Why don't children cry so much now that many old people are gone?

This is a very common phenomenon today. Perhaps people nowadays look down on family ties and are numb to life and death. In the past, if someone's old man died, not only his children, but also the younger generation of the gang would burst into tears. Even if there are no tears, I will cry loudly. Children wear dutiful sons in front of the coffin, and their hats and hoops cover almost all their eyes, kneeling in front of their parents' coffin and crying. It feels very sad! But now, in front of the old man's spirit, the crying he saw has been replaced by a mobile phone.

An old man lived to be 82 years old. Three sons and three daughters, a good life. According to the old people, the old man is an old pimple born by his father and a little woman. He has studied reading since he was a child. I know nothing about life in the fields at home in the countryside. /kloc-When he was 0/2 years old, his parents found him a girl six years older than her and became his wife. After the daughter-in-law entered the door, all housework became the daughter-in-law's job. Many idle people were crying when the old man reported to the temple to see him off at night after his death. The three daughters cried step by step and talked step by step. The eldest daughter cried a few times and exhausted her father. When I arrived at my third daughter-in-law, I replied that I could cry about anything, but I couldn't cry myself to death except playing cards, playing chess, playing birds, walking dogs and keeping cats. The old man was alive. The master who can't even get up after pouring the sesame oil bottle is still exhausted. I think he is lazy. The conversation between aunts makes all the sad people happy. From then on, until the funeral, no one shed tears. My sons are afraid of being laughed at, so they have to complain-dad ...

Now, an old man has passed away and is terminally ill. It is common to be hospitalized, but he spent a lot of money but failed to save his life. When I die, I'm tired of grinding my children. Children feel that the death of the old man is a relief! Therefore, children will not cry, even if they do, they will show it to others.

I'm Jiangzhou Sisai, and I'll answer.

My mother-in-law died in April this year. On the day of burial, my sisters didn't cry much, which really aroused the suspicion of older people.

When the old lady was over seventy, she questioned her sisters.

"Why don't you cry? Aren't you your own? "

Sister-in-law immediately went over,

"We are all creatures. When my mother was alive, all our brothers and sisters were filial to her. My mother needs food and clothing. Now that she is dead, she should be given a shroud, a coffin or something. She should rest in peace. "

"Besides, how can you cry when you are alive and filial?"

After a few words, Aunt Crow was speechless, and all the relatives and friends around her gave us thumbs up!

Yes, being alive and being filial is enough. What does it matter if you cry when you are dead?

Mother-in-law 20 13 suffered from stroke due to hypertension, leaving hemiplegia sequelae. She has been ill in bed for 78 years, and her brothers and sisters have taken good care of her. In her spare time, she either comes here or goes there to buy food, and that one comes to help her bathe, cut her hair and chat with her, day after day, year after year.

As we all know, it is really unpleasant to serve the elderly who are sick in bed. Fortunately, now that everything is over, there is no need to mention it again.

Anyway, the neighbors said that your mother really burned the mast incense and married two good daughters-in-law and sisters. The old woman was blessed.

These words are enough.

What does it matter if my mother-in-law is gone? Crying is for others to see, and the taste is what we feel.

Besides, now that the conditions are good, the old man is alive, enjoying life and not suffering. It really doesn't matter whether the child cries after death.

Two years ago, I was still wondering why the old man doesn't cry so much now that he has left his children. Let's see, scratching my head and scratching my head. I can't figure out why there are no tears when I was a child in such a sad thing as losing my loved ones.

Although I had this doubt, I didn't understand it until my grandmother died. I carefully observed the whole process of the death ceremony at that time. I really understand that children don't cry when their loved ones die, which is mainly influenced by these aspects:

1. With the advent of the Internet era, short videos are hot, exclaiming! I even brushed a video at the ceremony of the death of my loved one. I watched my uncles and aunts brush videos. At that moment, I felt sorry for grandma.

Many people will not or dare not shed tears in public, but silently shed tears at night. When grandma died, my parents didn't shed a tear. At that time, I was full of doubts. Are my parents a heartless person? Why didn't they feel sad when grandma died?

Until the first night after burial, I got up in the middle of the night to go to the toilet and heard my parents sobbing in the next room. I heard their conversation through the concierge. My mother comforted my father and said, "When she is old, let her leave peacefully. If you cry your body out, she will be more worried. She will worry that you can't take care of our children. The old woman has been worried all her life. Maybe leaving is the best care for her. Don't. Hearing this, my tears came crashing down. Mom and dad are not unfilial or heartless, but they just don't cry in the middle of the night in public. ...

