What does a person go through to become gentle?

What people experience will make them gentle

What people experience will make them gentle. In life, people need to experience many things and people. After experiencing these various things, Only then will you become mature. Below I will share a related article about what people go through to become gentle. Let’s take a look! What experiences make people gentle 1

When some people grow up, just because they have experienced too many painful things, they no longer want to take the initiative to talk to others, and their expressions are cold towards strangers. Yes, it is easy to become indifferent to more and more people and things. Once a stranger approaches, her tone will become gentle and she will be very polite to everyone, but no one can enter her heart. In this world, the corners of the mouth are downturned and there are few smiles.

Although she has become very gentle to her friends and strangers who take the initiative, she will never smile at a stranger, someone who hurts her, someone she hates. Instead, they will always be treated like air and ignore them, let alone forgive them.

"Tenderness" is a manifestation of dealing with others. When you get along with gentle people, your soul will gain peace and comfort.

"Gentle" people are not good people, but have their own principles and bottom lines, and know what they want very rationally.

"Gentleness" is also a change of mood. As many people say, the older people are, the more emotional they are, which is also a sign of gentleness. At first, we only care about one thing and one person. Later, we will pay attention to many things and care for more people. The breeze caresses the weeds, and the power of life can bring tears to your eyes.

A "gentle" person is not necessarily lonely, but there is not a single person who understands loneliness and is truly "lonely". The end of "loneliness" does not necessarily mean fear, there may be a beautiful rainbow and the person you want to wait for the most.

Only those who have experienced suffering will understand the importance of gentleness, respect themselves and treat others with gentleness. We can't change others, so we have to learn to get along well with the world.

Haruki Murakami once said, "After passing through the storm, you are no longer the same person." And we can't imagine what everyone has gone through. We can only retain the softness in our hearts.

Gentle and clean, it does not tell the story of love and hate like romance, but like a gentle wind blowing through your heart. What experiences make people gentle 2

Gentle people have two endings: one is well protected and unaware of the darkness in the world; the other becomes calm after struggling alone in the darkness . ”

The eyes of gentle people all reveal a quiet, warm, and peaceful look. From their perspective, the whole world is gentle.

The corners of the mouth of gentle people There is always a faint smile on the side, which makes people feel friendly, sincere and peaceful.

Therefore, when we face gentle people, it is often difficult to get really angry, every time we see them innocent. When you look into your eyes, all the anger will dissipate.

We will be curious about what happened to such a gentle person to be so kind.

People are so considerate that it feels unreal, but they are also meticulous.

In fact, when a person becomes very gentle, he often goes through three stages, just like practicing a magical skill. If you don't survive, you will fall into endless darkness; but once you survive, you will be reborn.

The first level: extreme and simple kindness.

Every gentle person is essentially a kind person. Before they become gentle, they are simple and extremely kind to others. People at this level don't know what it means. They are deceitful and will not engage in intrigues. They think that everyone is as kind as themselves.

Therefore, this kind of people are the easiest to be bullied. This is what we often say: "People are bullied when they are kind." Good to be ridden. ”

There are two types of gentle people. The first type is those who are well protected and do not know the darkness of the world. To get such a reward, I don’t know how many lives of luck you have accumulated.

So most gentle people tend to belong to the second type: they see all the darkness in the world, then struggle alone, and finally become calm.

The second level: After experiencing the pain of the world, wandering on the edge of darkness.

Compared to ordinary people, extremely kind people are more likely and faster to come into contact with the dark side of the world.

I thought that everyone in this world would be as kind and gentle as myself, so after experiencing all the pain in the world, I would be more sad than ordinary people, and it would be harder to heal.

When we bless others, we often say: "May you be treated gently by the world."

But when someone really shows kindness, they often don't receive gentleness in return. , and even take advantage of the other person's kindness to hurt him in return.

Kind people tend to be more sensitive, so they will feel more pain from these injuries.

After being hurt again and again and suffering again and again, he began to wander on the edge of darkness.

Either fall into the abyss of endless darkness and become a person who is no longer gentle; or see the world completely clearly and become a numb person.

Or, starting to enter the third level.

The third level: sublimate yourself, control yourself, and achieve inner balance.

