How to ask a good question when asking a question?

Speaking of asking questions, when I was studying, I was often taught by the teacher to be "sensitive and eager to learn, and not ashamed to ask questions." Those students who often asked the teacher questions and asked for advice were always praised, while some students did not care about the questions. If the answer to the question can be found in the book, I must ask the teacher and classmates, because this can prove that I love learning.

This method can not only deceive the teacher, but can even impress yourself.

As everyone knows, this is essentially just covering up the truth about his lack of learning ability and his lack of ambition.

The question of "ask if you don't understand" mainly focuses on "just", emphasizing "immediately" and "immediately". If you want to get good learning results from a question, "don't understand" Before asking, please slow down and take three steps:

Be able to ask a high-quality question.

?Able to express one's problems clearly.

? Make people willing to answer your questions.

Only by meeting these three steps can you ask a good question and have a greater chance of getting a satisfactory reply.

1. How to ask a high-quality question?

This must be clear: What kind of questions are high-quality questions? ——I think it is the product of "thinking + action".

When you encounter a problem and throw it to others without thinking about it, this is not so much a question as it is to let others think for you - this is an escape, and it is also a sign of laziness. Such questions are of course The quality won't be high.

Just hoping to get ready-made answers from others is not essentially laziness.

Too lazy to think, too lazy to explore, too lazy to look up information... If you persist in being lazy, even though you seem to have gotten a lot of things, your brain is just a hard drive filled with correct answers and mechanical steps.

The result is that we are getting closer and closer to the computer, and further and further away from knowledge. There are more and more routines memorized by rote, and the results of independent thinking are getting less and less...

Until one day you will find that you have lost confidence in learning and the future, and are full of fear, because you seem to have learned a lot, but you are still very ignorant and still know nothing, because such people have gained It is not an ability that can sustain growth, but a mechanical tool ability. It is difficult to understand the connection and creation of knowledge.

The purpose of asking questions is to solve problems, so that you can learn to think independently as soon as possible, and get the answer yourself by exploring the thinking logic of the entire problem, instead of falling in love with asking questions and relying on others to guide your work, study and Life.

So try to do some exploratory actions with questions in mind. By proactively dealing with difficulties in the process of acquiring knowledge and learning skills, both the knowledge gained and the sense of accomplishment in learning will be magnified.

For example, you can search for relevant keywords or experts on Baidu, Weibo, WeChat, Zhihu, and Fenda. You may not necessarily be able to solve the problem yourself, but when filtering and reading information, first of all, The perspective of looking at the problem itself and the depth of thinking will gradually change, and even some new related problems will be extended, and the linkage effect will maximize the learning effect. Secondly, the ability to search and solve problems will increase with each time. Exploration and sublimation, which is of great benefit to long-term learning.

2. How can you express your problem clearly? ·

If you have not been able to solve the problem well through your own thinking and action exploration, there is nothing wrong with asking others for help.

But can you state the problem clearly?

Not necessarily.

The reason why you think you said it very clearly is because when you asked this question, there were many related pictures, words, and scenes in your mind... You subconsciously felt that the other party could also get it. Do you think the other party has the ability to read minds?

For example, some boys do not give any information about girls, but just ask others, "One is the one I love, and the other is the one who loves me. Which one should I choose?"

Well, Choose the one with bigger breasts...︿(￣︶￣)︿

So I thought the question was silly, you thought my answer was insincere, and the two parties broke up on bad terms.

Therefore, in order to improve the efficiency of both parties, not to mention that your language is concise and organized, at least conduct "two self-examinations" on your own problems——

? Self-examination 1: Is the background clearly explained? ?

Someone asked: Should I take the postgraduate entrance examination?

——What is your major? In which school? What is your current academic performance in your major? Which school and major should I take the exam? What are the family conditions like? What is the attitude of the parents? .... After four long years of university study, you haven't even learned to ask a question. Even getting into postgraduate school won't save you.

For another example, someone showed up a PPT of his speech and asked how it went.

