How to deal with the relationship between deputy and deputy

(1) There are two obvious differences between the deputy relationship and the superior-subordinate relationship: First, the deputy relationship, unlike the superior-subordinate relationship, has legal leadership and dominance; Second, as "peers" between deputies, it means that they are both natural collaborators and potential competitors. This complex and subtle relationship makes many deputies get along well with principals and subordinates in real life, but they can't handle the relationship with other deputies well, and even make the relationship very stiff.

1, exchange information

In our daily life, we will find two laws of information exchange. One is that people like to tell known information to people higher than themselves, and the other is that people like to tell known information to people they love and respect. If a deputy wants to get more information from other deputies, he must establish a good interpersonal relationship with them and make them love and respect you.

Step 2 connect with feelings

Through mutual interaction, telling their inner joys and difficulties and strengthening emotional communication can make delegates feel intimate.

This feeling has three major functions in maintaining the unity among deputies: first, it has a lubricating effect. Play the role of "moistening things silently". The second is to start the role. When a deputy encounters difficulties in his work, especially when he is frustrated, he will not only rely on the collective leadership, but also consult with a good deputy and ask him for advice and find ways to help him out of the predicament. The third is the explosion-proof effect. If close, friendly and mutual trust are established among the deputies, and a feeling of sharing the same breath and common destiny is formed, it will be easy to seek common ground while reserving differences, and it will be easy to adjust if there are conflicts and frictions, so as not to cause greater contradictions.

Step 3 encourage each other

Everyone needs self-motivation and mutual encouragement among comrades. Mutual encouragement among delegates plays an important role. First, through mutual encouragement, the advanced deputies can guard against arrogance and rashness, find out their own shortcomings, and move toward newer goals; Can make the deputy in the middle state unwilling to swim, and strive to catch up with the advanced; It can enhance the deputy's confidence in the backward state and change the backward state. Second, through mutual encouragement, it can bring creative vitality to each other, and even lead to a leap in intelligence and ability, thus greatly improving the performance of the work. Third, through mutual encouragement, let the delegates feel that everyone is in the same boat, in the same situation and in the same mood, so as to take care of their fighting spirit, courage, enthusiasm and potential, unite and work together.

4. Complementarity of capabilities

As leaders at the same level, due to differences in personal experience, knowledge structure and personality characteristics, there are objectively differences in ability levels, that is to say, each has its own advantages and disadvantages. Some deputies are calm, good at observing and thinking, and can make suggestions; Some deputies are good at mobilizing various factors to implement decisions, can control teams and organize activities, and have strong command, control and control capabilities; Some deputies are good at dredging and coordinating various relationships. No matter how complicated the interpersonal relationship is, he can straighten it out and handle it well without violating the principle, and he has strong "diplomatic" activity ability; Some deputies are good at implementation, can take the lead, be practical and willing to work, and have strong practical, operational and promotional abilities.

Step 5 create synergy

Differences in personal interests, hobbies, temperament and personality of leading group members will still restrict psychological fit to some extent. If team members respect and understand each other's thoughts and behaviors, support each other in their work and care about each other in their lives, then they can promote the healthy development of team members' hobbies and the normal adjustment of temperament and personality, thus forming an overall team effort.

(two) the principle of deputy handling and other deputy relations.

1, respect is not arrogant

Respect for others is a very important moral requirement in social communication. It is a truth that people who respect others will be respected by others.

(1) Respect the personality of other representatives.

Ideologically, we should understand the road of "one fence, three piles, one hero and three gangs". Deputies should pay more attention to the advantages of others and less attention to their shortcomings than to other deputies. When dealing with other deputies, each deputy should learn from the strengths of others to enrich and improve himself, instead of forgiving and comforting himself with the shortcomings of others. We should not only have a tolerant scale, but also have a tolerant mind, not afraid that others will surpass us.