Old people may have experienced many diseases. In this process, the children shed so many tears for the elderly, until the moment their loved ones passed away, the tears had already dried up, their eyes were all out of control, and they were only immersed in all kinds of grief.

Times have changed, and old ideas no longer exist. Now people think:

Filial piety is more important than crying when you die.

Those who cry again will never come back.

People are conscious for a period of time after death. If many relatives are crying, the old man will be very painful to hear and can't leave with peace of mind.

When the elderly die, their children's sadness is not so great, because the children of the elderly have basically entered old age, and the eyes of the elderly should be able to take death less seriously, which is also related to the current thinking of the times.

I used to think that death was a particularly sad thing, but now I don't think so. I also think that today's children are no longer so sad about the death of their elderly parents, perhaps because they feel that their parents' old age is inconvenient, and it is also a relief from the pain of life when they reach the terminal. Death is unbearable.

When an 83-year-old man dies, he dies, and his children are old. Maybe he will think he is too old. If he is in poor health and miserable, he might as well die easily.

The most valuable age of a person's life has passed. When I was in my 80 s, I was in good health and could take care of myself, but I could also live comfortably. If he is ill, all his older children are waiting hard, some are old and live a long life, and the children are in front. This is also a kind of sadness.

People nowadays may be more optimistic about life and death than before! An uncle Murakami was only in his sixties and died of a sudden illness. On the way to the funeral, his two sons, the eldest son, cried several times, and the second son, who was about forty, did not cry. Who can say anything about it?

Life is full of plants and trees. In fact, people are dead, and it is useless for living relatives to cry again. I think it's a bit foolish to cry loudly. Of course, I mean old age.

If it is the grief of the white-haired people to send the black-haired people, it is very sad, because it is a pity that young people still have too many unfinished tasks, but they die young before they die, and there are heroes who serve the people and the country. What is really sad is that their lives come to an abrupt end.

It seems that the death of an old man is not too sad in the old customs. After all, when he is old, his life will be over. At this time, his death is already a double relief for himself and his children!

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Times are different, and children express their sadness and disappointment in different ways. I used to cry in wailing, but now I cry in my heart.

The author said a lot about this. I attended the funerals of many comrades-in-arms and classmates' parents, and many of them didn't shed a tear, and they didn't look sad or painful. I don't understand this either. I really can't accept the fact that my parents died and my children were not sad. People's hearts are full of meat, but those are your beloved parents, who raised you from childhood and hurt you! How can you not be sad? No more kissing and shouting "Mom and Dad". What a painful thing it is. Even if I control myself, I still can't help crying!

It's good not to cry. I've seen everyone talking and laughing. My sister-in-law's father died, and the old man had a hard life. He raised seven daughters and/kloc-0 sons. In the county town in the 1990s, when the old man died, he put it in his yard. There was no funeral parlour, and the bungalows basically had yards.

After my sister got married, she lived not far from her sister-in-law's home. After she learned the news, she went to her sister-in-law's family first, thinking that when her sister-in-law came home from Harbin, she would give her a hand and comfort her when she was sad and crying. But who knows, after my sister-in-law came home, she went into the house to chat with her sisters without even looking at her father who was parked in the yard. This scene surprised my sister and made her dumbfounded. More interestingly, on the day of the funeral, the old man was just buried in the morning. After busy at noon, my son and several sons-in-law ran to the restaurant, ordered dining tables and pushed a cup for a change. Many years later, my sister often mentioned that scene, and my brother and sister always told it as a joke.

Meng Jiao: "Making clothes for her wayward son's body, she sewed them carefully and repaired them thoroughly;" However, how much love has an inch of grass, and it is rewarded with three spring rays. "Our parents are deep in the ocean, and we can't repay them all our lives. Imagine how sad our parents would be if we left ourselves. Why do children never cry when their parents leave?

My wife and I have also discussed this issue many times. I also experienced it personally when my mother-in-law's parents died. None of my five children cried, which made me puzzled and disdainful. According to my personal analysis and judgment, the reasons why the old man died and the children didn't cry much may be as follows:

First, there are many children, parents don't favor any one too much, and their feelings are not deep. In the past, basically every family had many children. In addition, it is difficult for parents to raise their children because of material poverty. It's good to eat and wear warm clothes. Parents are willing but can't, and no child feels loved by his parents. In addition, people in the past were not as good at expressing their feelings to their children as modern parents. Therefore, the feelings of children and parents are not very exposed and lack of emotional communication. So when their children grow up, their emotional self-control is relatively high.

