How to train a boyfriend with low emotional intelligence?

What is it like to have a boyfriend with low emotional intelligence?

It’s just that he can’t accept your various emotions. Even if he is angry in person, he will just remain silent and doesn’t know how to coax you; when you are sick, he knows not to say "drink more hot water", so he will change it. It becomes the following dialogue:

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"I have a fever, 39 degrees"

—— "Awesome!"

He can always step on every minefield of yours accurately and avoid all scoring points perfectly.

Can such a boyfriend be saved? Do we still want to have this kind of love?

If you want to break up, but you feel that it is all trivial matters, and you will be so angry every day if you are together, what you need at this time are some tips on how to train your boyfriend.

Some girls like to let boys guess their little thoughts.

There is such a joke:

The most ink-saving book in the world is "What Men Know About Women" because all the pages in it are blank.

Girls should not hold back what they have to say, express their feelings clearly, and many problems will be solved.

Ruan Ruan and her boyfriend have been in a relationship for seven years. Once when she went to a home furnishing store, she tactfully expressed that she liked a sofa. However, the next day, her boyfriend sent the sofa to her home. .

Ruan Ruan was so angry that she vomited blood because she was hinting to her boyfriend that she wanted to get married.

But in the eyes of her boyfriend, the formula "wanting the sofa = wanting to roll on the sofa with you = wanting to get married" is really confusing.

Later, Ruan Ruan got angry and burst into tears. Her boyfriend looked confused and said that you should have told me earlier. I always thought you were cool and didn’t want to get married.

So, don’t be sulky, be sure to tell him your thoughts and hopes straightforwardly. Even if you quarrel or beat him up, it’s better than saying nothing and letting him guess what’s coming.

Create appropriate opportunities and teach him how to behave

When you really want your boyfriend to do something, it is better to think from his perspective and create appropriate opportunities to let him know that you want him. What kind of response to make.

For example, Lao Qi’s boyfriend likes to play games and sometimes forgets to answer the phone.

Lao Qi has a stubborn temper, so he opened a small account silently and practiced for more than half a month to become platinum. One day, she invited her boyfriend to play blackmail, and they cooperated tacitly all the way to the enemy base. Her boyfriend excitedly posted a message on Moments to show off his affection to his brothers.

Lao Qi is acting like a baby. If you go shopping with me like this, I will be as happy as you are now.

From then on, Lao Qi’s boyfriend was very patient when accompanying her shopping and would also provide her with advice.

Therefore, the emotional contribution is mutual.

If you want to get something, it is better to give it first, let him feel your contribution, and then hint that you also want an equal return. When dealing with a boyfriend with low emotional intelligence, just be sincere and add a few tricks.

Who says boys don’t need coaxing?

Sometimes your boyfriend’s low EQ is because he cares too much about you. Because you are afraid of saying the wrong thing, you are cautious. The more nervous you are, the more likely you are to make a mistake.

But who doesn’t like to be praised? The effect of positive encouragement is very powerful. In fact, sometimes one compliment is more effective than ten scoldings.

Once there was a very good movie, and I sent a text message to my boyfriend asking him if he wanted to join us. He quickly replied with two words, “Okay.

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So I replied, "You actually didn't say this time that it would be more convenient to watch it in a movie theater near your home. I feel so happy to be with you. "In the end, it only took him twenty minutes to buy the ticket, pick me up downstairs from my house, and take me to the cinema. He held my hand and watched the whole movie.

So, there really is a boy living in his heart. Little boy.

When you encourage him when he does well instead of trying to kill him when he makes a mistake, he will really remember and try to be good to you

So you see, there are no boyfriends who are not good at training, there are only girlfriends who don’t work hard. The process of training is the process of you slowly establishing mutual understanding.

We. Everyone is not perfect. Maybe you meet someone who is attracted to you, but he doesn’t know how to love you properly. He is reluctant to give up and is too tired to get along with you. You need these tips to train him to make yourself comfortable.

Of course, the premise of all this is that he is willing to love you, but sometimes he uses the wrong method. Because he is used to being honest with you, he does not shy away from his shortcomings.

But if you have tried all kinds of methods and he is still indifferent, you have to consider that he just doesn't like you that much.

When you fall in love, you don't need others to fight for you or change the whole situation. Life, but in some details of getting along, each other needs to educate each other.

There is no need to change for love, but there is a need to grow because of love.