(2) We should respect the opinions of other delegates. As a deputy, in order to reduce mistakes as much as possible, we should have the consciousness of "bystanders are clear", and we should not regard the departments and units in charge as our own "sites", let alone allow others to intervene and listen to their opinions.

(3) Respect the work of other delegates. If you are not sure yourself, you can't say which job is important, which is above other deputies. Respect for the work of other deputies is also reflected in not living in the past and not blaming others. When dealing with fame and fortune, you can't be overjoyed. Take credit for it, and blame others for mistakes.

Some deputies are careless, some can't treat themselves correctly, or think that they rank first, or that they are old, or that they have strong ability and high level. As a source of pride, they can't put down their airs and don't respect other deputies.

2. Trust without doubt

Trust is an important principle for delegates to handle relations with other delegates. Trust is power.

The trust between representatives is mutual. On the one hand, in order to gain the trust of other delegates, each delegate must have correct thoughts, speeches and behaviors, and be consistent in words and deeds, giving people psychological trust. On the other hand, trust other deputies, don't doubt others, don't snitch on the principal, and don't play tricks on others. When you hear social gossip, don't listen to the wind as rain, let alone be influenced by "gossip". You should analyze carefully and distinguish right from wrong. Keep your mind straight, your eyes clear, your ears hard, don't be disturbed by people with ulterior motives, let the rumors start, and sit firmly in Diaoyutai. A person's heart is full of flesh. If you trust him and treat him sincerely, he will trust you and treat him sincerely.

3. Support without destroying the platform

Representatives will inevitably encounter difficulties of one kind or another in their work and life, especially loopholes and mistakes in their work. In this case, other deputies should come forward, actively cooperate and support them, help them solve their problems, or remind them in time to make up for them, but they must never stand by, watch jokes, be cynical, or take the opportunity to destroy them. Supporting without destroying and turning the corner is the best way to show the charm of good relations between deputies at the same level.

When you have the ability and need to help the deputy at the same level, you must master the discretion and scale, grasp the opportunity and method, and don't let them think that others will doubt their ability to work, thus hurting others' feelings and self-esteem, and you can't interfere and comment on the work of other deputy at will.

4. Division of labor.

In the actual operation process, it should be: division of labor and responsibility, combined with ideas; Work points, goals up; The system is divided and the relationship is closed; When the business is divided, the interests are combined; Execute the upper score and supervise the upper score.

Step 5 be moderate but not excessive

In order to deal with the relationship between moderation and excessiveness, deputies must establish the overall concept, seek their own government in their own position, and take a positive attitude to care about the work of other deputies and the overall work.

The method and art of actively competing for deputy positions

Deputy officials are both natural "collaborators" and potential "competitors". This subtle and complicated relationship is naturally formed and exists objectively. We should not blindly advocate "cooperation" and avoid "competition". Because this view is not only wrong in theory, but also harmful in practice. There is a simple reason. First, healthy competition is essential for a deputy of a leading group. Competition produces a sense of urgency and pressure, which will stimulate the enthusiasm and creativity of deputy officers under certain conditions and form a good atmosphere for you to catch up with each other and do a good job. Competition is also conducive to enhancing the deputy's sense of crisis and activating its internal motivation. Second, as a deputy, if he is a weak person who dare not "compete" and he can't create the best job, it is bound to be difficult to win the admiration and respect of other deputies. Thirdly, "cooperation" and "competition" are two inseparable aspects of agency relationship. Cooperation promotes competition, and competition contributes to better cooperation. Competition in leadership activities is an objective fact. We advocate competition between deputy directors without jealousy or internal friction, and encourage each other in the competition. Firmly overcome difficulties and strive for first-class will in the competition; Give full play to the enthusiasm and creativity of each deputy in the competition.

When coordinating relations with other delegates, delegates should treat competition correctly.

