If you encounter PUA, how to fight back?

When you meet PUA, you should fight back like this:

The first point: believe in yourself and find yourself. The most important thing to escape from gaslight operators is to find confidence. No matter what others say, I firmly believe that I am a smart, capable and worthy of being loved, thus taking the first step towards freedom. So, when your boss satirizes your appearance.

When laughing at your taste, don't think, "Is he right?" Instead, I thought, "Why does he always look for a sense of existence by belittling others? His evaluation is worthless to me. "

Second, ask your "flight attendant". On the plane, it can be seen from the flight attendant's behavior that the turbulence just now is only a temporary unstable airflow, or the beginning of a serious air crash. Similarly, in life, we need a reliable and credible "flight attendant".

Help us see if the person who put you under great psychological pressure is mentally abusing you. This "flight attendant" may be the closest friend, family member, or even a psychotherapist. When we are in a painful relationship, outsiders can help us make better judgments.

Finally, counter bullying. Many times, even if employees suffer from painful mental abuse in the workplace, they are still reluctant to seek outside support and help, but comfort themselves that "the workplace is like this" and "I must not do well enough, so I will just stick to it". Part of this psychology stems from the unconsciousness of one's own situation.

The other part is out of concern for work and career development. In this case, the victim's counterattack often requires great courage and all kinds of support. This kind of support and help may come from family, friends, colleagues and other superiors. This kind of companionship is definitely for the victims.

It is also a kind of recognition and encouragement. Actions like Yamy's fighting back against bullying may not change Xu's attitude, but may also affect helping friends and even future career development. But on the whole, fighting back can effectively help victims heal their mental trauma.

Get out of the predicament of self-doubt and self-repression and start a new life with a more positive attitude. In our life, the manipulation of gas lamps is very hidden. It takes advantage of our deep desire and need to be understood, appreciated and loved. When people we trust, respect or love appear in our lives as gas lamp operators.

When it exerts a subtle influence on our cognitive concept, it is often difficult for us not to have self-doubt. Therefore, whether in emotional relationships or in workplace relationships, we should always examine and reflect on whether we are in a distorted, uncomfortable and unequal state. As long as you feel uncomfortable, turn off the gas and find yourself.