Choose to be with high-frequency, high-dimensional people? Very important

When you are with high-frequency people, your frequency will automatically be adjusted to that frequency, and you will see problems and do things from a very high-dimensional perspective. Actionists are such an organization. They can always bring together high-frequency people and high-dimensional people, and provide advice and wisdom to those who are still in low-dimensional and low-frequency situations and cannot extricate themselves.

The knot of my college major has been bothering me for many years. If you want to know more details, you can read the article I wrote before, "Do you still regret your choice?" 》. No matter how frustrating I am when I encounter difficulties in college, the overall goal of taking the postgraduate entrance exams supports me as something similar to my dreams and beliefs, and constantly gives me the strength to move forward. My college life was actually very positive, very positive, and very progressive until I graduated from college. After failing the postgraduate entrance examination in my senior year, I lost my support point in life and entered a state of infinite confusion. I don’t understand why I think so much, thinking about the meaning of life and what people live for like a philosopher. Because of this, there is nothing worth fighting for during this time.

It feels terrible to have your faith in life collapsed. Because my inner self is not full, and I have always been a dedicated personality, I have never completed my life tasks, and I have no motivation to continue living my life well. Because my thoughts were well controlled by my parents in the past, I had never actively thought about life before that. I had always been passively led by fate. I just graduated and went to work at the Confucius Institute in Russia for a year. After returning to China, I was still in a very depressed state of life. No matter how glamorous I looked on the outside, my heart was as calm as stagnant water. There was nothing to stimulate me. piqued my interest. I've always had an active profile following various positive people in society, but that's not me. I envy them, but at the same time I feel very anxious because I don’t know what to do to find the direction to do what I really want to do. Later, I didn’t even know what I liked anymore. Just like that, I lost myself.

When I was confused, I kept exploring my heart. I read a lot of psychology books to regulate my emotions and thoughts and make myself positive. I also understood why many things that happened to me in the past resulted in the current results. Just at the end of last year, by chance, I discovered an organization like Action. Action is a learning community that provides growth solutions for young people. It brings people who love learning together to make progress together and break through the framework of life. Actionists, as the name suggests, are people of action. They have strong execution ability, clear goals, firm hearts, and clear plans.

The Actionists held an Actionist Dream Ceremony in Xiamen at the end of last year, which was also a sharing conference. Many big names were invited to the meeting, such as the super individual life and career planner classical teacher, Li Shanglong, Honda Ken, action group founder Qiqi, Yi Ruchen, Gyatso Living Buddha, etc. to answer questions for young people. Unfortunately, due to various factors, I was unable to attend the conference even though I had obtained a ticket. However, my focus on activist activities did not stop there.

It wasn’t until this month that I discovered their latest activity on Beijing Action Weibo, which was to invite Susankuang, the author of “Slash Youth, How to Open Your Multiple Identities”, to give a reader sharing session. I follow Susankuang too. For a long time, the concepts of slash youth and second identity she proposed are very suitable for my personality. I usually read her works on the public *** account. When I think of meeting the role model with my own eyes, I don’t hesitate. Bought the tickets. As I expected, I gained a lot from this sharing meeting. It can be said that this meeting was an important catalyst for changing my thinking at this stage.

The following are the notes I compiled at the sharing meeting. Because there are many issues that are scattered, I have organized them into the following points:

First, people of our time What's going on

Through surveys, we found that 90% of people are striving to reach the top 5% of the pyramid, but in fact, what is the living status of those 5% at the top of the pyramid? It turns out that they are not happy. They stand at the top of the pyramid and wonder what the meaning of life is.

The 90% of people who are always striving to enter the 5% of fields have no idea. Because they blindly follow the trend, they don't even know what kind of future is waiting for them. Sadly, when they climbed to the top of the pyramid one day, they found themselves even more confused. Some people even commit suicide by jumping off a building with an annual salary of tens of millions. This is a very abnormal phenomenon. Carefully analyze the reason: everyone is not being themselves and cultivating their own advantages. Everyone is almost doing the same thing, making a screw in the world's factory. When the screw becomes old and rusty, a new screw will be replaced, so they are very replaceable. They have no own advantages or interests, so they are already unhappy when they are making screws. This also reminds us that we should start looking for our strengths, talents, and interests from now on, so that when we leave the company, we will not lose the focus of our lives.

Second, how to discover your own advantages

Everyone’s differences and differences are their own advantages. Everyone has their own advantages, so don’t worry and just look for them. . In the natural selection process, your pain is likely to be your advantage, and what nature has screened out is your advantage. Teacher Zhang Hui gave an example of himself. He said that he had been very anxious and depressed since he was young. He has been thinking about how his life should be lived to be meaningful, and what should be done to realize the value of his life. He is always very sensitive to his surroundings. It is precisely because of his sensitivity that he thinks more and more than ordinary people. deep. This is also the reason why he later insisted on writing and making a public account.

