Cheng Lusiwen, the "Talk Show Couple" favored by Li Dan: We never said we would live together for the rest of our lives. Why?

Many people know Cheng Lu and Siwen from the beginning of the story. In the first season of "Talk Show Conference", when asked "Is there pure friendship between men and women?" Siwen replied "This is me and Cheng Lu." "After a long time, he will treat you as pure without a trace of evil thoughts. Even if you wear transparent clothes and stand in front of him, he can see you as transparent. Then he, too, I want to tell you: look Looking at you, you are all good friends, what are you doing!" In that paragraph, she threw out the hottest topic of the year: My husband just went to bed and my brother performed a caesarean section on your sleeper, Isn't it just to stab a friend in the ribs? "Since then, she has become the "Queen of Talk Shows", and her popularity has even surpassed that of her husband, who is also a talk show actor Cheng Lu.

Fans simply gave Cheng Lu a new title: Siwen’s husband. In this regard, Cheng Lu addresses the ridicule of "strong women and weak men" with the following passage: The wife she chooses herself must use tears to finish the soft meal. As the talk show became more popular, the talk show couple also received more and more attention and their views on marriage were promoted, which in some ways made modern sexual relationships interesting and insightful. The two can talk to each other, exchange old ideas about each other, and more importantly, laugh at the jokes together.

We often say that being able to chat together is the most fatal attraction in love. It turns out that being able to laugh together and talk to each other is just as important. After all, these three perspectives are in harmony. After all, these three views are consistent and can make them tired for a long time. "He can give it to me, and no one else can give it to me." Siwen said that Cheng Lu brought her to the talk show, but the joke fans knew nothing about talk shows. After Siwen signed a contract with Xiaoguo Culture, he became a professional talk show screenwriter and became a colleague of Cheng Lu. During this period, Siwen was in a state of severe anxiety. She entered a tense and intense creative environment from a laid-back state-owned enterprise employee, racking her brains to write jokes every day. For someone who hasn't written a manuscript, creating can be really scary and easy to break down. Siwen often goes home and cries with Cheng Lu. Cheng Lu "touched your head and said it's okay, I can help you!"

Cheng Lu then helped Siwen think about passages and revise the manuscript over and over again as he wrote his own manuscript. Actually, when I talked about the talk show at the beginning, Siwen and Cheng Lu were not good. They and another actor basically took up three spots. Siwen's situation was worse due to her inexperience, and she cried in pain even when she was off work during this time. Every time Siwen wanted to give up, Cheng Lu would tirelessly encourage her, "You said it very well, why not!" Siwen said that this was the reason why she could not live without Cheng Lu: "He can give me a lot of support that others cannot provide. , and there is no other person who can give it to me. "Even if everyone thinks that I can make more money and develop better than him, it is because he has been supporting me. He is a kind of psychological comfort. What inspired me when I was most miserable and anxious was my productivity. “He will always understand what you want, even better than you, know your worth, and will give you absolute support and encouragement. He will always understand your fears and can take your worries away.

If Cheng Lu is the former, then Siwen is the latter. Siwen suffered the most in his life. She herself became ill and underwent surgery, and her grandmother and father died. At that time, this was also the most important year in Cheng Lu's career. He worked on the show in lockdown for months and didn't even have time to make phone calls. When Siwen was pushed out of the operating room, Cheng Lu only appeared for 20 minutes. But Siwen knew him very well. She said: "Everyone in the company is in a crazy state, and Cheng Lu is also 10 years old to the naked eye. Every time I see him, I want to ask you how old you are." She also knew that Cheng Lu was worried that she didn't understand and was complaining , so every time she saw Cheng Lu, she tried not to put any pressure on him, "I am still willing, if you have time to hurt him, in spring and sad autumn, Cheng Lu may not even have time to release your emotions." Couples can consider this with each other and maybe nothing can defeat them.

Some people say that the essence of marital happiness is the sharing of economic benefits and mutual emotional debts. In the eyes of Cheng Lu and Siwen, the essence of marital happiness is the satisfaction of the core emotional needs of both men and women.

When Siwen was at the end of her life, it was Cheng Lu's constant encouragement and support that gave her the confidence to support herself; when Cheng Lu couldn't choose between career and family, Siwen was able to let go of her emotions and let Cheng Lu work without difficulty. At that time, there was no "chief screenwriter". Their greatest contribution to each other is each other's achievements and their own happiness. Maybe this is the best love in marriage.

If I have to say what is the first choice for happiness, someone like Siwen is probably a person who can look at love and marriage rationally - she will not have unrealistic illusions and hope to be protected forever, But he will fight side by side with his partner And Li to protect love and marriage. Siwen and Cheng Lu often collapsed due to work for a period of time. When Siwen collapsed, Cheng Lu would comfort her that it didn't matter if I was there. When Cheng Lu collapsed, Siwen would help him calm down, "Let's support it together and wait until the end of this year to see it?" Marriage does not exist to enjoy life, but to form interdependence and mutual dependence between husband and wife both materially and emotionally. A state of mutual support.

Only when you form the same destiny, you will enter the most stable state of marriage. At first, they really thought each other was funny, but later they discovered that what was really valuable was that they were people who understood and supported each other from the bottom of their hearts, and were willing to sacrifice and pay for each other. The important thing is that they have become a community and will always be able to face life together.

As Cheng Lu said: "I think husband and wife are a process of learning from each other and improving each other. Sometimes there will be some competition, but overall, the two of you move forward together. It's a boat, but sometimes there are people at the bow, sometimes at the stern, but the boat has to move forward. "Every time I encounter this kind of problem, I want to tell them the truth: the problem in marriage is because of not being with each other. Treat yourself as yourself. From now on, move left and right over the obstacles instead of moving forward together. Only when you have experienced the same suffering and have the mentality of being rich and losing everything can your marriage be stable and strong.