What kind of person is worth dating?

Everyone will meet all kinds of people in life. What kind of people are worth making friends with only depends on whether what they do is making things bigger or making things worse. Smooth things over.

Just like a person has ink spilled on his body, some people will ignore it, and some people claim to be friends but keep talking about it for fear that others will not know, but a true friend is often just a word Not to mention helping to cover up and find paper to wipe off the ink on his body.

Some people are really weird. It is obvious that something is disgraceful, but they keep spreading it everywhere in the name of relatives and friends of the person involved for fear that others will not know. They just use their mouths and keep their hands motionless. Such people In fact, it is better to just stand by and watch the passers-by in silence.

The saying "Don't expose family scandals" is not unreasonable, and the deep meaning of this sentence does not mean to avoid problems. It is inevitable that problems need to be faced, but facing problems does not mean just finding problems. But they don't solve the problem. If they don't solve the problem, they just ignore it and blindly promote their family's ugliness. This kind of people are actually using other people's pain to show that they know more and are not worth dealing with.

There are actually many people like this in life. It is obviously a family scandal, but they don’t help solve the problem and they just keep publicizing it everywhere. Even if they do it, they still make themselves more righteous.

Just like some people, who clearly belong to this place, not only do they not bring glory to this place and promote a positive image, but they also constantly publicize embarrassing things to discredit their hometown, and also flaunt how real they are. How brave, in fact, such people are not as good as those who have no contribution and remain silent. Although some people have not contributed to their hometown, they are trying hard to live a good life and not holding back their hometown is a contribution in itself. Although they have not done anything big for their hometown, they have not deliberately discredited their hometown or used it to belittle their hometown. Increase traffic yourself. People who smear their hometown every day to gain popularity and traffic don’t need to compare with those who contribute to their hometown. The two themselves are not on the same level.

Not loving is not a reason for hurting, and love should not be hurt. There is nothing wrong with being yourself first and working hard to develop yourself first. It is better to shoulder the responsibility for others and flaunt your own by stepping on others. It shouldn't be done the way it should be done.

Using other people's things to flatter yourself is an act of stealing in itself, because things belong to others, and the right to deal with them belongs to others, not to you.

Just like selling goods on live broadcast, just bring goods. You have to bring your own goods while belittling other people’s goods. Emotional matters are obviously the matter of fans and anchors, but some anchors take advantage of merchants. Carrying the products on your back is a typical example of taking other people’s things as gifts.

The act of taking other people’s things as a favor and using other people’s things to favor yourself is very offensive in itself.

Just like some people who say they are friends or brothers every day, but end up making fun of their friends’ thinness every day just because they are strong. The friends around such people are actually just tools to build a sense of superiority. , just using friendship to cover up self-centered selfishness.

From this point of view, what kind of person is worth paying attention to? Only those who will help others to make peace when something goes wrong instead of making things worse, and those who know how to consider others are the ones worth paying attention to.

There is a saying on the Internet that people with sharp mouths are often self-centered people who enjoy sarcasm and ridicule others every day, and they also make fun of themselves in order to use their reputation. Living next to this kind of person is actually very tiring, because no matter what you do, you are always thrown cold water on it before you even start doing it. This kind of person is what is often said in life as a "person who can't speak."

Many people are still accustomed to taking "not being able to speak" as their true temperament. In fact, not being able to speak is a problem in itself, and it is essentially a sign of "ignorance and uneducated". Having friends around a person who can't speak can only mean that this person's friends are tolerant and tolerant. It's just because affection indulges this person's shortcomings. It's normal for him to be beaten when he meets outsiders and he can't speak. Often such people are spoiled by their relatives and friends, and never speak, so even when they are beaten, they don’t know why.

Everyone has to learn some art of speaking, and the art of speaking cannot just rely on imitation. It requires reading more and experiencing things to understand things. Only when you understand things in your heart can you know what should be said and what should not be said. Say, only when you speak can you know how to speak openly.

The popular answer to what kind of person is worth making friends with is a sincere person. In fact, a sincere person is also a sensible person. Human beings are a combination of "emotion + reason". It has become an emotional kidnapping. It is impossible to talk about rationality without emphasizing emotion. No matter what happens, there needs to be a balance between the two elements of emotion and reason.

Just like the above example of the ink spilled on the body, it is very embarrassing for a friend to have a stain on his body. As a friend, he does not help to clean up and cover up the embarrassment and makes the embarrassment public, no matter what the friendship is. It's not true. In theory, this friend is ignorant and stupid.

Whether it is to talk about love or reason, everyone must have a brain. Even the relationship between relatives and friends needs to be managed with wisdom. Even if you love someone, you need to use your brain to love. , rather than just talking about love without understanding.

If a person is ignorant, he will be disliked by outsiders and disliked by his relatives and friends. Emotion and reason are two elements in themselves. It is inevitable that people have feelings, but it does not mean that they do not need to be sensible if they have feelings. ;Similarly, being sensible does not mean that there is no need for emotions. The two things can exist in themselves.

