After my mother gave me 200 thousand dowry, why don't I want to go back to my mother's house anymore?

Du Fu said in Military Vehicle Shop: We know that it is unlucky to have a son, but it is much better to have a daughter. ..

Of course, this is an accusation of belligerence at that time, but now many parents really feel that having a daughter is a very good choice from the bottom of their hearts.

Because in marriage and love, the cost of a man marrying a wife is getting higher and higher, and the parents whose debts have been transferred are miserable, and they can't help but sigh "having a good daughter."

Some people really think it's good to have a daughter, because girls are more delicate, caring and caring.

"Daughters are parents' little cotton-padded jackets", an old saying summed up from life, still has some truth.

However, some parents don't think so. The old idea of son preference made them try their best to have a son.

Ada, a childhood playmate who is less than 30 years old, has given birth to four daughters in succession in order to give birth to a son, which is far from giving up when his son is born.

In Ada, I saw the shadow of the older generation.

My uncle gave birth to three daughters in succession before giving birth to a child.

As a result, life at home has also fallen to the bottom, often hungry and full. My uncle is a person who doesn't like labor, and life is really ordinary.

Today, all three daughters are married far away, and they bring a lot of things to their uncles and aunts every time they go home, while the youngest son drops out of junior high school and now works as an electric welder.

In order to buy a house in the city, the little cousin cleaned up his parents. Now I live in the city with my daughter-in-law and seldom go back to the village.

At the beginning, I worked hard to give birth to my son. Now it looks no different from my daughter. To tell the difference, it may be that the son spent a lot of money on his wife and house.

In fact, the pain of son preference is not limited to parents, but also an indelible pain for daughters.

Lu is an elegant girl with outstanding appearance. In recent years, she has only a high school education, thanks to a Zhang Jun face.

Some people around praised her for her ability and ability, and lived a colorful life in big cities with a high school diploma that could not be on the table. It's useless for others to laugh at her as a vase.

But only she knows that since she was a child, she has to rely on herself, and her parents are unreliable, let alone others.

When he was in high school, Lu was still young and simple. He wore a loose school uniform and no makeup. He simply can't see that this man will be a handsome man in the future.

Others think learning is difficult, but Bai Luqing thinks learning is a rare leisure time. On weekends or holidays, Lu either works in the fields or is on his way to the fields.

A girl who is rustic and tanned will not look good to her classmates.

I did well in the college entrance examination. In that county middle school where only more than 20 people in a school can attend undergraduate courses, she successfully went to the second grade.

In this mountain where college students have been inseparable for several years, the news that Lu was admitted to the university became the talk of the villagers after dinner.

But her parents refused to pay for her college.

On the one hand, the family is really poor, on the other hand, I feel that girls will get married after all, and it is useless to read too many books.

"After a woman gets married, she has a husband. Why bother? "

This is what her father said to her.

After that, Lu's younger brother studied for two years to make up lessons, and finally failed to enter the university.

In this regard, parents and younger brothers are somewhat indifferent or even disgusted with each other.

Lu put the college admission notice in the bound book she has always been willing to use, and went to find her uncle who worked in a distant place alone.

She wants to earn money and spend it herself. If she has another chance, she wants to go to college.

Walking out of the narrow sky where he has been living and breathing the hot and humid air in the south, Lu realized that the word "sitting on a well and watching the sky" was tailor-made for himself.

I submitted a lot of resumes, one after another, just like a mud cow in the sea. No news. Originally, I wanted to be a civil servant and finally had to do the lowest threshold sales job.

Life always inadvertently shows you a way out when you are cornered.

I didn't expect to get into the sales industry by mistake, but I helped her.

With more contacts and more people watching, Lu gradually changed from a big girl with a local flavor to a modern girl walking in the city with a fragrant wind.

Lu had a dream since he was a child, that is, to have a nest of his own, not to live with his parents, not to be neighbors with his brothers, a place where he could cry and laugh.

Lu has a nickname "Tuoxiao". She hates this name, so she never mentioned it to anyone. She hates being called.

She doesn't want to brand her parents "son preference" and let others find out.

In recent years, my parents have never had a warm heart outside. Every time they call, the first sentence is: "Female Yazi, there is no money to cook at home. Did you make money this month? If you make money, send it home. "

Lu was very angry. He sometimes refused with malicious words, but every time he refused, his parents called him dog blood.

Lu has been working hard outside for seven or eight years, and he is in his mid-twenties. It is time to get married.

To tell the truth, she has been surrounded by many suitors over the years. She was always picking and choosing, and finally she chose one with a soft temperament.

My boyfriend has a good family and is the only daughter of a local family.

When it was time to talk about marriage, Lu returned to his hometown with his boyfriend.

Most of the money for house decoration in my hometown was sent home by land. My brother didn't go to college and didn't have a proper job. He has always wanted to make a fortune in business, but he has achieved nothing over the years.

Married a daughter-in-law, but also because of the embarrassment of life, leaving her husband and children behind.

Parents are particularly happy to learn that their daughter's boyfriend is an aborigine in a big city. Lu, who thinks that his parents have never seen the world, is not calm when his parents ask for a bride price.

Parents offered a bride price of 500,000 yuan, which is an unheard-of huge number in the local area.

According to local customs, the bride price to marry a prostitute is up to 80 thousand yuan, and parents can't keep it for themselves. When a prostitute gets married, she should marry her dowry.

Although the boyfriend's family has money, the requirements are not high.

Mother said: "The 500,000 bride price is just a formality, and then we will marry some. We country people are shallow-minded, so let our neighbors know that my daughter has married a good family. "

Mother said earnestly that her boyfriend seemed to be persuaded.

But her boyfriend's parents don't agree. They are only willing to pay 200,000 yuan. Her boyfriend borrowed some from his friends. Lu also took out all his savings over the years and collected 500,000 yuan.

Lu opened a separate card to withdraw money and gave it to her mother herself.

On the wedding day, mom really returned the card to Lu.

On the second day after marriage, Lu and her husband are going to pay off all the debts owed before marriage. The inquiry found that there was only 200,000 on the card.

Lu called his mother, and her mother said, "200,000 yuan is the dowry my parents gave you, and this is the only one in our village. Whoever marries a prostitute can marry so much money. I left the bride price after consulting with your father. Your brother's life is not easy, and we have to provide for the elderly. You are too far away, and now you are married. We are afraid that we can't count on you, so we live on this money. "

Bai Qing trembled with anger, and the husband next to him was so angry that the veins stood out.

He said to him, "This is the first time I have met such parents. What an eye-opener! "

Lu was speechless and didn't know how to face her husband, but she never wanted to go back to her home in the deep mountains and forests.

Sometimes, parents are the strength of children and the strong backing in their lives. Whether their children live well or not is more or less related to their parents.

The kindness of parents is the filial piety of children. If parents are unfair to children, children's kindness to parents will be very thin.

Some parents say it's good to have a daughter, but they still love their son more. After all, it will not happen overnight to change the traditional ideas handed down for thousands of years.

But if you think about it, most of the old people around you are sick, and all of them are served by prostitutes. It must be the daughter-in-law who occasionally sees some flirting with pots and bowls.

The saying that daughters are parents' little cotton-padded jackets really didn't come out, but those who are old and need someone to take care of them felt it.

As parents, we can't guarantee our children a good life, but we must keep a bowl of water level and impartial, so as not to let our relatives become enemies.