What would you do if your stroke paralysis (incontinence) became a burden to your family?

Husband and father are both 87 years old. Last year, they were paralyzed by cerebral infarction for more than 20 years. Fortunately, after my mother-in-law died thirteen years ago, my husband and father found a nanny to live with him. Although he gave his savings and house to the old woman, he was taken care of after all. Over the past year, he has been paralyzed, urinating and defecating in bed, and everything needs to be taken care of. We all work in other places and go back to see him every weekend. Our spirit and appetite are good, and we have a strong belief-to live! To tell the truth, we all hung our heads when we saw him. If we wait on him, we can't insist. I thought, if so, can I write a will in advance so that I can't live? What's the point? The rest is to make feces and increase the burden on children. So I agree to enjoy it more when I am young and euthanize when I am paralyzed.

What if I "stroke, cerebral infarction, paralysis, incontinence" and become a burden to my family?

I just want to ask myself: What are you waiting for? What are you doing alive? Just to eat? You need someone to feed you, and you need someone to wipe your shit.

If you are a 70-80-year-old man, your illness will get worse and worse, and there is no possibility of recovery and no quality of life at all.

What do you mean you don't have the strength to kill yourself? As long as you are clear-headed, you can end the hunger strike.

I have seen too many old people who have been lying in bed for seven or eight years. They have a good appetite and can eat and pull, which is the collapse of their children. Some children are old and sick, and they will be overwhelmed.

A fellow villager I know says she is very filial. His mother has been paralyzed in bed 10 years She has no space and freedom of her own, and she is exhausted physically and mentally. She has served the elderly for many years. Only she knows the hardships. She is often dizzy and depressed. She said that she can't be filial now, and she is really tired.

I am entering old age, and I have made up my mind that healthy people will live to be 80 years old. After 70, something will happen. As an old man, we should make preparations in advance, write a will and do a good job in the ideological work of our children. Otherwise, a son and a daughter can't bear it. You have to live in bed for a few more years, suffer for yourself and bear the burden for your children.

Now think clearly, think clearly, and then resolutely do not rescue, do not intubate, do not enter the intensive care unit; Don't artificially prolong your life and die naturally. Go when you should. Everyone's life is doomed, and there is no nostalgia. If you drag out an ignoble existence and have no quality of life, you might as well wave goodbye gracefully.

My mother is paralyzed in bed because of a cerebral infarction. After sleeping for three months, she walked for a week without eating or drinking in order not to drag down the children. A few years later, my father also had a cerebral infarction and couldn't walk. He slept in bed for a year, then didn't eat or drink, and left a week later. It hurts to think about it now. In fact, even if the children are filial, the old man lying in bed will suffer himself. Therefore, if I am old and lie in bed, I will learn from my parents, end the hunger strike, never drag down my children, and die early and take off early.

I am a patient with cerebral congestion. At first, I felt that my life had reached the bottom. I want to die every day in my mind. Sometimes when I see a dog or an old man, I want to live worse than a dog. But after ten years of hard work, it is very important to adjust your mentality. I must face the reality and face the real life bravely. Up to now, I can walk a little or go out for outdoor activities, but I can't. At first, I saw someone who was afraid of others pointing and telling jokes. Remember that your greatest enemy is your own strong heart, not other people's words. As time goes on, I will get used to facing the real life situation, thus making my heart stronger. You won't get sick, and you'll never see anyone around you. Only those who have experienced death can realize the importance of health. You should compare with those who died. At least you still live in society, forget it.

My father also suffered from cerebral hemorrhage, cerebral obstruction and dialysis of diabetic nephropathy. Later, the cerebral hemorrhage went out of control and died. After his first bleeding, he made suicide remarks many times, but my brother and I took good care of him and served him 10 for many years. We all want him alive. At the end of this cerebral hemorrhage, I could do nothing. He was paralyzed and speechless. He called an ambulance, but there was no car. He pulled it himself. He fell down before getting on the bus, which was too heavy for our brother to lift and help (my brother didn't help when he helped, but he was afraid after falling, so he called me to complain about me. I know his nervous breakdown is unacceptable, so I keep silent. When I arrived at the hospital, the doctor said that it was basically hopeless. In fact, a few days ago, my dad was fine. He could eat meat (stewed rotten meat) and drink (a small glass of beer), and everyone was optimistic. But in fact, six months ago, I knew that his time was coming (I had several special abilities) and told the whole family, including my father. It's all arranged that his recovery should be a flash in the pan, but we all have no experience and deceive ourselves that he may be fine (mainly because my brother has always said that he will be fine). But nothing can stop fate. . After I was hospitalized, I was hesitant to enter the ICU for nearly 2 hours (because the local ICU is not as good as the emergency department, and the emergency level is not as good as the ICU. But I think from experience that cerebral hemorrhage means taking mannitol. Others didn't have jobs at that time), and they died after 5 days. My head is full of blood. In short, when fate comes, it appears in different forms, but it can't be stopped.

