Spanking is not very painful, but the child is scared. Why?

From the child's point of view, what many children are afraid of is not the spanking itself, but the angry humiliation of their parents. Spanking is only one factor that causes fear. Otherwise, the children of the same age who dared to spank them would have come back long ago (except those with big size difference). From the point of view of parents, beating children is only for education, not for fatal attacks. Where can I not spank? Hit the temple?

Children who are often punished by corporal punishment have low IQ. 15 children aged 2-9 years were followed up for 4 years. Among the six children aged 2-4, the average IQ of the children who were not physically punished was 5 points higher than that of the children who were often beaten, while the difference between the four children aged 5-9 was 28 points. "Some parents educate their children by spanking, which is extremely unfavorable to their physical and mental health." Spanking can cause hematoma around buttocks, poor blood circulation and even necrosis and inflammation. "

In addition, children in the growth and development period have rich capillaries and delicate organs. Once impacted by external force, it is easy to bleed and cause damage to heart, brain, liver, kidney and other organs. Two fifths of violence hurts children's self-esteem and leads to inferiority. Violent education methods such as "spanking" not only harm children's physical health, but also are extremely unfavorable to children's mental health. Zhu Xiaohua said that the use of corporal punishment will destroy the intimate feelings between children and parents, and it will easily have a negative impact on children's psychology. For example, using spanking and other violent means to educate some extroverted children can not only play an educational role, but also make children have rebellious psychology, and even let children imitate using violent means to solve problems.

Violence education for timid children will make them feel insecure and full of frustration, which is not conducive to shaping their good character. Besides spanking, some parents also educate their children by pulling their ears. Although this punishment will not cause eardrum damage, in winter, exposed ears are prone to slight frostbite, so pulling children's ears is likely to cause ear cartilage damage, infection or hematoma, and parents should try to avoid it. The brain tissue of 3/5 children with severe hand injury is located in the cranial cavity, and the skull is connected with the human spine through the atlanto-occipital joint.

If the parents hit the child's buttocks too hard, the child's buttocks will suddenly be hit, which may spread to the atlanto-occipital joint through the spine, causing the entire skull to deform and the brain stem to be damaged, and the consequences are unimaginable. Four-fifths of boys' spanking will lead to testicular hematoma or injury. Parents usually put their children to bed before hitting them. Because the child struggles and swings, he may be injured by the edge of the bed or other attachments, resulting in testicular hematoma or injury. Some parents can't breathe for a while, but they hit their children with hard objects such as belts and feather dusters, which will cause local hematoma in gluteal muscles, poor blood circulation and even necrotizing inflammation. 5/5 directly leads to the disharmony of parent-child relationship. Beating children not only makes them flesh and blood, but also leaves a shadow in their hearts.

When parents beat their children, they usually consider not to break the key points, and rarely consider that children have dignity and psychological endurance for their parents' lessons. Children are naturally fragile, sensitive and fragile. Angry reprimands and rude behaviors of parents often lead to disharmony between parents and children, and even lead to permanent estrangement between themselves and children.