(1) to establish a sense of competition. It should be acknowledged that competition is an objective existence and an important driving force for the development of social productive forces and human progress. This sense of competition should be positive and healthy. First, competition should be based on its own strength and strive to improve its own quality, which is a necessary condition for winning in the competition. Second, consciously learn from the strong at the same level and make up for your shortcomings with your own strengths. Third, in the "competition" with other sideline businesses, we are not complacent when we are ahead and not complacent when we are behind. As always, we are aggressive. The fourth is to help the deputy who is temporarily behind in the "competition" without reservation. The fifth is to motivate yourself with "competition", but don't let other deputies see you competing.

(2) Adhere to the principle of equal opportunities for competition. Equal competitive opportunity means equal conditions and equal competitive position. When coordinating the relationship with other deputies, deputies should neither discriminate against competitors nor artificially set obstacles for competitors. Some deputies regard other deputies as their opponents for promotion, which is full of hostility. They think that the more problems and shortcomings other deputies have, the more they show their perfection. They even think that "only by killing a large number of enemies can we save ourselves effectively;" Only by knocking others down can we achieve our goal of smooth promotion. " So do everything possible to set traps, dig traps, tear down other people's platforms, and even go to extremes.

(3) adopt the correct way of competition. The correct goal of competition should be to compare study, work, ability, contribution and spiritual realm. The way of competition should also be fair and honest. In real life, there are indeed some NPC deputies who have chosen an undesirable mode of competition for various reasons. Their contribution is no more than the reality, but who will cheat, put on airs and create "achievements"; Not by real skill, but by seeing who will pull the banner as a tiger skin and artificially create a "sensational effect"; Not by honest labor, but by flattery; It is not through normal organization selection and gradual promotion, but through the support of someone behind it, it has risen to the top of the world ... such competition, God forbid!

5. Representatives' methods and art of handling conflicts with other representatives.

Deputy leaders get along with each other, have many work contacts, and have potential competition. It is inevitable that there will be contradictions and conflicts of one kind or another. This kind of contradiction is generally a contradiction among the people, which is non-confrontational and can be completely solved by itself. To solve contradictions and conflicts, delegates should pay attention to the following methods and arts.

(1) Calm down and seek common ground while reserving differences. Avoiding contradictions or differences temporarily seems to be negative on the surface, but it is actually positive. Smart deputies should put themselves in other's shoes, try to find the same iodine, insist on convincing others by reasoning, put facts and reason to seek common ground while reserving differences. In addition, some contradictions between deputies are often naturally resolved by avoiding and waiting.

Of course, quelling the fire is not to calm the situation, but to divide the contradictions that cannot be solved at one time into several times or a certain length of work to solve them step by step. In this way, contradictions will not intensify.

(2) Be generous and tolerant, and be kind to others. Tolerance is an important content of the cultivation of representative personality and an important guarantee of unity among representatives. Every deputy should be strict with himself, be lenient with others and be good at making concessions. First, he should start from "remorse", find out his own reasons, solve his own problems first, and influence and influence each other with a high attitude.

Of course, the emphasis on being kind to others and tolerant here does not mean that the other party's problems are unprincipled, but that tolerance and understanding are advocated in mutual communication, otherwise, tolerance will become connivance.

(3) Meet the sage Si Qi and be content with perfection. When dealing with the relationship with other deputies, deputies should not only have an inclusive scale, but also have an inclusive mind. When meeting Si Qi, they are not afraid that others will surpass them. Once you find that others are better than you in some ways, you will be jealous, as if I can't and neither can you. As a result, the relationship between colleagues is tense, internal friction is rampant and work is affected.

When dealing with relations with other delegates, delegates should "stress principles on major issues and style on minor issues". They should not only insist on right and wrong, be unambiguous, not compromise, not give in, but also take the overall situation into consideration and maintain unity as their beautiful wish. Don't be too serious about trivial matters that don't hinder the overall situation without losing the overall situation. We should adopt the attitude of not going into the details, seeking perfection by compromise, letting go and being tolerant, so as to be "hard to get confused".