If a kind person does not fall into darkness, he will sublimate himself and become a gentle person from then on.

So most gentle people are people with very strong hearts. Because they have all gone through a painful time.

If you can't survive it, you will fall into the abyss; if you survive it, you will be reborn.

Just like the phoenix that is reborn from nirvana, it will experience the pain of burning before being reborn.

After rebirth, they are still kind. It's just that it is no longer the simple and extreme kindness it once was, but another kind of kindness that looks down upon the end of the prosperity of the world. It is a kind of kindness with a bottom line and principles.

We gave them another, more appropriate word: gentleness.

After getting through it, they began to be able to control their emotions and gain inner balance. They know that there are many dark sides in this world, but after experiencing the second level of pain, those darkness can no longer arouse inner waves.

This is the second ending of a gentle person.

Conclusion

When you meet a very gentle person, please do not try to use their kindness to cause harm to them, because it is very likely that they came from the darkness.

Or you can try to be gentle in return, and you will find that they will cherish it very much.

Whether it is being treated gently or being cherished, it is a great blessing in life. Why should we destroy and corrupt it?

Finally, I would like to wish everyone who reads this article: "May the world treat you gently for the rest of your life." What experiences will make people gentle 3

"I lied to you, I I have never liked you at all."

"I know, in fact, I have known it for a long time."

Looking at him tilting his head with questions on his face, he opened his bright Kazilan in surprise. The big eyes blinked and blinked, and my little heart suddenly started pounding. At this moment I knew I couldn't fall any further, otherwise I would lose.

"Actually, as early as three months ago, I found out that you lied to me. In fact, you don't like me at all. You have always just used me as a spare tire and the value for money in your fish pond. I'm raising a taller golden fish, you sea king!"

"So you... you're not stupid"

"No, I'm completely stupid"

< p> Facing him, who lowered his head and remained silent for a long time, with his hands raised, I instantly felt that his whole person had become a little dim, he had lost his attractiveness, and I could no longer see the brilliance of his body. At this moment, he is no longer the humorous, confident, sunny and cute boy he once was, but more like a child who has done something wrong and doesn't know how to deal with it. I missed the good times, and I cursed myself for being hopeless. I knew that the man in front of me didn't like me, but I just couldn't resist the temptation. Now when I think back to the tricks he used to deceive me, I not only lament that he is really a master in love.

My memories

I still remember the first time he attracted me half a year ago was when he posted a movie review in WeChat Moments. It just so happened that this movie happened to be one that I had seen and published before. The content he wrote was extremely attractive to me. I noticed him at that time, but did not react.

The second time he attracted me was when he published an article about the scenery of R City in WeChat Moments. I happened to be studying this field and liked R City very much, and when he published it, I I am doing research on R city tourism. He would like and comment on the beautiful photos I took in R City. After that, he would chat with me on WeChat about the relevant content and precautions for visiting tourist attractions in R City three times a week on average. I found that he and I have very similar interests and hobbies, and we have very similar views on some events. As time goes by, we chat more and more frequently, and the content becomes more and more enjoyable.

Faced with his request for something, I agreed without hesitation; faced with his invitation, I readily accepted it; faced with his help, I calmly accepted it. During this period of time together, I admitted that our relationship was approaching the ambiguous stage, and I found that I was a little bit lost. I thought I might have fallen in love with him, and I also confidently thought that he liked me. But during the next three months of getting along, the truth hit me hard in the face.

I found that he has a bad temper and likes to swear when he is unhappy; I find that he is very stubborn and is unwilling to bow his head even though he knows that he has done something wrong; I find that he is very strong and cannot bear my accusations. I like to talk back; I find that he is very selfish, and he becomes more serious when he makes a little joke; I find that he is very impatient, and always answers questions in a few words; I find that he is very insecure, and is always trying to trick me; I find that he I'm very lazy, I don't fold the quilt when I sleep, and I order takeout when I eat; I found that he likes to talk what he means, and he obviously wanted to care about me on the street that day, but he chose to care about the car; I found that he was stiff-talking, and he clearly wanted to say that I love you. Okay, I have to say that I lost money.