Just like some people come home, the mother is so busy that her back is broken, and the child still accepts the truth and thinks, "You are my mother, and you should do these things." This Sometimes a mother will feel very disgusted, and she resents giving up on her children. She feels that even slapping her children with her hand feels like a waste of energy.

It is terrible for a person to be incompetent, but what is more terrible than incompetence is ignorance. Incompetence can also be improved through learning and practice. Ignorance and ignorance can be due to the limited level of cognitive ability and the inability to understand what others say. This is the most powerless thing and the most uncomfortable thing. Because the behavior of being sensible can only be understood by oneself, and it is impossible for others to open their heads and pour it in.

Therefore, a person who is ignorant and unreasonable does not cause the greatest harm to outsiders, but the people around him are often the ones who suffer the most.

Why do many things require a third party to mediate? Because reasoning is the easiest way to hurt feelings. When two people with feelings have conflicts, the most difficult thing to overcome is the emotional hurdle.

Just like when a young couple quarrels, the most reasonable person is often hurt the most, because the one who made the mistake is hurt himself, and there is a burst of pain when correcting the mistake. Whether it is a mistake or a correction, the reasonable person People have been suffering beside me.

The same thing is like when parents educate their children, they often hit the child physically but hurt the parents heart. This is the identity of relatives and friends. They not only have to share mistakes with each other, but also help each other grow. . . . . .

Therefore, if a person is unreasonable, he will harm others and himself.

Just like the matter of domestically produced mobile phones, you only need to know whether they are good or not. Why do you have to make it public? It is obviously a matter for the Chinese people themselves, and problems that everyone knows are still being poked out, or even made public. When you go abroad, this kind of people are actually the most ridiculous. It is inevitable that there will be problems with domestically produced mobile phones. It is like a performance. The rich are supporting it for money, and the poor are supporting it for themselves. It is obviously something that the Chinese people need, but they still insist on ruining their own performance. This kind of People are just stupid without knowing it.

Those who are committed to the development of domestic products are actually the real heroes. They are scolded while working hard to develop. In the process of starting from scratch and becoming excellent, there will always be some fools who cannot help or say anything. He just focused on finding faults, as if this would show how knowledgeable and skilled he was.

People with strong mouths are actually the most disgusting bugs. Although people with weak abilities do not make a big contribution, working hard to develop themselves without causing trouble or chaos is also a contribution. Those with weaker abilities develop first. There is nothing wrong with oneself, and it is also good to be more capable and help the public. The most shameless people are those who can’t do anything. It is a problem to support themselves, and they are always complaining about whether others are doing well. In fact, these people It should be destroyed humanely.

Just like those who criticize domestic mobile phones every day, but do not have the technology to participate in the research and development of domestic mobile phones, and do not have the money to afford the best domestic mobile phones, they can only lip service to increase their presence, and this kind of People are always in the wrong team. Even though they are Chinese, they still go to foreigners every day and scold things produced in their own country. It seems that they don’t understand in their minds that they are not only scolding domestic products but also scolding themselves.

Therefore, people who are irrational often do stupid things, and because of their cognitive level problems, they do not realize how stupid they are.

Just like some people who know in their hearts that there are problems in their family still want to talk about these problems on the street, but they don’t realize that discrediting their family is discrediting themselves.

Therefore, people cannot be ignorant and ignorant, otherwise they will be so stupid that they will even scold themselves. The most classic example is that when children are not sensible, they often join others in scolding their parents.

In fact, although some people have reached adulthood, their cognition is still the same as that of children, which is what the Internet calls "giant babies." Just like some people kicking their parents in the subway station, such people will not realize that this behavior is not only hurting their parents, but also humiliating themselves. Instead, they will think that kicking their parents in the street is brave and heroic.

There are many examples of this. You are obviously from a certain place, but you want to scold the people in your hometown, and you stupidly think that the harder you scold, the more heroic you will be. In fact, in the eyes of outsiders, you will become a hero. Just an orphan.

Great people have long said that internal conflicts should be solved through sit-down negotiation. If it escalates to violent conflict, it will only do a lot of harm but no good. It is nothing more than making outsiders look at it as a joke, but it will only look very good in front of insiders. A hero is actually a monkey in the eyes of outsiders.

Just like a person who commits domestic violence, he or she has no clue in his mind. He only thinks that beating his own family members will make others look brave and heroic. In fact, in the eyes of outsiders, he is just an actor.

It is true that a person's destiny can only be determined by God, but God also leaves people a lifetime to change their destiny.

Giving up the opportunity to change your destiny is giving up on yourself. This way of living is actually no different from the walking dead.

Just like everyone is born into a poor family or a rich family. This can be said to be pure luck. From another perspective, different people will have different challenges. So many people are born into poor families, and many people end up earning a good life through hard work. Therefore, a person's fate has nothing to do with whether he is born into a poor family or a rich family. The key depends on the individual.

