As the saying goes, "a girl cares about her family, but not both sides." In the countryside, why is a family-oriented girl unpopular?

As the saying goes, "girls don't care about families on both sides." In fact, the rural areas in China are places where various outlooks on life gather and people get along with each other. Among them, proverbs are the most common. What does it mean to say that girls don't care about families on both sides?

The general meaning of this sentence is that when a married daughter meets good things, she only thinks about her family, regardless of her husband's family. This will easily lead to conflicts between herself and her husband's family, which will lead to family disharmony and all kinds of bad things. Naturally, neither her family nor her husband's family will prosper. Why did you say this sentence?

This sentence was said a long time ago when people were thinking in a feudal tradition. It means that a married daughter is like spilled water. Under such conditions, a married woman should follow her husband's family well. If she goes to her husband's house, it will not only easily lead to family conflicts, but also attract gossip behind her neighbors. Therefore, girls who take care of their families in rural areas are unpopular, mainly because of the low status of women in the past and the influence of the traditional thought of raising children to prevent old age.

This sentence is also summed up by the older generation in rural areas through their own experiences and the experiences of people next to them. No matter now or in the past, many girls, after getting married, are completely thinking about their parents' family and are very reluctant to part with their husband's family. They also complain about the dissatisfaction of all kinds of mother-in-law and father-in-law, and even a bowl of water has not been soaked. They have been thinking that their parents' family and their in-laws have a bad relationship and will often quarrel. As the saying goes, if the family is not harmonious, it will naturally not develop. However, in today's society, the old saying that men and women are equal is no longer applicable. It can only show that there is a saying in an era and a living method in an era.