I found that he is very cute. When I express my affection for him, he will be as happy as a child; I find that he has a strong self-esteem and cannot stand my rejection. If I refuse, he will be extremely angry; I find that he is actually He is just a talkative talker, and his words are very tasteless; I found that he is very fickle, and he will do things after a while that he refused a second ago; I found that he will not insist on doing things, and he will do things when he encounters difficulties. When things got a bit difficult, I gave up halfway; I found that he was the wind and would never stop for anyone. I once read this passage on the Internet: When a person doesn't like you, all you see in him is his personality. Before I encountered a situation like his, I still didn’t believe it, but now I believe it.

After I clearly realized that he actually didn’t like me, the castle in my heart seemed to collapse. When I received his message again, I was no longer the silly girl holding the camera and smiling happily, nor was I the stupid girl who eloquently sent him a long string of texts after receiving the message. The stupid girl who made random assumptions because he didn't reply for a while, instead wanted to not reply, want to vent, and wanted to scold him. I don’t know what kind of mentality I should use to face him now, and I don’t know what his real thoughts are, but what I am sure of is that I can’t let myself make mistakes anymore, I can’t deceive myself anymore, I I have to end this wishful relationship.

His defense

"So, I was tricked by you? Your purpose of asking me out this time is to make me reject you!" He That low and gentle tone brought me back from the dreamland of memory. I looked clearly at the handsome man in front of me and his eyes that revealed pity. For some reason, I felt the urge to cry.

"What else? Continue to deceive yourself and pretend to be an ignorant little white rabbit." I suppressed the feeling of crying in my heart, and then pretended to be fearless and calm. "You are so boring." "

"That's funny. What do you mean? Are you trying to fool me? You're so cruel.

You bad woman, you give me hope again and again and then let it shatter again and again."

At this moment, his mood fluctuated a bit. I could clearly feel a breath approaching me, and my chest felt tight. I was a little out of breath; even though there was a table in front of me, I was still a little scared, and my actions became a little overwhelmed, and my face said: What is going on? Why did he suddenly change his face? Are you complaining to me?

“Ah, it’s like this every time! I hate seeing you like this little white rabbit who doesn't know anything. Don't you know anything about what you're doing? "

"No! I...what did I do? "

"You are indeed a little goblin who can torture people. Lure me step by step into your sweet trap. When I came in, you ruled me out. I am... it's true... guess... I can't guess you? "

When he saw that I was silent, he turned his head and looked at the natural scenery outside the window, feeling the spring breeze from nature, which seemed to wash away the irritable emotions.

I’m starting to understand

At this moment, I looked at the young man in front of me who was sometimes sad, sometimes at a loss, and sometimes angry, and I seemed to see myself remembering that ignorant girl in love, knowing that I was being raped. After I didn't like my boyfriend cheating, I was as angry as he was now. He was so similar to me in the past. We are both sensitive and attach too much importance to our own feelings, but ignore the other person's feelings; we are both bad at expressing. We dare not say important things, but we listen too seriously to jokes; we are all afraid of getting hurt, and once we feel that we are not taken seriously, we immediately turn into hedgehogs and arm ourselves, but forget that the other person is a friend who once talked about everything; we all I magnified my own contribution, but could not see the other person’s contribution; it turns out that in the world of love, we are all selfish and blind. His appearance made me realize that I have never reconciled with my past self. < /p>

"Thank you for coming to me. You are still that energetic young man, so cute. "

I held my chin with both hands and looked at him with admiration in my eyes. He was a little surprised and lowered his head subconsciously. I guess he was shy.

" Tell me, who is lying to whom? "

When he asked this, I suddenly felt a little elated.

"Is the truth important? Take me home, this time you can send it downstairs."

After saying that, I got up and left. We walked and talked and laughed on the asphalt road with zebra crossings, like a couple Friends who had just met were talking about the things they liked about each other, their eyes would collide from time to time, and they would smile knowingly at each other's shining eyes, and then look at the lights in the distance. At this moment, I saw the light on him again, as if. It became more dazzling.

Under the shining of that light, I understood that he did not belong to me, I understood that we met at the wrong time, I understood that I could not help him, and I knew that I wanted to return him. Give it to the sea, otherwise I won’t be able to grow up.