Mind Mapping Reading —— the courage to be hated

Mind mapping is a method that can improve efficiency and use divergent thinking. Mind mapping can quickly read a book and find the answer you want.

Take Courage to Be Hate as an example.

First, write your current name, author, your name and time in the middle of the paper so that you can look it up later.

2. In the upper left corner of the paper, ask a question about this book that you want to ask most. My question is: how can I not be influenced by other people's emotions? Reading with questions, looking for answers and being able to answer yourself first are the essence of reading.

3. Open the table of contents of this book, find some topics you are interested in as your first topic, just like a tree, the thickest branch next to the trunk, and then spread it out slowly. For example: worry, inferiority, three major topics in life, courage, and living in the present.

Fourth, search for answers with questions you are interested in.

(1) Why do people have troubles? It is because people have all kinds of interpersonal relationships. Without interpersonal relationships, there is no trouble.

Why do people feel inferior?

Because of your inferiority complex, you always talk about your bad things, such as your bad growth experience and your physical defects. You think it is these bad experience defects that make you feel inferior.

(2) the opposite sense of superiority, people who habitually express their sense of superiority, is also because of inferiority. Can you believe it? But if I give an example, a person with ten fingers covered with red gem ring, do you know if she is showing off her wealth or has aesthetic problems? If she is showing off her wealth, is it because she is afraid that others will not know that she is rich and cover up her inferiority?

Your universal desire is at work. People are vying for fame and fortune in this society. Of course, you want to make progress every day and get closer to your goals every day, but when your abilities and goals don't match, you will feel inferior.

4 competition. No comparison, no harm. If you compare yourself with others, the result of comparison is that others are better than yourself. Can you not feel inferior? So, why compare with others?

(3) What are the three major topics in life? Make friends, work, fall in love. At the same time, I am self-reliant (I have the ability) and live in harmony with society (everyone is my partner).

(4) courage. What is the courage that the article has always emphasized?

It is to deny other people's approval, not to live to meet other people's expectations, and people should not interfere with each other (for example, you can take a horse to the river, but it is its problem that you can't force it to drink water), so other people's opinions are other people's topics, not yours. Emancipating interpersonal relationships is freedom. Don't think about money in return. Those who say that they are good for you and sacrifice their time and life for you are just moral abductions. If you want to be happy, you must have the courage to be hated.

5. Live in the moment.

Too much self-awareness will limit yourself (for example, speaking for fear of being laughed at)

(2) Not affirming myself, but accepting myself (facing the challenges in life, I obviously can't do it, but I am still suggesting that I can do it. It's better to accept who you are, what you can't change, and what you can change.

Life is a series of moments, a continuation of the moment of "now". Adults who don't understand this always want to force young people to live a "line" life, but life can't be a line, they can only live in the present.

(4) billy elliott has no destination. For example, if you go climbing, the purpose of climbing is not to climb to the top of the mountain, but to climb the mountain itself. It doesn't matter whether you can climb to the top in the end. From the moment you set out, climbing has already begun.

Life has no universal meaning. The meaning of life lies in yourself.

6. My strength is infinite. If I change, the world will change.

Attached is today's mind map.