Learn to be patient and have something to say.

In "We Are Real Friends", I felt the beauty between girlfriends and witnessed the process that Big S often mocked Aya.

Aya wears a pair of jeans. Big S said, "These jeans look good and are suitable for people with short legs!" " "

Ayazan's big S has a senior face, but the big S spits, "Aya, your face is the least advanced among our sisters!" "

These words may be a mode of getting along with friends who have been together for more than ten or twenty years. Maybe Aya is also used to the loss of the big S, and her heart has long been an iron wall with no psychological shadow area.

But the netizens on the screen quit, accusing Big S of bullying Aya. Even if Aya comes forward to clarify that the big S is just a knife in the mouth and a tofu in the heart. But it still can't stop netizens from scolding Big S for being uneducated.

The reaction of netizens is so great that there may be friends who often hurt themselves in their lives. Empathy!

When friends get along, it seems that they are angry because of a sentence or two, but it sounds like a thorn in their heart!

I once had a friend, Lian Jie, who liked another friend, Lin. At that time, the three of us had a good relationship, and we would get together to go shopping and eat every week.

Lin is slightly fat and likes cotton and linen clothes. Every time we meet, Sister Lian will point to Lin's clothes and say, "Why are you dressed like an aunt?" ? "or," these shoes are too corny for you! " Lin can only "ha ha" laugh it off.

Later, Lin fell in love and asked us to have dinner together to meet her boyfriend. Before serving, when Lin diligently helped everyone to rinse bowls and chopsticks, Sister Lian said in front of everyone, "I was too lazy to die before, and I began to pretend to be virtuous when I had a boyfriend?" Lynn and her boyfriend look embarrassed.

Once, Lin asked me to go shopping on weekends and told me not to ask Sister Lian out. I asked why.

She said that her new home had just been renovated, and she sent the photos to her circle of friends. Everyone said yes, but she said, "The soil is dead!"

Lin said that Sister Lian's words hit her hard. She worked hard to decorate the house for several months, and all her savings were spent on this house. Her "dirty" made her depressed for a long time.

She said that she didn't want to have anything to do with Lian Jie. Although she knew that Sister Lian was a straightforward and harmless person, she didn't want to be hit by such words again.

02

My former colleague, A Chao, graduated from technical secondary school of electronic technology, and became the manager of our company's network management center in only three years. Responsible for the computer maintenance of all operating systems, 1000 managers and the network maintenance of the whole company. At the same time, he is also the data center manager of the company.

A Chao can be promoted to the position of manager in an important department of the company. In addition to hard work and serious responsibility, his popularity in the company is also super good. The boss who is very demanding of his employees also praises him, saying that he is gentle, educated and reliable whenever and wherever he speaks.

Once, the boss asked me to make a contract for a client, and the computer suddenly crashed and could not be opened. Call the network center and ask them to arrange a repairman to come as soon as possible.

But after waiting for more than an hour, I didn't see anyone. Call Chao directly when you lose your temper, and Piri complains. Also asked him to punish the maintenance workers below.

When I finished in a hurry, he said to me gently, "Well, that's right!" " ! Our maintenance workers are all out on duty, and there are no maintenance workers in the office area. They have been working hard these days, and they can't drink much water a day. Don't worry, if there is something urgent to deal with, I'll come and help you fix it now! "His words not only doused my anger, but also made me understand the hard work of the repairman!

Later, I interacted with A Chao and found that he was particularly skillful in speaking. In the company, regardless of the position, if they don't agree, he will listen carefully to each other first and then say, you are right, but I think so. "

When discussing things with him, there will never be a hurry. Everyone will discuss the solution calmly, reducing the time of the war of words and the influence of bad emotions, so the work efficiency will usually become very high.

Being able to control your emotions and talk well can not only keep your life and work under control, but also drive people around you to develop in a good direction.

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03

Sometimes, when work is not smooth, life is hard and you are in a bad mood, what you say will inevitably be blunt, hurtful and mean. But words with bad emotions, like a sharp knife with a blade, hurt the hearts of relatives and friends.

Sometimes, perhaps it is an unintentional topic, and there is nothing to talk about, but it has become a poisonous arrow to gossip and hurt people unconsciously.

Sometimes, casual and inappropriate jokes make people laugh and may become a stumbling block in your career. What's more, it will become a big pit in your life. If you fall, you will never get up again.

Although freedom is the ultimate happiness of life, moderate behavior will make happiness last longer. Therefore, sometimes, when you speak, you should learn to endure, put emotional, unfounded and ugly words in your mouth, chew them up, eat them in your stomach, and excrete them with the excrement in your body.

The connotation of human beings is embodied in language. What you say, and in what voice, embodies your attitude and self-cultivation. Proper speech can not only give us a good experience in the process of communicating with others, but also bring good mood to others.

Hemingway once said; ? It took us two years to learn to speak, but it took us sixty years to learn to shut up. Many times, the more you talk, the more alienated you are, and the more contradictions you have. In communication, most people are always eager to express themselves, but they don't know each other at all. Learn to speak for two years, but shut up for life. Do you understand? Don't say much. Uneasy and calm, speak slowly. If you really have nothing to say, don't say it.

Learn to speak well, and life may open up more beautiful sides for us.