"Mom, grandma said you are lazy." Mom's answer is a witty one that women can learn from.

Wen Xin'er's mother

Editor Xin'er's mother

In the family, if there is anything that is more difficult to deal with, it is undoubtedly the "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship" Okay, this eternal problem has not been solved well, but if a family wants to be happy and healthy, it must solve this big problem. After all, whether the relationship between grandma and mother is harmonious is also related to whether the child can grow up in a stable family environment. When we grow up, how should we solve such problems when we encounter them?

"Mom, grandma said you are very lazy!" Mom's answer was witty.

One day after get off work, Ms. Lin just came home from work and sat down to take a nap. The daughter ran over and said loudly: "Mom, grandma said you are very lazy. When you get home, you don't do anything and always let dad do things." This sentence made the atmosphere in the living room very awkward for a time, and the child even said to himself He was very lively and didn't even notice his mother's expression at this time.

After hearing this, Ms. Lin couldn't help but think: I am working outside all day, is this how my mother-in-law educates her children? No, I have to convince them with the best of both worlds. So she quickly calmed down and picked up her daughter beside her and said, "Yes, mom knows she was wrong. She has been too tired from work recently and hasn't taken much care of her family. You can't imitate mom in the future."

The daughter heard the words and said: "Okay mom". At this time, the mother-in-law came out from the kitchen with the prepared meal and heard their conversation. She couldn't help but feel a little embarrassed. She quickly explained that she was not complaining about her, it was just a joke. Seriously. Ms. Lin said: "It's okay. It's true that I have been too busy with work recently and have no time to take care of my family. You have worked hard during this period, but I hope you will not talk about this in front of your children in the future. He will think that we have conflicts, which will be detrimental to the growth of the children." It's not good." The mother-in-law couldn't help feeling a little guilty after hearing what Ms. Lin said, and felt that she was indeed wrong to do so, so she quickly agreed. Since then, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become increasingly harmonious.

This mother’s approach is really clever and effectively resolves the awkward relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is worth learning from. Only by correctly handling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can we create a better family atmosphere and make the child's growth environment more stable.

Only when the family atmosphere is relatively relaxed, can children become optimistic and cheerful under the influence of the family atmosphere, be willing to communicate with their parents when encountering difficulties, and be willing to speak freely to their parents. However, if the child is in a long-term depressive environment, the child will be extremely depressed and cannot vent his negative emotions well. Most of the time, he will choose extreme ways to vent his emotions.

If a child often sees grandma and mother quarreling over disagreements when they are young, it will make the child fear marriage in the long run. It may distort the view of marriage and make them afraid to get married. The child will think that the difficulties faced in marriage will There are too many problems. Marriage is more painful than happy for him. When he grows up, even if he meets someone of the opposite sex he likes, he will not dare to confess to him because he has no confidence in marriage.

In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, whether you are mother-in-law or daughter-in-law, you should think from each other's perspective and look at problems from the other person's perspective. When a conflict occurs, look beyond your own identity to examine the whole matter. If you were the other party, would you still be as angry as you are now?

When the conflict has reached a point where the husband cannot adjust it, as the daughter-in-law, you can make appropriate concessions. I believe that after you give in, your mother-in-law will also feel that you are so sensible and choose to settle the matter, thereby reflecting on yourself. Is it really making a fuss out of a molehill?

When a conflict occurs, both parties should sit down and communicate, find out the root cause of the conflict, and solve the problem instead of trying to solve each other's problems as soon as a conflict occurs. We are a family, and no one would think about quarreling at home for three days and five days. Maintaining family harmony is the first prerequisite for creating a good family atmosphere for children.

When dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, adults should also consider the feelings of their children while thinking from their perspective, give them a happy family atmosphere, and never push conflicts onto their children. Don't let them Become a victim of the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

I am Xin'er's mother, a mother determined to bring everyone good articles about parenting.