The most feared thing in life is internal friction. Change these points so that you don't live so tired.

Do you have such an experience? 1, the night before the exam, tossing and turning, difficult to sleep, always afraid of not doing well in the exam, sorry for my parents, sorry for my teacher, and ashamed to meet the elders in Jiangdong. I made a small mistake at work. I have always been afraid of being criticized by leaders and accused by colleagues, and I am worried about it. It seems that all my work achievements are eclipsed. If the lover doesn't reply the message in time, he will consider it. What have I done to him? Did he leave? 4. When you encounter the choice of a dilemma, you have been entangled for a long time. If there are these situations, it means that you are experiencing serious mental internal friction. The resulting remorse, anxiety and hesitation may drag you down.

It is not life and work that make you tired, but your internal friction. Life and work have their own rules. It is normal for people to have great ability and do great things, but some people will feel physically and mentally exhausted. Why? For example, today is Sunday. When I wake up in the morning, I will think about something I want to do today. Wash clothes first, then pay the utilities, put the food in the basement, call my daughter, then go out for a trip and plan to get up at 6 o'clock. As a result, I repeatedly shirked and didn't get up until 9 o'clock. I've been thinking about those things in my mind, whether to do them or not. Finally, at the urging of my family, I did what I could finish in two hours, but it took me eight hours to finish. After finishing, with a negative emotion, things are not big, but I feel very tired inside, which is the performance of mental internal friction.

Because there are trivial things in life, the pressure of work, the trouble of interpersonal relationship, etc., it causes internal friction. How to reduce these internal frictions? 1, but imagine more about the future. Most tired people think too much about the future, which leads to serious mental internal friction. Everyone knows the alarmist story. Many people are laughing at this alarmist, but they are actually thinking the same thing unconsciously. There are many results in the future, which one is more suitable for you? What if there is an unfavorable result? Repeated thinking about things that will not happen in the future will lead to physical and mental exhaustion. As the saying goes, there is a great man when the sky falls, which is a comforting word. There is also much ado about nothing, repeatedly preparing for things that will not happen in the future, and as a result, everything that has been prepared has fallen behind, which makes me very tired. A few years ago, I bought a suite for my son to get married in the county. I don't know if my son will go to Zhengzhou for development after marriage. The suite prepared by the county is going to be sold, and the original plan is also ruined. Now my daughter is going to Beijing for an internship. If she doesn't buy that suite and saves money to buy a house in Zhengzhou, she may be in one step to avoid big trouble. So excessive planning may lead to too much heart fatigue in the future. However, it is short-sighted not to plan the future at all, and it is necessary to plan the future appropriately.

2. Let yourself go. The biggest internal friction of a person is not letting go of himself. There are often two little people fighting in their hearts. One villain said to go east, and the other villain said to go west. One villain said to beat the dog, and the other villain said to drive the chicken. A perfect self lives in my heart, and I constantly judge myself from a certain height. Think about yourself repeatedly in interpersonal communication, which words are wrong, which actions are not done well, and which offend others. A casual sentence of others will be guessed for a long time, and an action that others are not satisfied with will feel that it is aimed at themselves. The whole person fell into a meaningless thinking and tried hard to give himself a hard time. High standards often set high standards for themselves, which makes them miserable, while low self-esteem makes them fall into feelings of inferiority and self-blame. Serious mental internal friction often affects our work and life, making our life very difficult. Accepting yourself, loving yourself and lowering your standard of living are the beginning of reducing internal friction. When a person does not please others and lives his true self, he will live more easily.

3. Use your energy in the right place. Stephen Covey talked about the concept of attention circle and circle of influence in Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. The circle of concern is the family, health, relatives, career, current affairs and interpersonal relationships that we pay attention to every day, while the circle of influence has academic achievements and work performance that can be changed through our own efforts, which prompts us to pay more attention to the circle of concern of the circle of influence. For example, this month's salary is low, and considering the circle of influence is to improve our performance. If you pay attention to the attention circle, you will get the idea that the boss doesn't want to pay more for himself, or that interpersonal relationships are not handled well, which will increase internal friction.

4. Increasing your hobbies can reduce internal friction. People live in the world, and there are too many unpleasant things. There is a hobby that makes us temporarily forget the troubles in our own world. But don't get into the bad habit of smoking heavily and drinking heavily, then it is not a problem of internal friction, but a complete recession.

Immediate action is the most effective way to reduce internal friction. Taking action immediately after considering everything is the most effective way to reduce internal friction. Don't hesitate to think too much and do too little, which will increase your internal friction. In the face of a big and complex task, it should be divided into several simple small tasks, which are easy to complete and finally complete the whole complex task. Moreover, the completion of each small task can increase your self-confidence and motivation and help you complete the task successfully.

Smart people always try to reduce their internal friction and focus on the most important things. Whether they can reduce internal friction depends on themselves.