——Do you share it publicly or internally? Would you like to share it with professionals or novices? To the leader or to colleagues and subordinates? ...If these are not explained, it will be impossible to comment. Regardless of the occasion, he is likely to be the next Baidu director to be fired.

Without any background explanation, the questions you ask others are basically invalid questions, wasting both parties’ time and energy.

Self-check 2: Are the definitions of both parties consistent?

Someone asked: How is the growth potential of my current job?

——Growth? Do you mean the improvement of personal workplace abilities, salary increase, or promotion space?

If you want to ask about salary increase, but I answer in terms of workplace ability improvement, then the answer will not be what you want.

The reason why such incorrect answers arise is that the two parties have inconsistent understandings and definitions of "growth".

So when we raise a question, we need to think about it. Everyone’s aesthetics can be different. So what about the open words you mentioned about “growth”, “excellence”, “good”, “appropriate” etc. Questions can also be understood differently by the other party.

Therefore, you should briefly explain your definition and views in the question, which will be easier to understand, and the person being asked will give a specific answer in a direction.

In fact, if you can do it well at this step, it is enough to get high-quality answers by posting questions on Q&A platforms such as Zhihu and Fenda. Therefore, a good question can often inspire many good answers and lead to many new propositions.

3. How to make others willing to answer your questions seriously?

You have to note that asking questions to others is, after all, a "people-to-people" behavior. Since it happens between "people", it must follow the rules between people. The way to get along, if you ignore this point, you will definitely suffer.

There is a saying that goes, "One dollar for people, nine cents for things." < /p>

But if a person's service is worth one dollar, if you cut it to 99 cents, even if the transaction is completed, the quality of the service received will most likely be reduced, because due to emotional and psychological factors, his level of investment and It’s human nature to have a negative attitude toward giving. Therefore, not only can't you cut it at this time, but you also have to actively give him a dollar. In fact, you don't have to pay much extra, but you can get a great value in return.

"Asking" obviously belongs to the latter.

It is important to feel comfortable when facing things related to human nature.

So how can you make others feel comfortable by asking questions? Please try to make the "four right choices"——

? Choose the right one: choose the right person

Sometimes, your questions will not be answered well, and you will not be able to answer your questions well. It's not that your question itself is wrong, it's that you made a mistake in choosing who to ask the question.

We tend to fall into full trust in an excellent person, thinking that the other person is omnipotent and can get perfect answers to all kinds of difficult and complicated diseases.

So it happened. After someone finished the college entrance examination, he asked me if his score allowed him to apply for XX University?

I have graduated a few years ago and I don’t know the current university application situation, nor do I know the questioner’s situation. Obviously you won't get a professional and reliable answer to a question like this. You should consult a school teacher who is familiar with your situation or a professional consulting agency.

You see, choosing the right person to ask a question is the prerequisite for getting a good answer.

We must do our homework before asking questions, such as thinking about what the question is about? Is the person I'm asking good at or has dealt with this type of problem?

? Choice 2: Choose the right platform

After choosing the right person to ask questions, you must also choose the appropriate platform for asking questions.

Generally speaking, we should pay attention to where the questioner is active and compare the effects of asking questions on different occasions.

For example, if you want to ask questions from @秋叶哥, he is active on the Internet, so it is more appropriate to ask questions through the Internet. But there are also many ways to connect to Uncle Akiba via the Internet. For example, you can post @him on Weibo, send a private message, leave a message on his WeChat personal public account, or ask questions on the split-answer forum... So which method is best?

If you want your questions to be answered as soon as possible, paying to ask questions on the sub-answer is a better choice;

If you want your questions to be answered privately, send a private message on Weibo or a public account It is better to leave a message in the background;

Of course, if you want to spread the issue similar to PPT works, obviously posting @秋叶 on Weibo is the best choice.

Returning to our lives, university teachers always leave after class and are usually difficult to contact. So the breaks in class are the best time to ask questions and leave a good impression on the teacher. .

