There are more and more moral kidnappings. What are the reasons?

I remember reading a news on the Internet some time ago. On the high-speed train, a group of students who just graduated from the military academy almost occupied the whole carriage. Those passengers who didn't buy tickets began to mutter why the soldiers didn't give them their seats.

Some people around me echoed, saying, "Do you think all soldiers will give you their seats like they did in TV dramas?" .

after five minutes, when the bus was driving, they all stood up and offered their seats to those passengers who didn't have seats.

When many people saw this news, they all said: Soldiers are human beings, so why should they give up their seats for a giant baby like you?

Those passengers are a moral kidnapping to the soldiers. They think to themselves: Since you are a soldier, you should give your seat to us ordinary people.

You should do this because of moral abduction, such as respecting the old and caring for the young, giving up your seat on the bus. Some old people are obviously physically strong, but you just want others to give up their seat to you, so that you will not be scolded as disrespecting the old, and you are a scum of the society.

However, in reality, there are too many moral kidnappings, which make people breathless.

awei grew up in the countryside. Knowing what his parents expected of him, he studied hard and finally got into a good university. After graduation, he found a good job.

He didn't want to work for others all his life, so he started a business with his savings. With his efforts and knowledge, he succeeded, bought a car and a house in a first-tier city, and married a daughter-in-law.

awei really wants to take his parents to live with him, but his parents are used to the life in the countryside, fearing that they can't adapt to the big city and don't want to disturb their husband and wife's life.

So awei goes back to his hometown every month to visit his parents and give them enough living expenses. They are doing well.

But what makes him a little depressed is that his neighbors have quite a problem with him, saying that he has the ability to buy a car and a house, so why can't he save money for his parents' retirement? If he is rich, he will forget his roots.

Although awei felt a little guilty about not taking his parents to live with him, he respected their opinions and planned to take them when his wife gave birth.

The most important thing is that he spends his own money on buying a car and a house, and he visits his parents every month to give them living expenses. He feels that he has nothing to owe. Why do these people want to kidnap morally?

In fact, these moral abductions reflect a kind of psychology, that is, authoritative personality psychology.

Authoritative personality psychology, also known as authoritarian personality, makes moral kidnappers want to influence and control others more. Under this psychology, they will have a sense of power.

They often lose the ability to put themselves in other's shoes, which also makes them overreact.

Some people think that the moral kidnapper is the Virgin Mary, but in fact, it is for the good of the other party, but in the wrong way.

But this is not the case. The Virgin Mary can be a moral kidnapper, but the starting point of moral kidnappers is not the Virgin Mary.

Just like awei, the neighbors are not concerned about his filial piety, but that he can't afford to buy a car or a house, but he does. Since he can't say it directly, he should use filial piety to kidnap morally and interfere in his life.

for most moral kidnappers, they still understand, but the reason why they become such people is that they are incompetent, poor, failed and mentally unhealthy to a great extent.

I believe you should still remember that Ma Yun was forced to donate. In the Tianjin Port explosion in 215, Ma Yun, as the richest man in China, did not donate, so on the Internet, he was kidnapped by netizens on a large scale, and his image became a rich man who was rich and heartless.

However, if someone had left a message on the Internet and said, "You are so rich, why don't you give me some flowers?", it is estimated that he would have been bombarded and called "You are poor and reasonable?"

So when this happened somewhere in the country, they used so-called morality and justice to carry out moral kidnapping.

And most people are people with low social status. They reversed their position with Ma Yun in this moral kidnapping.

The behavior of these people is not patriotic. If they are really patriotic, they will find a truly patriotic way, instead of making other countries look at the joke with this moral kidnapping.

The horror of moral kidnapping can also be seen in some trivial matters.

For example, in transportation, if there are elderly people, children and pregnant women, some people will accuse the young people of not giving up their seats, or the parties will accuse the young people of not knowing how to respect the old and love the young at all.

During the moral kidnapping, they never thought about whether the other party was tired after a day's work and whether the other party was not feeling well before giving up his seat.

There is a saying in The Book of Songs: "Give me a peach and return it with a plum."

refers to the exchange of gifts and answers between friends.

But today, some people don't pay attention to reciprocated gifts at all, but just like to ask for them blindly. Think about it carefully. Do you often hear such words-

Anyway, if you have money, donate more;

anyway, if you are on the way, you will rub your car on your way to and from work;

You should be like this, because you are very powerful.

In marriage, if a woman wants a divorce because of a man's infidelity, domestic violence and other behaviors, those women whose marriages are not so good will definitely persuade her not to divorce, and they should endure it for the sake of their children.

such a woman thinks: I have a bad life anyway, and I can bear it. Why do you want a divorce? Suffer for a long time and suffer together.

Those who like to kidnap by morality think that moral kidnapping is so useful that they can defeat a person if they show their morality.

In fact, after a person has knowledge and achievements, he won't kidnap others morally, because they know what it's like to be kidnapped morally.

most of the moral kidnappers are people who have no ego and no pursuit. They have neither knowledge nor achievement, and they can only rely on moral kidnapping to satisfy their psychology.

You don't have to be afraid of moral kidnapping. It's all because of your Excellence that the other party has no choice but to use moral kidnapping to attack you.

In society, there are really many incidents of moral kidnapping, which is inevitable. You have to learn tolerance to make your life more comfortable.

Don't think hard about being serious with those moral kidnappers, because if you are serious, you will lose. Only by enduring these things, can you move towards the road to success faster. There are people as good as you waiting for you not far ahead.

please don't kidnap morally, it's really tiring.

It's easy to say, but what if you need to lift a finger every day?

I'm sorry, I've raised my hand long enough and I'm very tired. Please lift your noble hand.