Face a joke

From "Cold Mountain Picking up Topics"

Hanshan asked, "What should I do if someone slanders me, deceives me, humiliates me, laughs at me, belittles me, looks down on me and deceives me?"

Pickup replied, "Just put up with him, let him go, avoid him, put up with him, respect him, ignore him, stay a few more years, and you will see him."

That's how people live. Some people laugh at you, some envy you, some hate you, some envy you, some despise you, some frame you up, and some misunderstand you. It doesn't matter. Tell yourself that society is like this. Everything you do cannot satisfy everyone.

You have to understand that you are not RMB, and you can't make everyone like you perfectly, but we just have a clear conscience. To paraphrase, no one in the world is worth your sadness, and the one who is, doesn't want you to be sad. Similarly, it is not worth worrying about irrelevant people. ...

Gossip is an affirmation of your success. Those who ridicule and criticize you are just jealous of your strength, go your own way, and don't care too much about other people's comments.

Answer: When I am laughed at, criticized or framed by others, I will face it calmly. If I don't do well, take it as a joke and an incentive! Learn from it and hope to do better. Ignore him if he is ugly. I was born when my parents liked me! Family harmony, loving husband and wife, filial children. Anyway, there is nothing wrong with behaving properly, not stealing or robbing, and relying on your own efforts. As for framing, I can't think of anything people want to frame me for. Anyway, I don't do anything wrong at ordinary times, and it's not surprising to knock at the door in the middle of the night. The Qing dynasty is self-cleaning! If people deliberately frame themselves, they will only follow suit.

People who have been there tell you that you can't stand it! The more patient you are, the more serious your psychological problems will be. You must find out in time that the other party is attacking yourself with words and refute it in time, so as to release the psychological pressure exerted by the other party at the first time. If you don't do it, most of your inner anxiety will last for several years, which will add up to depression.

Clean and kind inside,

Tao eliminates criticism and cannot be born.

When you are framed, you will become ignorant.

I suggest you cultivate your morality to cultivate your sexual desire.

Looking at intelligent life,

Don't live your whole life wholeheartedly.

[Smile] [Smile] [Smile] [Smile] Are you serious? [Smile] [Smile] [Smile]

Normal, people living in this world are like this, either you laugh at me or I laugh at you, or you slander me or I slander you, which is not uncommon.

The purpose of this question is: when being laughed at, criticized and framed by others, how can I keep my heart from being chaotic?

The above picture is a simple schematic diagram: a is the reason: it is the joke, criticism and frame-up asked in the title; B is the psychological processing process: it refers to what changes and reactions have taken place after external events entered our hearts; C and d are the results of internal processing of external events, which are either chaotic or not.

From this picture, we can know that the reason why our hearts are chaotic or not lies in stage B-psychological processing process, that is, what changes and reactions have taken place after external events entered our hearts.

Therefore, if you want to change the result of C or D, you can only change the psychological processing process of B stage.

In the process of stage B treatment, the most important point is our opinion. For the same thing, in fact, everyone is exposed to the same event itself, just because everyone has different views on the event, so they will make different reactions. For example, in the face of the same rainy weather, some people will feel very romantic, while others will feel very depressed, so different people will have two completely different reactions: happy or unhappy.

Back to the topic itself, when encountering jokes, criticisms and frame-ups, the best way to keep calm is to only pay attention to your own right and wrong, and don't care about other people's attitudes. Paying attention to other people's attitudes will inevitably make you think about what others say, right? What is right? What's the matter? In this process, your heart has been led away by the attitude of others. You will be happy when others praise you, and you will be sad or even angry when others criticize you, so your heart will naturally be chaotic. But when you only pay attention to your own right or wrong, you will know that you are right, but others don't know the situation, and time will tell. At this time, you can keep your heart from being chaotic.

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Fear is because you lack self-confidence.

1. Lack of analysis and judgment, I don't know what cards others will play, what means and routines they will play, and what consequences they will have.

Their own strength is not strong and they can't stand setbacks. Can't stand the pressure.

3. No response measures and courage.

Solution:

1. obey the law and take the right path.

2. Do your job well. Improve yourself and enhance your strength.

3. Use spare time to strengthen study and improve the ability of analysis and judgment.

4. Be kind to others. When encountering problems, put yourself in the other person's shoes, understand each other, think more about others, and avoid conflicts with others.

5. Face the reality, use static braking, convince people by reasoning, keep the bottom line, analyze the reasons and prescribe the right medicine.

6. To understand the true meaning of the sentence "yamen pass in and out" of Emperor Taizong.

Do you know that sharpening a knife does not miss the woodcutter? Instead of being angry with a villain and making yourself unhappy, it is better to take it lightly. Losing your temper is not a skill. It is a skill to suppress your temper, precipitate yourself, and show yourself better and stronger when you are caught off guard. Then silence will speak louder than words. The best revenge for slander and ridicule is stronger, and everything will be solved.

There is truth in the heart, justice in the heart, and land under the feet, so there is no chaos. It is true that gold loves scouring, and gold begins with scouring yellow sand. Real people don't mess around, and evil things eventually become ghosts.