How to be a transparent person?

There was a woman who married her husband even though she knew that he had a boyfriend and was close. She said that she was formally married, which was an understatement. What most people think is that she must love him very, very much and can't extricate herself. As long as she can be together, she doesn't care. No, if you love, it is absolutely intolerable. Just listen to her own description of her life. She goes to work, comes back to read books, cooks exquisite food, listens to music, watches exhibitions, and has time to travel around the world. Her nominal husband, on the other hand, is a good partner with high quality and competence, who can accompany her and be busy in his own life. And she, as a good friend, respects him, and often blesses and teases them when they are together, and he will give her a bunch of favorite gadgets with a smile. This kind of life, the average person can't imagine, but they enjoy themselves.

after listening to this story, what I think most is, how can a woman practice to live such a life and be so transparent?

in the traditional world, "men should marry when they are older, and women should marry when they are older", and they are all urged by their elders at a certain age. So, the man married in a daze, the woman married in a daze, and then had children, and then the daily necessities ... Then, the man became a greasy middle-aged man, and the woman became a tough middle-aged woman. This kind of life, many people disagree, however, they are unconsciously becoming one of them.

So what is transparency and how can we be a transparent person?

Have you ever met unreasonable people in your life? These unreasonable people not only make you speechless, but sometimes make you lament that there are such people in the world. It is these unreasonable people who are often indignant themselves. Their views and ideas about their children, relatives, friends and even everything around them are incomprehensible, but he has his own reasons that may be illogical or unreasonable.

"Well frogs can't talk to the sea, summer insects can't talk to ice, and ordinary people can't talk to the road." I deeply feel that Zhuangzi has a point, and the root of it is truth! Zhuangzi said "no", that is to say "yes" is useless, because their thinking is in another dimension, and what you said is just a waste of energy and an increase in trouble. Think about it, when you talk to someone who doesn't understand, it takes more effort than casting pearls before swine, because you don't just don't understand, it's just importune, and your pains and pains end up with an unnecessary joke and some irritation. Ha ha, so why?

Then you must have met some people. You can't help but want to communicate with them. They always respect you, instruct you appropriately, arrange people and things around you properly, and make people get along with him. They always have unique views on things and can see the deep meaning of things through superficial phenomena. Such a person must be a transparent person. If you can meet him, please cherish the karma. He is definitely a noble person in your life.

then how can we become a transparent person?

First of all, although people are the same in personality, they will form different personality ladders due to the influence of environment, background, cognition, culture and experience. Finding people who share the same frequency with themselves is not only a kind of enjoyment, but also an improvement. Keeping away from vulgar people is not only a kind of torture, but also a kind of internal friction. The so-called "no common cause, no common goal, no common goal."

Secondly, in life, everyone's situation is different, and they have different views on things. Different positions, don't ask for understanding, this is to respect others; Different levels, don't explain, this is respect for yourself. Let yourself find the right position and try your best to get along with people at the same level, so that you can get along happily and be stable and far-reaching.

Thirdly, those who understand reason and live a transparent life are externalized with high cognition and high cultivation, and they all have deep awe and compassion for heaven and earth and sentient beings, and live a light and advanced life by spending more time with them.

Finally, if there are no such people around, I suggest you read more books, sage books and classics, and don't spend yourself in bubble dramas, games, useless communication and boring pastimes. Life is not easy, life is short, I hope you can live a down-to-earth, serious and full life.

I'd like to * * * encourage you.

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