"On New Year's Day, why don't you pay New Year's greetings to my mother?" Phoenix man thundered at his wife. What do you think of this?

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On the first day of the Lunar New Year, the younger generation should be happy to pay a New Year call to their elders. But some people, not only didn't pay New Year greetings, but also didn't give their elders a good look from beginning to end. Why is this happening? It's not all because the younger generation is not sensible and filial, but because there is a reason. As the saying goes, everything happens for a reason, and the younger generation refuses to pay New Year's greetings, which is not groundless.

Xiaoli has been married for three years, but during these three years, she has not met her mother-in-law more than three times. Two years ago, during the Chinese New Year, she simply didn't come back, and went directly to her parents' house. This year, in order to take care of her husband's feelings, she had to go back to her husband's house. Why does Xiaoli refuse to go back to her husband's house? There is only one reason: I don't want to see my mother-in-law.

Xiaoli and her mother-in-law have a deep grudge. It's wise that they haven't seen each other much in recent years, otherwise they will have another quarrel. It may affect the relationship between husband and wife and the stability of the whole family, or it may directly divorce. All this stems from the fact that Xiaoli gave birth to a child, or rather, was confined to the moon.

Xiaoli was pregnant for more than two months when she first married their family. Because Feng Zi got married, her mother-in-law never liked her very much, thinking that she was not a girl of a good family, did not know how to love herself, and was not worthy of her son.

because of this incident, my mother-in-law has always had a problem with this marriage and wants to take the opportunity not to give the bride price. But I didn't expect that Xiaoli, who has a bad temper and is not easy to provoke, announced that she would break off her marriage and not marry without giving a bride price. If Xiaoli's husband hadn't fought for it, their marriage might not have happened.

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From then on, the feud between Xiaoli and her mother-in-law began. Once this "quarrel" was made, it would inevitably affect our future relationship, so soon after marriage, Xiaoli and her husband returned to the city. During Xiaoli's pregnancy, her mother-in-law didn't come to visit once, even without asking a question. Later, when she learned that Xiaoli gave birth to a daughter, she was even more reluctant to come and help take care of it.

but how can I do without someone to take care of the confinement? My husband has to go to work. He is the only source of income for the family. Having children will cost more in the future, so you can't quit your job. At this time, they are in greatest need of help. Want to hire a nanny, but the economy does not allow it; Going to the center of the month, the economy is not allowed. Xiao Li and his wife can only turn to their parents.

the parents of the maiden's family are busy taking care of their brother and sister-in-law's children, so naturally they can't take care of them. The mother-in-law is just the best candidate. Because she is retired, she has nothing to do all day. She usually plays mahjong, chases TV dramas and dances in the square dance. But even so, she still didn't want to come over, and directly refused, saying that she had her own old age to live.

Xiaoli was so angry that she didn't want to say anything, and she couldn't wait to have contact with her mother-in-law forever. Finally, Xiaoli let her mother take care of her. The children of my brother and sister-in-law are left to look after themselves first, so my sister-in-law specially resigned. But she didn't blame Xiaoli, but she came to visit if she had nothing to do.

As both women know that confinement is not easy, my sister-in-law is full of love for Xiaoli. Fortunately, Xiaoli has a harmonious and friendly family, otherwise, how can she live this life?

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During the whole month, her mother-in-law didn't make a phone call. Because of this, Xiaoli's husband stopped contacting her mother actively, thinking that she was really unreasonable. So for two years in a row, they didn't go home for the New Year, but went straight back to their parents' house. As a son-in-law, Xiaoli's husband has always had a good relationship with his parents-in-law.

He is very grateful for the help of her parents-in-law and the understanding of her brother and sister-in-law. He feels that her parents' inaction is more like her own parents, so she is closer. This year, no matter what I say, I have to go back to my mother-in-law's house for the New Year, because my mother-in-law warned early in the morning that if I don't come back this year, I will completely break the love between mother and son.

Xiaoli's husband sighed and said, "Honey, I know you don't have a good relationship with my mother, but I hope you can understand me and go home this year. Otherwise, I don't know what moth my mother can make." Xiaoli expressed her understanding and promised her husband.

My daughter is over two years old, and she has hardly met her grandparents. She has no idea at all, because she has always regarded her grandparents as grandparents. After all, she was brought up by her grandparents, so she is naturally more intimate. But her mother-in-law didn't understand this. Xiaoli's daughter refused to call her grandma, and her mother-in-law's face immediately sank, blaming Xiaoli for not being educated, and even directly saying that she instigated it.

Xiaoli is not the first time to know her mother-in-law. She naturally knows her mother-in-law, so she won't dispute with her. Otherwise, she's such a radical character, have to make a fuss, no peace.

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On New Year's Day, Xiaoli's husband got up early in the morning to help cook and do housework, but Xiaoli refused to pay New Year's greetings to her mother-in-law anyway, and even didn't want to see her face. The husband felt very embarrassed and asked her, "According to the custom, we should pay New Year greetings to our parents and children. My mother will prepare lucky money then. Why don't you go?" Others will see jokes. "

Xiaoli sighed and said, "I haven't forgotten the revenge of the moon. I really can't get past that hurdle in my heart." In this case, my husband is not forced to go alone. The daughter-in-law didn't come to pay New Year's greetings, and her mother-in-law certainly had a problem. Fortunately, her husband has always been on Xiaoli's side, so her mother-in-law is not afraid to bother her again. The husband said to his mother-in-law, "Forget it if she doesn't come. You don't have to pay attention to the sense of ceremony in everything. Now the child is only two years old. It's a noisy time. She is too hard. Let her have a good rest."

when she heard that her son was protecting her daughter-in-law, her mother-in-law became annoyed instantly and felt as if she were an outsider. Isn't this a typical "married daughter-in-law and forgot her mother"? So she started nagging and complaining, saying too much, and her son was annoyed. She said, "Mom, don't talk about being sensible and filial everywhere. People's hearts are mutual. You refused to help us at the beginning, and you refused to take a look at how difficult it was for us when Xiaoli was confined to the moon. Now you ask us to be filial and respectful to you. We are not saints, let alone Xiaoli, that is, I have a problem with you. "

after that, I went back to my room, and the year ended in discord. Xiaoli can't let go of her revenge and shake hands with her mother-in-law. It's not her own fault. She also wants to make up with her mother-in-law, but this step can only be taken by her first. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most important thing. Only when mother-in-law understands this, maybe the relationship between them can be eased and improved. Otherwise, the more you complain, the more difficult it is to untie the knot.