As I wrote before, life is about experiencing the influence of the outside world and the control of self-awareness. Although the outside world will affect a person's destiny, it is not an absolute influence, because people can still use Self-awareness can change destiny, so there can be reasons or no reasons for what a person's life will be like. The key lies in oneself.

Just like domestic mobile phones, what kind of mobile phone you are born in a certain country is determined by fate, but it does not give you the opportunity to decide what kind of mobile phone you use. Why are some people able to devote themselves to self-development? Make your own mobile phone, but some people have to stand in line like a grandson. Therefore, it is the same as mobile phones. Some people use mobile phones, and some are used by mobile phones. This is a personal issue, and the outside world is actually taking the blame.

Generally speaking, people with a sense of independent development have always been in control of their own destiny. People who complain about everything and worry about others every day and always like to find reasons for everything will be influenced by fate.

The eternal development of human beings depends on inheritance and cooperation. If you strive for progress, the people around you will be more relaxed, and the next generation will develop faster. If you do not strive for progress, you will not only ruin yourself, but also destroy yourself. You have deceived the people around you, and even defrauded future generations.

This is the law of development in history. If people of a certain generation work hard, future generations will have a good foundation for development. If there is a generation in the middle that does not want to make progress, the burden will be placed on the next generation.

Just like the complacency in the late Qing Dynasty, future generations will need to use their blood and lives to rebuild New China. The predecessors devoted themselves to the development and construction of the country to achieve the current living situation. If the current generation does not want to make progress , the next generation will naturally not know the reason and direction.

History is actually a report card. If the performance of an era declines, it will become the sinner of history. If the performance of an era improves, it will become the belief of future generations. If the current generation has not made achievements, is not yet open-minded in thinking, and is unreasonable in doing things, and does worse than its predecessors when the conditions are much better than in the early days of the founding of the People's Republic of China, then this generation will only become the laughing stock of the next generation. Future generations will have to pick up the mess and continue to develop. Even if future generations don't say anything about the lack of progress of the current generation, this account will become a fact and stare at the pillar of shame in history.

Therefore, blindly looking for excuses when encountering things is actually meaningless and futile. The predecessors have tried their best throughout their lives to develop society to this point. All the current generation can do is to continue to If we continue to develop with persistent efforts, we cannot let the hair of our predecessors turn gray, and the current generation must let their predecessors put food into their mouths. If it really comes to this point, then the current generation will really become a laughing stock. In the eyes of the previous generation, it is a hopeless generation, and in the eyes of future generations, it is an incompetent generation. Waiting for the predecessors and future generations to say it clearly, that is the real truth. It was a slap in the face.

People who are truly worthy of friendship are those who are proactive and independent. People who are proactive and independent have experienced everything personally, so they can better understand their thoughts and psychology at that time, and naturally know how to interact with others. Communication and cooperation.

Just like some people, they are affectionate and friendly as relatives and friends, and they are very smart and affectionate. When getting along with them, they can form a tacit cooperation without too much verbal communication.

Many happy families are like this. When away from home, the husband and wife are calm and decisive working people, and when they return home, they are the husband and wife. People who really understand life will not bring the rules of the workplace home. When the wife is tired, the husband will take the initiative to cook a meal and wake her up to eat. When the husband is tired, the wife will take the initiative to comfort her.

In fact, this is also the saying "birds of a feather flock together, people flock together". People who understand and understand are mostly surrounded by reasonable people, and communication and cooperation between them will be very tacit and natural, and this kind of lifestyle is generally You won't encounter anything that you have to work hard to solve.

Just like the lifestyle of many interpersonal relationships, it is said to be an exchange of interests, but in fact it is just natural, because people who live a fulfilling life will always have something to do, and will naturally interact with many people. Today I am looking for The doctor had a headache and fever. Tomorrow the doctor came to buy furniture and home appliances. We met for barbecue the day after tomorrow. One day we sat together again at a technical exchange meeting. Many things seemed deliberate, but in fact they were random.

From a practical point of view, motivated people don’t have the time to think so much. They don’t have enough time to do things every day, so they have to think about the behavior of the people around them. The method is also fast and frequent. Over time, a tacit understanding has been formed, and the rhythm of life will be very synchronized. One of them had a holiday, and basically everyone had a holiday, so a group of people drove out to play together. When it was time to work, they all worked again, and they all got into working mode again.

People who think about things every day are often either too idle, or their abilities cannot meet the average standards of this circle, they cannot keep up with the pace of life of others, and their way of thinking is not in the same channel as others. This state will form a chain reaction. If people are too idle, that is, they do not have the consciousness to take the initiative to find things to do, their abilities will become more and more degraded, their experience will be less and less, and the gap with others will become wider and wider. , you will become more and more incompatible with others psychologically, and it will become more and more difficult to communicate and cooperate with others.

Therefore, people cannot be idle or lazy. Even if their hands and feet are idle, their minds cannot be lazy, otherwise they will gradually be eliminated by life.