My relatives were paralyzed in bed for four years after a stroke, and I really realized the pain of "being unfilial to my son and wife after a long illness." Facing my relatives who take care of me eating and drinking in Lazar, I really can't do anything. I feel guilty and helpless. When my relatives died, I blamed myself for being unfilial and lamented that I could only do this! In view of this, I really hope that the country will implement euthanasia in line with the principle of human dignity! I hope that one day, if misfortune befalls me, I will sign a euthanasia contract when I am sober and optimistic and enter heaven with a smile.

If I face this situation one day, I hope that euthanasia will be legalized in China by then.

I don't want to live in this world without dignity and quality. Death is not a terrible thing. It is the most painful and torturous thing for a person to lose his ability to take care of himself, suffer physical and mental pain every day, and watch himself become a drag and burden on his family.

I also thought that if there was no euthanasia at that time, I would try to commit suicide. I have been in bed for more than two years after my mother-in-law's stroke and hemiplegia. My husband and I took care of her in the hospital for three months. When I got home, I helped her go to the toilet every day. Finally, I had to lie in bed and use diapers. Once, I helped her to go to the toilet because she had no mobility at all. I couldn't bear the weight of her body at once, and both of them fell to the ground.

I got up to help her up, because my mother-in-law was heavier than me, and I couldn't help it. My mother-in-law cried on the ground and said, "Girl, it's all my fault. I made you suffer. "

I think about the suffering I have experienced for more than two years, and then look at the despair of a dying old man. I don't know how to describe my feelings at that time. I feel helpless in the face of my sick relatives. What kind of sadness is this?

So if one day, I face this situation, I just want to leave clean. I have worked hard in my life, really loved, really loved, and I think it is enough. I don't want anyone to kidnap their relatives with morality, because it is not easy for everyone to live in this world.

I remember a sentence I once saw on the Internet, and I liked it very much. "I've had enough. I'll give you back this mountain. "

I think the fairest thing in the world is death. Everyone's final destination is that little box. I'm going to find an opportunity to talk to my son about this topic. I hope by that time, there will be no funeral, nothing, not even the little box. Just scatter the ashes under the tree and return to nature.

Author's point of view: What should I do if I die and can't die, but I can't live well? Those who drag out an ignoble existence live in humiliation in the eyes of their children, and those who are strong-willed starve to death!

I once talked to a good friend about his later years. My friend said, "I am old. If a serious illness is coming, I don't want to drag out an ignoble existence. Just give me the strength to climb the window! "

After listening, I was silent for a long time and felt very sad!

I read an article "A good death is also a kind of happiness" before, and I was deeply touched after reading it. It is indeed a happy thing to die in his sleep or suddenly fall to the ground, compared with an exhausted person who is tortured to death by illness in a hospital bed and torments his family.

I have seen some people in the hospital, eating and drinking Lazar in the hospital bed, still suffering from illness, and they are relieved when they have had enough. In this case, euthanasia is strongly recommended, which is a relief for patients and their families.

Birth, old age, illness and death are natural laws, and no one can escape. When that day comes, relaxing is definitely a kind of happiness.

May you do more good deeds and end well!

Now my own mother is in the same situation. I am the only one to take care of the four brothers and sisters. I am not only paralyzed, but also incontinent and insane. I have to take care of my own urine and feed her every day. Every bath in winter is sweaty. She weighs 100 kilograms and has no helper. I can imagine the difficulties. On the morning of New Year's Eve, I don't go out to do business. I want to sleep more in the morning, but when I get up to see her. Such days are like hell, no wonder no one wants to take care of other children, but I can't bear to take care of myself.

What you are saying now is empty talk! Look at the truth when it comes! Tell a true story! In a village in dengzhou city, China, a 60-year-old male villager, who used to be hale and hearty, suddenly suffered a stroke and hemiplegia one night. His family sent him to the best local hospital, dengzhou city Central Hospital. He refused to receive treatment, abused his children, abused medical staff and tore up medical equipment. The family had no choice but to take him home. The family invited relatives and friends to persuade him, but he refused to look at his appearance. He called in a doctor for an infusion. He abused the doctor and refused to cooperate, and he was forbidden to eat and drink tea. As you know, there was a new grave in the field in less than ten days, and there were several wreaths in front of it. There is a small piece of white paper in the air next to the grave. During his lifetime, he saw the tragic experiences of many stroke patients. He witnessed the scene that the lower body of a stroke patient was bitten by a tumbling maggot when he died. Therefore, he thinks that there is no dutiful son in front of the hospital bed, and even if there is a dutiful son, he will not appear beside him. He committed suicide by hunger strike in order not to cause trouble to his children, and he will not suffer physical and mental pain in the future. Some people say that he is a real man, some people say that life is worse than death, and children may have mixed feelings!