People are at the bottom, please put yourself in "silent mode"

Everyone's life will always experience a dark and helpless time.

Many people hope to have a lamp to light up for themselves and let them walk through the bumps in front of them safely

However, reality often backfires. In those bleak days of life, most of us gritted our teeth and got through it silently.

There is a classic line in The Shawshank Redemption:

"Everyone is his own god. At any time, only you can really pull you up from the abyss. "

When people are at a low tide, it is the wisest choice to turn themselves into "silent mode"

let off steam

I heard a friend tell me an experience.

After graduating from college, she went to Guangzhou to work hard alone.

As a newcomer in the workplace, she is under great pressure. She works late every day and often forgets to eat.

After an overtime, it was already ten o'clock in the evening. On the way home, my friend packed a bowl of porridge.

Who knows where to rent a house, only to find that the elevator is out of power for maintenance.

I managed to climb to the sixth floor, accidentally slipped my hand, and the porridge bag fell to the ground, and sticky porridge spilled into my shoes. ......

In an instant, physical exhaustion, inner grievances, loneliness and bitterness in a foreign land all come to mind.

She couldn't help it anymore, squatting in the stairwell and crying at her best friend.

The other party responded faintly: "This thing is not worth crying, wash and sleep."

At that moment, my friend suddenly realized that no matter how good the relationship is, people can never feel the same.

Sometimes, those things that make you feel extremely wronged may seem like trivial things to others;

Sometimes, the tragic experience you are talking about is just the talk of people around you after dinner.

As written in "I don't know what's in my heart":

"Our hearts, our meat, are all grown by ourselves. They are sweet, sour and bitter, and only they know the taste. Don't pin your hopes on others, don't ask others to understand your feelings, and it's no use shouting. "

When everyone is down and out, I hope someone can understand your depression and help you resolve your depression.

The joys and sorrows between people are not connected, and all the hardships will eventually be borne silently by one person.

Chekhov created a "male version of Sister Xianglin" in the novel Distress.

Yao Na, an old driver, is at the bottom of society. He lost his wife in his early years, and then his son died unexpectedly.

Faced with these misfortunes, he told everyone about his sadness and begged some comfort from others.

Some people will ask politely, how did the child die?

Others said impatiently: Everyone will die.

After a long time, some people even fell asleep at the moment when he was ready to open his mouth, without even perfunctory. ......

Sometimes, complaining to everyone will not only get no sympathy, but also get others' disgust and lose their last dignity.

Real mature people have learned to swallow their own sufferings and carry them when they are tired.

As Cai Kangyong said:

"It's not a lack of humanity, it's not worth telling others, because only you know best!"

Don't listen to gossip.

Two years ago, 40-year-old Jiaozi became a hot director in China with a Nezha.

However, Jiaozi's road to fame was not easy, and she was ridiculed all the way.

Jiaozi, formerly known as Yu Yang, is the high flyers of a medical university.

After graduating from college, he gave up his stable job in the hospital and devoted himself to his favorite animation industry.

In those days, he stayed at home and studied animation every day. He didn't go out to work and had no other income. He relies on his mother to help him live.

At that time, almost everyone thought that the young man had not done his job well and was an "old man" who was not motivated.

But Jiaozi knows that if you want to make a good work, you must devote yourself to it and take time to polish it slowly.

So he doesn't care about the gossip of people around him at all, but concentrates on his creation, hoping to achieve something in the future and become his mother's pride.

Finally, after three years and eight months of hard work, Jiaozi handed over her first novel and smashed a big watermelon.

This work won him more than 30 awards in one fell swoop and successfully entered the animation industry he loved.

In the later Nezha, Jiaozi, by the mouth of Shen, said a word of wisdom:

"The prejudice in people's hearts is a mountain, and you can't move it no matter how hard you try."

Many people are often questioned by others when they succeed, not to mention those who are in trouble and have accomplished nothing.

As the saying goes, out of sight, out of sight, out of sight.

If you care about those unprovoked slanders, it will become a burden and make the originally bleak life worse;

And those malicious blows, if you believe them, will become a pot of cold water, dousing all your last glimmer of hope.

People in this life, no matter what situation they are in, can't stop others from gossiping and gossiping.

When people are in the trough, please turn yourself into a "silent mode", not listening or thinking, so as not to be confused.

Don't disturb the people around you

The ancients said that the poor live in downtown areas, but the rich have distant relatives in the mountains.

Only when a person falls into a trough can he truly realize what it means to be indifferent to the world and know oneself well.

Shi Yuzhu, a famous entrepreneur, had a rough life.

In his early years, the giant group he operated was on the verge of bankruptcy because of investment failure.

At that time, he suddenly changed from a young entrepreneur with unlimited scenery to a loser who was pointed out by thousands of people.

If he wants to turn the tide, he needs to fill the funding gap of 50 million.

So, he began to seek help from his former friends everywhere. Some people politely refused under various excuses, while others simply closed their doors and disappeared.

In a word, no one wants to lend him money.

In the end, Shi Yuzhu had to bear everything alone and accept the fact of bankruptcy.

A few years later, with his business talent, he returned and launched the "melatonin" which was popular all over the country.

In a later interview, when he mentioned this experience, he once choked up and said:

"Enterprises encounter difficulties, don't think about relying on others. Whether you can get up or not depends on yourself. "

In fact, many people in life have had similar experiences:

When you have a successful career, many people will take the initiative to visit relatives and friends with you, and everyone you meet is a friend;

When you are down and out, most people are afraid to avoid it for fear of having anything to do with you.

As the saying goes, icing on the cake is easy, but it is difficult to send charcoal in the snow.

Life is realistic, never overestimate your weight in others' hearts.

Sometimes, it's too much trouble, which will only bring trouble to others and embarrass yourself.

Writer Martin once said:

"Every powerful person gritted his teeth and spent a period of no help, no support and no care."

Please don't bother anyone easily at this difficult time.

The best way is to quietly dormant, self-cultivation, waiting for the day of transshipment.

Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, and ups and downs are the normal state of life.

When we are at a low point, please put yourself in the "silent mode".

You don't have to say those complaints to everyone. If you talk too much, it will become a joke in others' mouths.

Some gossip can be blocked from listening, and there is no need to let outside gossip become the last straw to overwhelm yourself; People who don't care, don't need to be disturbed, and quietly be their own ferryman.

As Audrey Hepburn said:

"People, most importantly, have the ability of self-repair, self-resurrection and self-redemption. Never expect anyone."

I believe that everyone who cuts through the thorns alone will one day return to the king and become stronger.

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