Desperate to save face and ruin your life.

Desperate to save face and ruin your life.

Text/Li Yueliang

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A good girl fell in love with a good boy and had a good relationship.

However, this feeling was strongly opposed by the girl's parents.

Because the young man had a car accident when he was a teenager, his left leg was not very bright and he walked a little lame.

"I am a good daughter, why should I marry a lame man?" They said.

The girl said: He can run, jump, drive and play ball. He is smart, sensible, optimistic and capable. You all saw how good he was to me. What's wrong with this leg except that it doesn't look good? I can accept that. What are you fighting for?

Her parents said: We can accept it from the heart, but what will others think? Let people know that my son-in-law is a basket case. Where should we put our faces?

The two sides fought 800 rounds. The girl had to run away from home, the mother had to cut her wrist with a knife, and the father had to cut off the relationship between father and daughter.

Finally, the girl compromised and broke up with the young man. I haven't been in love for four years.

At the age of 30, the girl finally has a boyfriend. When it was time to get married, the girl's parents asked for a bride price of120 thousand.

The man's family is average and he is only willing to pay 30 thousand.

The girl's mother said that if you give me120,000, I will refund you10,000 immediately. When you say that, both families have face. Give 30 thousand when you come up. Relatives and friends asked, what can I say? My daughter cannot get married. Is it on sale?

The man said, we borrowed money to buy a wedding room in full, and now we have to borrow the bride price, but we can't borrow it.

Then the marriage collapsed.

The girl is thirty-five now and still single.

When her parents go out, acquaintances always ask, "Did your daughter find it?" This makes them angry and helpless. When they got home, they scolded their daughter and said, "We lost all our faces."

The girl's mood can be imagined.

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There is a sadder story.

A girl from a foreign company married an American boss and immigrated to new york. The whole family feels very proud, and even primary school students have more capital to show off: one of my classmates immigrated to new york and called me overseas yesterday. ...

But how does she live in America?

Husband is on a business trip for a long time. She is alone, without friends, job, talk about capital and sense of belonging. In her own words: like a lonely stray dog.

Later, I finally had a child, but my love was gone-her husband fell in love with an Italian girl and wanted to divorce her.

She refused to die. Because she left her husband, she couldn't live in America at all, so she had to go back to China.

However, in those days, she walked out in a glamorous way in the envious eyes of everyone, but now she has to take her children back in vain. This contrast is too great for her to accept.

So I'm struggling. Husband hardly goes home, and she is also in a hurry to take care of the children and wash the dishes for others.

I also know that if I can put down my face and go back to China, the situation will be much better, but she just feels embarrassed to come back when she thinks about it.

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Have to say, China people's pursuit of face, has reached the point of outrageous.

From inviting guests to dinner to getting married, "face" is a big measure.

To save face, boasting a calf, telling a little lie, having a small fight and buying some luxury goods is harmless and understandable.

But when it comes to important events in life, it is foolish to put face first, preferring to give up substantial happiness and save face.

To save face, I cut my kidney to buy an iphone.

Drinking and vomiting blood to save face.

To save face, give up true love and marry a person who is not suitable at all.

In order to save face and keep a ruined marriage, I would rather die than divorce.

In order to save face and face the best opportunity, I dare not start a business.

To save face, I know there is something wrong, but I don't repent. I stubbornly support it, and small mistakes make big mistakes.

Live for face, die for face, and ruin your life for face.

It's terrible to think about it.

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We must save face, sometimes because we are afraid. Afraid of jokes, contempt and pointing fingers.

Sometimes it's because of desire. I am eager to be admired, respected and known as "I am awesome".

It's normal for people to be proud. But it really should be enough. If you feel that your face is bigger than the sky, life will be tragic.

Because face is for others to see, and days are your own feelings. If you always sacrifice your lining to save face, you will eventually live a decent life.

For unnecessary vanity, suffer for life. Isn't this the most stupid and ridiculous behavior?

And the face that comes out of death often makes you lose face in the end.

Face is a big burden in people's minds. The more you care about it, the heavier it is, and the more you will be subject to it.

And when you learn to distinguish and let go of unnecessary face, your life will be much smoother.

Therefore, if you are already worried about the face problem and feel that you are about to lose face, it is better to say "Who do you love" silently and then let go.

Or, if you want to do something that is obviously beneficial to you, but you hesitate to struggle because you are afraid of other people's eyes, then please hold your head high and say to yourself: Whatever, my life is for myself.