So, pay attention to yourself, analyze yourself, understand yourself, and you will discover your strengths and talents.

Third, how to turn interest into advantage

1. Do, the answer is at your feet.

First of all, you have to have time. Whether it’s a big time or a small time, do it whenever you have time and don’t put it off until later.

Secondly, don’t just stay in fantasy, do it if you think of it, even if what you are interested in may seem to others to be a very stupid thing, such as liking someone. Don't think about waiting until you meet all the conditions before you do it (wait until you have a mentor before you do it, wait until you have money before you do it, wait until you have someone to support you before you do it).

The other thing is to find your own third space. This space belongs only to you, without anyone disturbing you. You can practice various exercises and try various things on your own, ensuring that no one will laugh at you.

2. Implementation must be flexible. No matter where you are, whether you are traveling for work or working overtime, whether you do more or less, the key is persistence. Teacher Zhang Hui’s suggestion is to post on your WeChat Moments and make full use of your own WeChat Moments. Even if you do five push-ups every day, you should post them and record what you do. You will find that the people who scolded you at the beginning will stop after you persist. After a year, I have turned into admiring you. The most important thing is persistence. Believe me, most people can't do this.

3. Practice deliberately. If you are interested in something, practice it deliberately. It is said that it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert in a field, but for us ordinary people, 100 hours is enough to do one thing well. So if you want to do something, make a plan and invest 100 hours first. This is not a difficult task.

Fourth, don’t forget why you set out in the first place just to prove yourself. When pursuing something that everyone is doing, some people will give up their hobbies. But if you become unhappy at this time, it means that it is not what you want, it is just someone else's pursuit, and you just want to follow suit.

Summary: Don’t look at how big a well-known company you work in, or how many outstanding colleagues you have around you, just focus on yourself. Some people have worked at IBM for decades. When the company needs to lay off old employees and you are laid off, you will have nothing. Therefore, never mention the name of the company. The remaining title is yourself. You have to care about your own things. From now on, use your time outside of 8 or 12 hours a day to do what you want to do. This kind of life has meaning. This also slashes the way of life of young people.

Fifth, how to manage emotions

1. Awareness

You can meditate often in life, be aware of your emotions and thoughts through meditation, and do not Make decisions whenever you feel emotional.

2. Acceptance

Accept yourself, accept that you are a human being, accept that you have bad emotions, accept that you will make mistakes and be careless. Only when you truly accept everything about yourself can you truly move forward.

Accepting everything that happens in life also involves the issue of choice. What needs to be noted about choice is that we cannot abandon the past path and start over again, unless you think clearly, you are not suitable. If there is no better choice and you want to find out what your strengths are, then look back from the current road and think about what you did well in the past (such as applying nail polish) instead of always Think about whether you have chosen the wrong path. Believe that all experiences will turn into your advantage.

Everyone has a personal perspective and a God perspective. From a personal perspective, you always feel that you are worthless, but from a God's perspective, you have raised the entire dimension of your thinking, you have raised your vision, you regard yourself as a group, and look out from yourself. How many people are like you, you will no longer have various mood swings. When you are vulnerable, you can try to help people like you, and you will find a difference.

3. Talk

When you are emotional, you can talk to your friends around you. Most of the time, you don’t actually need to solve the problem. We can get a lot by just talking about the emotions in our hearts. Good comfort.

4. Divert your attention

You can put your attention on your breathing, such as running, or meditating, or just gently close your eyes and take a deep breath. When you do this, you will find that there is no one around you but yourself, and your mind will become quiet. You can even observe your own state. This is a process of self-improvement.

After many people have trained themselves for a long time, they will detect emotions within 3 seconds again, then control themselves and decide what to do. You can choose to continue to be angry in order to vent; you can also choose to change the way you think and solve the problem instead of being trapped in your emotions. Many things that happen are actually very neutral, neither good nor bad. The key lies in how you look at them.

Of course, this sharing session also raised many issues. The growth stories told by the sharing guests gave me great inspiration, so I will not list them all here. The whole sharing session was very fruitful. I would like to thank the Beijing Action Group for giving me this opportunity to sublimate my thoughts. High-frequency and high-dimensional people will always pull you to a level of thought so that you can overlook the whole thing and everything will become clear at a glance. Everything is calm and beautiful. We don't need to be anxious, confused, or confused. We just need to focus on ourselves and do the things we are doing at the moment.

At the end, I also sincerely wish everyone a positive life and communicate more with high-frequency and high-dimensional people. From them, we will not only see our own shadow, but also learn from their role models. Get the strength to move forward. The most important thing is that when we are with them, we feel the flow of love energy. Finally, I would like to give everyone the autograph that Susan gave me after the sharing session. I hope everyone can live their lives the way they want.