What do you mean, others are hell?

Sartre, a famous existentialist philosopher, published the famous philosophical drama "Confinement" in 1944. Garcin, the hero, and Ines and estelle, the two heroines, are ghosts who died soon. They lived in the living room of the Second Reich, a hell without bloody instruments of torture, a little devil, mirrors, windows and beds. On the one hand, the three of them hide their ugly behavior from each other (the three are cowards, erotics and homosexuals respectively), on the other hand, they can't find out each other's sins before they die, so they use each other and intrigue with each other, and all three suffer. Finally, all three people found that everyone was a hell for others. "Everyone else is hell" is what Garcin, the hero of the play, said.

Garcin said, "I never imagined that there would be sulfur, blazing fire and branded iron bars in hell. This is really a big joke! No need for sulfur, fire, iron bars, hell, it's someone else! "

Quite a few people in the world really live in hell because they rely too much on other people's judgment.

A socialized person can only prove the value of his existence if he is affirmed by others. To this end, in the interaction with others, I often change myself against my will in order to win the approval of others. As a result, I was painfully distorted by "others", and "others" became a "hell" that I didn't want to go but had to go.

American scholar Mark Boal Lane once said a classic sentence: "One of the signs of a person's maturity is to understand that 99% of what happens to him every day is meaningless to others."

"Others are hell" exactly means: "Heaven is lonely or isolated." If you live alone, no one can be a "person"-we make each other a "person". Our humanity is infected by others. As human beings, we are the product of this social infection. Therefore, we will be so uneasy in front of our sociality. If no one else exists, we can't be us. But being with others often makes us feel uncomfortable. Living together in society is never a painless thing. Why is this happening? Perhaps it is because living with * * * is so important to us, because we place too much hope on it and feel too much fear, because the strong demand to live with * * * bothers us.

Is he hell? Only when others reveal to us an omnipotent liberal dream that we like to imagine ourselves in the immature period of complacency will our life become like hell. Do we have to live in communication barriers? Of course, if we understand "communication" as that others can spontaneously and fully understand what we think we want to express, then we can say that there is a "communication barrier", but everything is only relative. We must admit that asking to be understood is different from letting ourselves be understood. The first premise of good communication is to try to understand the people we ask to understand us.

1965, Sartre made a comprehensive explanation of "others are hell" when recording "confinement". His explanation contains the following meanings: if your relationship with others is distorted and deteriorated, then others can only be hell; If others think you are what you are, you live what you are, and others are your hell; If you are bound by a series of old rules and don't try to change them, you are like a living dead living in a spiritual hell; If you are free to crush external imprisonment without taking action, you are free to throw yourself into hell.

He added that others are important, and the self can only know itself through others, and even get the feeling of being recognized through Hegelian "master-slave struggle" with others. Sartre's warning is that if the relationship between self and others deteriorates and self relies too much on the evaluation of others, it will lead to "others are hell"

You should be clear about the script of your life-it is not a sequel to your parents, a prequel to your children, or a foreign story of your friends. You might as well take risks with your life, because you will lose it anyway. If there is a miracle in this world, it is just another name for hard work. The most difficult stage of life is not that no one knows you, but that you don't know yourself. -Nietzsche

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