He Jie, 2 marriages, 3 children, from being admired to being ridiculed, what did she do wrong?

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When it comes to He Jie, I always feel that her experience is so embarrassing. It turned out that her development was so good, but because of two marriages, she lost all her popularity with the public.

It has to be lamented that sometimes every choice you make will bring you different results.

If He Jie knew that the latter marriage ended the way it did now, she would probably regret it.

But some things are done as soon as they are done. Even if you regret it, things will never develop in the previous direction.

This also reminds us that we should think twice before doing something.

Especially for things like relationships, when you make the wrong decision in relationships, your reputation will be affected to a certain extent.

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He Jie was the third runner-up in the Chengdu singing area of ??Hunan Satellite TV's Super Girl in 2005 and the fourth place in the national finals. Because of this, she officially entered the entertainment industry.

After that, he won various awards and was a very outstanding singer.

If this momentum continues, her future is bright.

He Jie’s decline began with her marriage.

In 2012, He Jie made her relationship with He Ziming public in a high-profile manner. In less than a year, I quickly obtained the marriage certificate.

In the second year of marriage, a son was born, and in the third year, a daughter was born.

With a son and a daughter, her life was "good". She thought that life would develop in the direction she hoped for, but the development of her marriage far exceeded her imagination.

Getting married is easy, but running a marriage is difficult.

In 2016, rumors of their marriage had been circulating. In 2017, He Jie and He Ziming confirmed their divorce.

After the divorce, the debate about who was at fault never stopped.

He Jie said when participating in a variety show: She will never believe in love again and will never get married again.

When a girl said such words, the public felt a little sympathetic, so at that time, public opinion was on He Jie's side.

Soon, the news came out that she and Diao Lei were together. Not long after the news came out, the third child was born, which made people have to doubt the authenticity of what she said.

The public also woke up at that time and felt that they had been deceived. Sure enough, some of the words of celebrities could not be believed. At that time, the direction of public opinion reversed and the public began to sympathize with He Ziming.

When He Jie appeared again, the public had turned to ridicule for her.

After she got together with Diao Lei, she actually didn't get along so well.

Two marriages and three children are a lot of pressure for He Jie.

Some of the Super Girls who debuted at the same time as her have developed better than her, but she chose marriage when her career was at its most popular. Now she has three children. In terms of career, she wants It is really difficult to achieve something.

So, from being admired by the outside world to being ridiculed by the public, what did He Jie do wrong?

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It’s too arbitrary to enter the next relationship

He Jie’s second relationship happened not long after the divorce of her first relationship. When the public heard that her third child was born, they all expressed surprise.

The words she said she no longer believed in love were still vivid in her mind, but in the blink of an eye, she not only believed in love, but also gave birth to a child, which was too arbitrary.

Emotions are not child's play. When you treat emotions as child's play, you will easily be slapped in the face.

Now it seems that He Jie, who has three children, has a very difficult life. Each of us knows the hard work of raising children. We want to find a balance between family and career. The balance point is not easy.

Every path in life is your own choice. If she had given herself some time to reflect on the mistakes of her previous marriage when she was facing her second relationship, she would not have changed from one to another. The pit fell into another pit.

This also reminds us that before entering a relationship, you should be cautious and know what to do and what not to do.

After divorce, there is no need to fight each other

When He Jie and He Ziming were divorcing, the quarrel was not very good.

We all say that when you love, you should love well, and if you don’t love, you should also break up with dignity. Let’s break up with each other and let each of us be happy. This is the best way for lovers to break up.

But He Ziming and He Jie were not satisfied with this.

Later, when the truth gradually emerged, the public also came to a conclusion about right and wrong.

It is precisely because of the revelation of the truth that the public's goodwill towards He Jie gradually disappeared.

There are some things where we don’t need to argue pointlessly. If two people don’t love each other anymore, they can break up peacefully. In that case, there won’t be so many jokes.

I still don’t understand how two people who once loved each other could tear each other apart when they got divorced. They don’t look at the monk’s face but also the Buddha’s face. If you don't talk about it, then you are in vain as a couple.

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He Jie used to be a popular super girl. She sang well and was pretty. But now, after experiencing a series of emotional crises, she Little by little, his good impression was completely destroyed by him.

As expected, people cannot do wrong things, because the Internet has memory. When you do something wrong, the public will have a very deep understanding of it.

For public figures, because of your different status, the public has certain expectations of you in certain matters.

If some of the behaviors you do are different from their expectations, they will go from liking you to hating you.

For some things, if you don’t want to be slapped in the face, then you should consider the consequences before speaking about it.

Life is like a play. You are fighting with each other. The moment you decide to tear each other apart, you have already lost.

As Dong Qing said: After the gunshot, there is no winner. Some things are both prosperous and destructive. If you want to have both, please be tolerant of each other.