Philosophical articles on dealing with things: Learn to understand and tolerate

I think it was when I was about 30 years old, after experiencing many separations, misunderstandings and collisions in life, among friends, and in various complex and simple interpersonal relationships, that I suddenly realized : If a woman wants to laugh from the bottom of her heart and truly enjoy the ups and downs of life, she must have a tolerant heart and learn to forgive.

First of all, learn to forgive your friends and relatives. The closer people are, the more likely they are to have misunderstandings because they care too much about each other. That kind of misunderstanding is the burning pain that comes from under the cauldron. I have experienced it several times, and I can't explain or defend it. Outsiders see it as a joke, but I can't let it go in my dreams. At this time, the only thing that helps is time. Time will dilute many things and melt resentment. One day you will find that if you are a friend, you will definitely come back. The sooner you forget what you said or heard in anger, and the sooner you forgive the other person or yourself, the biggest beneficiary will not be the other person, but yourself, and you will be happy and relieved.

Secondly, we must learn to forgive people who are unreasonable or arrogant in life and work. Everyone understands the truth, but everyone's principles of truth are very different. I met a client at the negotiation table who made me tremble with anger. At that time, I thought that I had met the most unreasonable person in the world?! Later, I learned to think in other directions. Whenever I encountered someone who was unreasonable, For the opponent, try to think about the problem from his perspective, and soon you will find that they are not 100% unreasonable. Everyone is just in different positions and performing their own duties. If you don't stand in an opposing perspective, it's easy to think of solutions to problems.

Finally, forgive those annoying people or things you encounter in your life. For example, I was inexplicably knocked over by a stranger on the street; in a restaurant, the waiter used half a plate of food to dye all of my new dress; on a business trip out of town, a taxi driver deliberately took an extra 5 kilometers to get to the destination. ;Manicure, the girl who was not skilled enough and distracted almost had her fingernails lifted off?

Most people don’t mean to hurt us, they want to make us unhappy and unhappy, every time Everyone has his or her own difficulties, and everyone makes mistakes sometimes. We make mistakes, and so do others. It’s just unlucky that we catch up. If you forgive someone, they may remember you for a lifetime and thank you for your magnanimity. Even if you meet a white-eyed wolf who doesn't accept your forgiveness at all, at least you will be happy in your heart and can put this bad luck behind you. Quickly put it behind you.

I believe that God has an eye that is watching what each of us says and does. If you believe that there are many more good people than bad people in this world, and the bad people may not have a bad heart, God will arrange for more good people and good things to appear in your life.

Only in my late thirties did I understand that forgiveness can make a little girl grow into a grown woman, and giving up worrying about things can lead to freedom and happiness. I hope that children who read this article don’t have to wait until they are 30 to understand such a simple truth in life. They can learn to forgive from the age of 20, or even earlier.

Standing on the top of the hill and looking around, it is vast and vast. Only when you stand high can you see far and be broad-minded. The same is true in life.