If you are asking your senior students questions privately, it is also a good choice to make an appointment to have a drink and chat slowly, which will show your sincerity.

If you want your questions to be answered systematically by professionals in the field, you can pay for an appointment with an expert.

If you want to get more people's different opinions on your question, you can ask it in Baidu Know, Sina iAsk, Zhihu, forums, Tieba and other related website communities, so that more people can help you answer it.

? Choice 3: Choose the right sense of proportion

The so-called sense of proportion means that when asking questions, do not make the person being asked feel offended or disrespected.

For example, if you ask a person who has just lost love how to flirt with a girl?

For example, your question involves the confidentiality of other people’s work?

For example, we are doing online courses, but you ask me where to download pirated software?

Such a question will definitely not be liked and will not receive a positive answer. Therefore, before asking a question, you should pay attention to whether the content of the question is appropriate. Don’t be ignored by others because you were offensive and you think it was because they were putting on airs.

? Choice 4: Choose the right way

First, be polite.

Even if it is an informal question, you have to introduce yourself first. Don’t think that others will remember you just because you have interacted online;

You cannot force others to reply, you have to give them to them first. A thank you, no matter whether you reply or not, at least people will take the time to read your question, right?

You can give a proper compliment before asking a question. For example, I have been following you for a long time or I have read a certain work or article of yours that is very inspiring... This is not deliberately polite, but this is how you give it to the other party. It feels like you didn't cast a wide net, but chose to ask him questions after getting to know him better. This is actually showing respect. On the other hand, everyone likes to hear compliments, and when you are in a good mood, you will naturally answer the questions diligently.

If the question is long, it is best to add a brief self-introduction. Who would like to be suddenly bombarded with hundreds of words of questions without knowing who is asking the question?

When the other party gives an answer, remember that you are a questioner, or maintain a lower attitude of asking for advice. Of course, you can have different opinions or more doubts, and both parties can continue to discuss it. It is of high quality. The result is the result of thinking, but do not make comments such as "Haha, isn't it...", "What you said is wrong", "I think what xxx said is more reasonable", etc. Such rhetorical questions, doubts and Provoking will only cause the other party to stop answering or counterattack, which will instantly cause the opponent to go astray.

Secondly, it can be reciprocal.

Sometimes your question requires a lot of thinking or research by others to answer. You have to evaluate whether you want to ask a question or whether you want to be lazy. If you want to be lazy, you should first consider paying for other people's labor, and It’s not about discounting the so-called free sharing slogan to look down on others for refusing to ask questions. This is not only an expression of respect for knowledge, but also can inspire more knowledge sharers to contribute more valuable knowledge. It is also the dignity and style that one should have as a learner.

"Inject a drop of water in normal times, and you will have the Pacific Ocean in difficult times." Remember: sincerity is mutual.

I remember that many university societies invited me to give lectures, but there were inevitably some conflicts in time. However, I deliberately turned down some invitations and tried my best to coordinate time for a president of a certain university and help him. The activity was successfully completed. The reason for this is because every time I post a Weibo post, he will help retweet it, and every time I post an article on WeChat, he will be the first to reward me... As time goes by, I will remember him, and I always feel that I owe him something.

It can be seen from this that if you are asking for advice from an expert and they answer your questions for free, in addition to conveying your gratitude to him personally, you can also publicly thank him and praise him, or you can usually see the expert Niufa’s good works or articles should be actively spread or reward, leave comments or like under the WeChat article. When you are able, spend money to support Daniel’s products. These things are very small, but doing them will show your special sincerity and hard work. Keeping in touch with the big guys may lead to a greater connection.

In short, there must be reciprocity between the questioner and the person being asked, that is, as the questioner, you must have the value of being answered.

But I think the ideal situation is that you can first find a direction, become a large or small expert or expert, and use this knowledge to connect with more experts, ask questions, Exchange and learn from each other, and you may gain more knowledge in the most equal way.

When you see this, can you ask questions now?