Second, parents stay in bed for a long time and are psychologically prepared. There is no dutiful son in front of the hospital bed for a long time, and some parents have been ill for many years. As the old man grows up in bed, he is psychologically prepared for the old man's departure. So when the old man really leaves, the children will feel that they have done their filial piety in recent years, without too many regrets, and their hearts will not be so difficult. Even so, I have met many children who are still crying, which may be related to their parents' role models and family style!

Third, the family is not harmonious, the affection is indifferent, the parent-child relationship is not harmonious, and the relationship between brothers and sisters is tense. In some families, parents do not set a good example and lack education for their children. Because brothers and sisters support the elderly and compete for family property, there are many contradictions and even enemies.

Fourth, the child has a strong heart and emotional rationality. In fact, this is also the reason why I really can't find a reason other than the above two points. Everyone has different personality characteristics. Some people may be naturally emotional and rational, and will not express their feelings by crying. The so-called emotions are invisible. This is also a far-fetched reason For an emotional person like me, I can't do it anyway and I don't cry. I really admire the strength of those people. September 19 this year is the tenth anniversary of my father's death. My brother and I went to the cemetery to pay homage to my father on behalf of my sister who was away from home. My mother has left us for four years this year. Now when I think of my mother, my eyes can't help but get wet and I miss my parents in heaven.

"Children want to raise and not kiss", parents have only one fate, and no one will meet them in the afterlife. Cherish the days with your parents. "Filial piety comes first" and filial piety to parents is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. "Filial piety" is also an ancient family motto handed down from ancient times. It is our spiritual blood and the bond that maintains the family relationship of the Chinese nation.

The pressure of social competition is too great, especially in today's society, when the wheel of history is rolling forward, how can we not cry? After my father died, I went to work after finishing my work, and new things supplemented my heart. After a short rest, I will remember that the old man has only been gone for a few days and everything is back to normal. A person's heart has been divided into 18 petals, and father and mother may occupy one of them. May God understand that 2 1 century has turned the world into a global village, so people are changing, and crying or not crying is like' thick makeup is always appropriate', without losing elegance. The important thing is to cherish everything around you, don't care too much about gains and losses, no matter who leaves, they will soon forget.

In the past, when the old man died, his relatives and children cried bitterly, telling the grief and sadness of losing their loved ones, Lacrimosa.

Times are different now. Young people express their sadness in different ways. I'm sad, I'm crying.

When her parents-in-law died, the child's father didn't cry. Tears are a sign of incompetence to him, and crying can't change the fact. It is expressed through actions.

83 years old, it's good to live to this age. To tell the truth, living too long is not necessarily a blessing. I remember that old people often complain about why they don't die, because in the past, although the conditions were poor and there were many children, they were easy to shirk each other, so old people were often ignored and no one cared to understand their helplessness. Even now, very old people are mentally isolated, even at any time in the future.

People in their eighties are in a state of extreme aging, and death is also a relief for them. Sometimes, people's reaction to sadness is calm, and not crying does not mean that future generations are indifferent to their deceased relatives.

Almost all people will have a painful struggle before they say goodbye to their lives. This process is also a painful torment for their living relatives. Some are even exhausted for years, and the old people are miserable and miserable. When the old man's life ended, everyone breathed a sigh of relief. Don't cry, I tried my best to be calm.

Everyone expresses their feelings in different ways. Some people have high tears, while others have low tears, so it is unnecessary to pay special attention to crying. The dead can't hear you anyway, but they are crying to the living.

In the past, the old man was the pillar of the family, and there were many children at home. Parents make decisions on big and small issues. Therefore, when children grow up, filial piety is the first, and gratitude is the main position in children's hearts. The children were very sad when the old man left. Knowing how hard their parents' lives were, they cried. Today's society is different from the past. Parents generally spoil their children, and they don't feel any pressure in life when they are adults. What they want is too easy. They hope that what their parents need to do for them can be obtained immediately, and there are many little emperors, little gentlemen, little princesses and big ladies. There is naturally less gratitude, thinking that parents should pay for them. When the old people leave, they feel less sad and cry less. For reference only!