Why is there a "mistress"? What comes to mind when you criticize?

There are no inseparable couples, only mistresses who don't work hard. I happened to see this popular saying on the horizon, and after entertainment, I thought about it a little myself. The third party, a sensitive and fashionable word, is now dubbed "mistress" in a joke, which shows how popular this hot job is. Some people love him to death, some people hate him, some people flock to him, some people scoff ... but it is these contradictory feelings that make them stronger and will continue to survive tenaciously in this increasingly empty society. This is the hostess. In my opinion, mistress is a thriving business, because there are definitely more philandering men in this world than women who pursue stability. Most of them are men who like early adopters physically and are easily bored psychologically. Not the author's feminist thought. Indeed, most women are content with the status quo and like stability. Even if they are lonely occasionally, they dare not act, because we know that the man beside the pillow is narrow-minded in this respect. I just bought Zhang Xiaoxian's book Butterfly Overstaying, and I was attracted by the title. I thought of mistress, just like Cinderella and the prince's ball. After midnight, I had to take off my glass shoes and leave in a hurry. The consequences of overstaying are unimaginable. There are three novellas in the collection, and the dream of that year, a tacky name and a tacky story we are reading now may be precisely because of this. Inadvertently, we walked in, as if we were doing it ourselves, as if stirring up our memories. I see Zhang Xiaoxian, perhaps because of loneliness. People like to find the same kind when they are lonely. She just catered to my mood during this time and was deeply hurt by love. She saw through men and wrote countless sad words, but in her heart, she was still so naive to yearn for true love. We are all stupid women who are smart on the surface and naive on the inside. In that year's dream, there was such an episode. Xiao San had sex with the man he loved. The man kissed her and said that he loved her. He said that he had been with his girlfriend for eight years and he had never touched her. He said to give him time to break up with his girlfriend and marry her so that she wouldn't work so hard ... She believed that she was willing to trust the person she loved deeply, and she also believed that she was rich. She is young and beautiful, and has a good figure. A true blue confidante taught me that men are the best liars. Yes, just as men please women in bed just to make women more devoted to please him, so do those sweet words that men say in women's ears just to make women more obsessed with themselves. Most men are very rational. Believe it or not! Sure enough, in the end, the man married his girlfriend of eight years. He broke up with San Xiao and said he was responsible for his girlfriend. This is ridiculous. What will you pay for another underground relationship that has been compromised for many years? San Xiao slapped him in the face and said, The thing I regret most in my life is sleeping with you! So what? Can the pain of a slap be compared with the pain in her heart? This is not a level at all. But as a mistress, what else can she do? The abandoned third party, like an expired old ticket, lost the value of the ferry, and she was penniless. You can't even complain to anyone. In this relationship, her existence is a mistake, and no one will sympathize with her. In everyone's opinion, she just brought it on herself, bored to death, and even said: this is karma, and it serves her right to rob someone else's boyfriend. Yes, no one will look at the love of a third party with a normal eye. Love is always seen by the beholder. People who are deeply involved can't extricate themselves. For others, it just doesn't make sense. No one will understand the pain. What's more, you are a mistress. Your starting point is sincere and selfless love for you. For others, it is just a selfish destroyer. This is the tragedy of mistress. Never be understood and accepted, and you will bear all the consequences. Look, who is the most injured person! What will that person lose? People who love him around will only think that mistress seduces him and he can still marry his girlfriend. In the whirlpool of feelings, it is always women who are notorious. We have only heard of "femme fatale", and no one has ever said "femme fatale". Besides, you are still a junior, and your crime is aggravated! In fact, there are also examples of Happy Little Three. Everyone should have seen the MV of Jingru classic song Courage. A super beautiful girl under 18 years old in the universe fell in love with a charming married man without hesitation. She sang: Love really needs courage to face gossip. As long as you are positive, my love is meaningful ... at least from the short five-minute music picture, they are happy. Actually, the hostess. Legally upgrading to a unique Tang Huo may create a happy story, but it will only tear another woman's happiness. At this price, you should at least feel a little guilty, and your love will be flawed. Maybe you will take this kind of overcoming all difficulties together as the weight of your love. Well, as long as you are happy together, I won't scold the mistress, only the treacherous man! I have to remind the proud mistress that this man can betray a woman for you. Who knows when he will abandon you for the next fresher thing? Stolen love, there is nothing to show off, keep a low profile and restrain yourself, so that when you are kicked away, at least there will not be too many people watching jokes. Looking at the problem of mistress from a man's point of view reminds me of another song, The Third Party of a Third Party. When a man abandoned his girlfriend for many years because of novelty and came together with mistress, he found that there were too many differences between them, which made him unable to adapt, so he regretted it and remembered his predecessor's kindness, but his predecessor simply said: I am very happy, please don't say love me again and don't touch me again. Yes, for men, mistress may just be tired of facing the same face, the same personality and the same way of speaking every day. At this time, she needs to seek something different to stimulate her numb nerves, just as she is tired of the prosperity and depression of the city and needs a short trip to adjust herself and see the scenery of the countryside, but the trip will eventually end. They have already bought a return ticket, although the short trip to the countryside has brought him countless beautiful feelings. What's more, if you stay for a long time, you will suddenly find that this place is so unsuitable for you. He just won't tell you. He wants you to make him happy when he still needs you, so he will never confess until the last moment. At this time, he will only cheat. Because women like to ask if they love me or not, and they like to fantasize about the future naively. Lies began to spread at this time. For another example, women may be more receptive. For example, we eat Chinese food every day, which is extremely boring. Occasionally, we may find it delicious. But if we eat the same steak and drink the same corn soup for a month and a year, we will definitely get bored. On the contrary, we still think Chinese food is good. Although it is not new, we can still get used to having three meals a day. So, mistress, for men, it's like western food. It's fun to try new things for a while, but it takes a lifetime, no way! Let's talk about the first house from another angle. In the face of the intervention of a third party, you can be angry and painful, but you must bear it. Don't lose your grace. It's not worth it for such a man who betrayed himself! Of course, if you are sure that he is just confused for a moment and you want to catch him, then at this sensitive moment, you should be more careful about your behavior. You should think rationally. In fact, you have capital. After all, you have lived together for so long and have an emotional foundation. If you are a mistress, what's more, you cry, you make trouble, you hang yourself, and as a virtuous wife, you pretend not to know. Of course, the premise is that he is a wise man with a conscience, and you really love him and don't want to give him up. Or kick him casually first! Don't blame Xiao San, as Jingru sang: "She is only the most innocent third party, and the difficulties between us have existed since he appeared. Although I am angry, I understand that it is wrong to let her take the blame. " The couple in the American movie "He doesn't really like you that much", the men and women who got married early, the woman loved the derailed man so much that she didn't want to let go, but she didn't have an inclusive mind, and finally left sadly. Why bother? Actually, that man is not bad. He loves her and wants to go back to her. In true love, you should know how to muddle along appropriately. In fact, perhaps only the love of a mistress can be regarded as complete love. Don't expect men not to cheat. The world is far from being as beautiful as you think. Finally, a word to the hero in this love triangle: If you are smart enough, if you are really a responsible man, don't put yourself in a dilemma. Or, if you really love her, don't choose her and don't hurt her. Heroine (mistress): Please be rational at the critical moment. Remember, it is always a woman who gets hurt, and in the end, it must be you who has nothing. If you have been immersed in it, please grasp your feelings and let go freely when you dare to let go. Don't be a butterfly that overstays, or even lose its last elegance and beauty.