A truly powerful person has learned to "blend in"

I saw this sentence in a circle of friends yesterday: "What can I do at home every day?"

I don't know when "home" became a good thing. A person will be in a good mood as long as he stays at home quietly and doesn't associate with anyone.

Many people think that being alone is a sign that a person becomes stronger, and being alone is the happiest thing.

In fact, everything is excessive, which is a disaster. Excessive pursuit of "unsociable" is cool on the surface, but it is actually an escape from reality.

When I was in junior high school, the Chinese teacher told a joke: a lazy boy stayed at home every day and didn't want to go out. His parents fed him when he was eating. If his parents don't feed him, he would rather starve.

Once, parents went to a distant relative's house for a wedding banquet, fearing that the boy would starve to death, and specially made a big kitchen cake and put it on the boy's bedside, and divided it into many portions.

A few days later, when his parents came back, they found that the boy was starving, because the boy only ate the kitchen cake he could get and didn't eat anything else, because he was too lazy to stand up.

From a certain point of view, otaku is probably equal to lazy people: too lazy to go out, too lazy to contact with others, too lazy to find a job, too lazy to talk, too lazy to look at other people's faces. ......

If you are a homesick person, you really need to reflect on what you have achieved over the years. Are you really happy? Have you really found yourself? Is it really getting stronger?

If you observe carefully, you will find that the really powerful people have learned to "fit in", are good at communication and make good use of their personal resources.

02

Joining the right group makes it easier to meet noble people.

A Lang, an old classmate, opened a gourmet shop, but there were few customers. On the opening day, A Lang wanted to invite relatives and friends, but when he turned on his mobile phone, he found that he often contacted less than ten people. A Lang summoned up the courage to make a phone call, and three or four people came one after another.

After the opening of the gourmet restaurant, A Lang always stays alone in the small office and rarely communicates with customers. Therefore, there are few repeat customers in A Lang's gourmet shops.

Really smart people, no matter what store they open, will take the initiative to communicate with customers and retain a large number of regular customers. Through the introduction of old customers, a number of new customers will come. After a long time, there will be more customers and the business of the store will be good.

Learn to join the right group, and you will find more people will help you.

Everyone wants to go out and meet a noble person, but it is possible to meet a noble person. In other words, you know a hundred people, maybe only one or twenty people often associate with you, and one or two people can help you.

When you enter the society and meet the help of distinguished people, your life will be easier and you will become stronger and stronger.

Therefore, it is wise to join the right group. It doesn't matter if you join an inappropriate group. Just quit quietly. Don't blame others, and don't wronged yourself.

03

You are smart to approach valuable people actively.

People in this life, you can do "everything Dont Ask For Help"?

You really can't do it, Dont Ask For Help. Even ordinary people have to have water to eat, a house to live in and a certain income if they want to live. If you don't want to ask for help, who will offer you the money? There is no pie in the sky, really.

A really smart person will try to borrow the strength of others and achieve a better self. After all, it is more labor-saving to use strength.

Twenty years ago, my uncle bought a cargo ship, but he didn't know how to operate it. So, my second uncle specially brought a few bottles of wine and went to the next village to find a man named Lao Meng.

Lao Meng used to work in a machinery factory in the county. He was familiar with cars and boats and had sailing experience. Later, the machinery factory closed down, and Lao Meng went back to his hometown to farm.

With the help of Lao Meng, my uncle quickly learned to sail and repair diesel engines.

Now my second uncle often says, "If it weren't for Lao Meng's help, I would still be poor."

My second uncle relied on a cargo ship, which not only supported the whole family, but also saved hundreds of thousands. Now, my second uncle is over 60 years old and can enjoy retirement at home.

In fact, no matter how powerful a person is, he will never be the most powerful person in the world. There's always someone better than you.

"Begging with the cheek", although it looks ugly, may be ridiculed and judged by people, but once you bow your head, you can look up and be a man in the future. Why not?

As the saying goes, "shameless people are invincible in the world." You always care about your own face and don't look at other people's faces, so you will always be alone and you won't succeed. Only by putting down face and actively interacting with valuable people can we take advantage of the value of others.

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A truly powerful person is gregarious and free.

Tagore said: "Loneliness is the carnival of a group of people, and carnival is the loneliness of one person."

Many people interpret the above sentence as: a group of people together is a mob and lonely; A person's life is truly happy.

In fact, we can't simply understand this sentence literally, but we should understand the "deep meaning" of this sentence. In other words, if a person joins an inappropriate group, he will feel lonely in the group, and when he sees people around him, he will have a feeling of wanting to escape; If a person gets rid of inappropriate groups, there will be a sense of happiness of "relief", even if he is a person, he is happy.

People are divided into groups. You should abandon useless social interaction, and at the same time actively associate with people with positive energy and find like-minded people.

For example, if you want to exercise, you will be with fitness experts, who will give you a lot of help, and you will also find the direction and happiness of fitness.

Best friends not only use each other, but also influence each other. Don't refuse to help others, don't refuse to help others, and don't deliberately create an image of "unsociable".

When more and more people around you are willing to help you, you will succeed in whatever you do.

Author: coarse grains in cloth.

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