. I don’t dare to let go of happiness easily,