How to learn to chat?

A high EQ means that you can know your emotions, dominate your life, be good at communicating with others, face all the people around you calmly and adapt to the new environment quickly.

1, compliment each other

Everyone likes nice words. When you go to the store to buy clothes, when you are hesitant, the shopping guide will always say "this dress suits you" and "white and thin" ... and then you will find that it really suits you, so go and buy clothes.

In interpersonal communication, we often praise each other to bring our relationship closer. If you don't think of any good topics for the time being, you can praise each other's quality first.

For example, "the dress you are wearing today suits you very well." It's really good. " "Your big eyes are so cute!" Your mouth is red today, which really matches your makeup. Pay attention to the specific content, otherwise it will appear perfunctory and powerless.

Or in the chat, he said a better skill than you, and you can also praise each other appropriately.

2. Understand each other's emotions and moods

Everyone is eager to be understood and recognized. A person who can chat with high emotional intelligence must be a person who can think of each other very much.

He can read the other person's current emotional state, the tone of conversation, and the meaning of a sentence.

For example, a person tells you that he hasn't found a suitable job for a long time. At this time, you should know that he is in an anxious state, and you need to comfort him appropriately.

"It is not easy to find a job at this time, and I will be confused and anxious. I have experienced such a thing before. In a good mood, take your time and you will always find the right one. "

When you empathize with other people's problems, you can better understand their feelings and help them solve this problem better, and he will trust you more and like you more.

Don't say too much when others want something from you.

Sometimes people will meet someone who wants something from you. Don't respond to him casually. If you promise to save face or feelings, it will be difficult to ride a tiger without doing it.

I promised from the beginning, if something goes wrong in the middle, it will disappoint the other party, and maybe there will be some contradictions. So don't talk too much.

You have to tell the other person that you will do your best, but also tell him that he won't blame you if you can't do it. He will appreciate you if you do this, and he won't blame you if you don't succeed.

4. Emphasize what others have said and don't interrupt others.

Have you ever met someone who suddenly asked a question irrelevant to your topic when you were happily sharing something with him? Are you still in the mood to continue sharing with him at this time?

For example, he told you that you were praised by the leader at work today, because your performance was very good. You can say that you are getting more and more comfortable with your work now, and your performance will definitely get better and better. In other words, the job is well done and the prospects can be improved.

Emphasize what others have said, don't interrupt others, you can make him feel that you have been listening carefully and give a positive response, which will help the other party to continue talking, and the communication between you will be particularly pleasant.

5. When chatting with people, ask questions with open topics.

For example:

Open topic: How are you getting along in your new company?

Closed topic: What do you think of the new company?

Open topics can be extended indefinitely. After you ask questions, the other person can answer them freely and extend them in many ways. But closed topics can't be extended, and you may become a chat terminator.

Chat with someone with high emotional intelligence, so that others can trust you and like you, instead of just saying, "This person really can't chat!" When the other person thinks of you.