The education of the "tricycle" father to his daughter

Not long ago, a video of a father picking up his daughter from school went viral on the Internet.

At the school gate, this father was wearing short-sleeved shirts and took out a towel to wipe the sweat from his face from time to time. He came all the way to pick up his daughter from school, which was not easy.

But after her daughter got on the bus, she hurriedly covered her face with her school uniform, wrapping it tightly for fear of being recognized by classmates passing by.

The father on the side looked at his daughter's behavior, but he could only smile awkwardly.

The girl’s behavior obviously chilled the father’s heart, but netizens in the comment area had different opinions. Some expressed understanding, some made reflections, and some gave suggestions...

Yes Netizens said that children have begun to care about the outside world's opinions from the age of 5, especially their own image in the minds of others, and are aware of the importance of social status. Her behavior is just that she is worried about the jokes of her classmates now, and it will not affect her respect and filial piety to her father in the future.

Some people also say that as children grow older, they will have a "budding concept of money" and will also go through a "material sensitive period". At this time, they will inevitably have concerns about houses, cars, famous brands, and money. There are faulty value judgments.

A child's values ??are often silently formed through observation and comparison in life. If you guide your children's behavior well, it not only hides the foresight of the parents, but also affects the children's future values.

Some netizens also suggested that in the face of children’s demands that are beyond the parents’ capabilities, parents can “cry poor” to stop their children’s thoughts in a few words, and it can also make children considerate of their parents, which is not very useful.

Some netizens also expressed opposition to "crying poverty". In many cases, what hurts children the most is never the lack of material conditions in the family, but the parents' complaints and crying about poverty, intentionally or unintentionally.

Material poverty is only temporary, while psychological shortage is lifelong. The attitude of parents is the key for children to correctly face the gap between rich and poor.

When a Chinese family first moved to the United States, their financial situation was so tight that the family of three could only squeeze into a small attic. The family's daughter is attending kindergarten in the United States.

The children in the kindergarten said to my daughter: "It's really too bad. You don't even own the house you live in."

Some students asked: "Why don't you have a house in your home?" Car? "

When the daughter got home, she asked her father what was going on.

The father replied: "Because we don't have money to buy it yet."

The father said that if parents are secretive, not only will they not be able to hide their poverty, but they will also let their children see that the parents are guilty. , I feel that being poor is inferior to others.

A year later, when their financial situation became better, they moved from the small loft in New Haven to a two-bedroom house in the suburbs of Boston.

Seeing that her father has been working hard to improve the family situation, her daughter has gradually become "immune" to wealth and poverty. She neither thinks the family is poor nor envies other people's wealth, and is very confident and happy.

Later, when I was in elementary school, a child came to play at home and asked my daughter: "Is your family poor or rich?"

My daughter replied: "It's on the poor side. "Where is your family?"

The words were frank and generous, and did not feel difficult to say at all.

As the saying goes, the gap between rich and poor is not the real gap, but the gap in education is the real gap.

As parents, we must understand that passing on correct values ??and lifestyles is the best answer to our children.

We also need children to understand: Poverty and wealth are never all indicators for evaluating a person. Only ourselves can define us.

Some netizens believe that when parents face their children’s sensitivity to money and confusion about material things, please don’t be anxious and look at the positive side first:

Children have already begun to observe and think about life. .

At this time, the parents sat down and talked frankly with him about the "gap between rich and poor".

Some netizens told this story: Once, her son asked to buy a certain brand of mobile phone for 3,000 yuan. When she didn’t agree, the son threw things, went on a hunger strike, and even accused her without conscience: “Other people’s My children all use mobile phones worth several thousand yuan, so you can buy me one worth a few hundred yuan.

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She didn’t answer at the time. She took her son out early the next morning and said to the street with cars and people passing by:

“Look, 3,000 yuan, for those who drive, A luxury car may not be a big deal to someone who runs a company, but to these office workers who leave early and come back late, it is more than half a month's salary.

For sanitation workers who get up at 4 a.m. every day and clean for more than ten hours, they have to work so hard for a month to earn 3,000 yuan.

You have to know that this world is unreasonable. Some people are born with a lot of property and don't have to worry about their livelihood, while some people are born in poor areas and may not even be able to provide food and clothing. What you have is the best that your mother can give you within her ability. ”

Since then, my son has never said anything like this again. He has become much more sensible in life and is working harder and harder in his studies.

As parents, we must tell him as soon as possible. Only by allowing children to understand the true situation at home can they help them better position themselves and find the right direction.

Some netizens told such a story: Not long ago, a man named Dandong, Liaoning Province. When Cai Chang's girl introduced herself at the beginning of college, she introduced herself humorously and confidently: "My name is Cai Chang, and I have a very good personality. I have always been nicknamed Cai Fat, which can be seen from my figure. ”

This immediately enlivened the classroom atmosphere and attracted bursts of laughter from the classmates.

She went on to say: “My family is a waste collector, my parents are very tired, and I have a particularly rustic child. My dream is to buy a big villa for my mother..."

In a few words, there is not only gratitude, but also sincerity and magnanimity.

In fact, Cai Chang also had low self-esteem when he was a child. He once said: “Why do other people’s parents do other jobs and earn quite a lot of money, but you have to collect scraps? ”

But she soon felt relieved. Although the waste collection was dirty and tiring, and there was no holiday yet, her parents had always lived a serious and optimistic life. This positive attitude taught her to be calm. For everything.

On weekdays, she would help at her parents' scrap collection stall when she had time. Her parents taught her to deal with all kinds of people and cultivated her cheerful and humorous character.

It can be seen that a child's sense of wealth is never derived from money.

Giving children spiritual wealth and inner abundance is the best nourishment for their growth.

Some netizen pointedly pointed out: The most important thing about a family is not how much money it has, but how much love its children can feel.