Feelings of 30-year-old leftover women: When you can face up to your own strength, love will follow. Do you agree?

Every girl, when she is young, must have a dream. This dream is about the prince and the princess. I am a princess, and the prince will come on a white horse one day, and he will be the most dazzling one in the crowd.

Like every girl, she once thought she must be the luckiest person in the world. They waited for love devoutly, put it at an absolute height, and finally found that the starting point of love itself was actually very low.

In the summer of 30, Silla finally got married. This older woman in the eyes of many people has finally waited for the right person. The wedding was grand, and Silla smiled happily at the wedding.

At the wedding, she said that she married love, and she was glad to meet him in the best years. When she said this, many people applauded, but many people laughed, probably thinking that 30 is not the best time.

After the marriage, Xin fell into the eyes of everyone and lived a happy life.

Her husband loves her very much, and every time he looks into Silla's eyes, he can't hide the rippling love inside. Some people say that when a person really likes another person, then he must look at each other in a completely different way. It's true.

He can't wait to give her the best thing in the world. Silla's friend said that it seems that her waiting for so many years is worth it. When she meets someone from two of a kind, she can also hold her in her hand.

Many unmarried older girls around me take Silla as an example to cheer themselves up: don't compromise, you have to wait, wait for your love, wait for the most suitable person, he may just be lost!

Silla was the only one who smiled. She said, "Love is not that complicated or that simple."

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Love is not complicated, because it is not so difficult to like someone; Love is not that simple, because many times, liking someone needs many reasons to support it.

Silla's vision has always been very selective, which is recognized by relatives and friends.

When she was in college, she had a love affair with the "heartthrob" of their college. That boy is outstanding, has his own emphasis, and belongs to the type that walking in school can cause discussion among little girls.

Silla has been in love with him for more than a year. After graduation, no one wants to compromise and separate because of different places. After returning to her hometown, many people introduced Silla to her. Silla took a look and didn't want to continue because she thought they were all ugly.

This first condition eliminated a large number of people, and she was awarded the title of "Appearance Association".

Later, people introduced her constantly, but Silla rarely met anyone who could satisfy herself. This appearance is not enough; It seems to have passed, but the work failed; The work has passed, but my temper and appearance are not good; I finally met a man who passed the exam, but he was a playboy with uncertain mind.

She has been on the road of blind date, from the age of 23 to 30, and there have been some "small fights" in the middle, but there is no real love.

What is "tinkering"? It's just with everyone in love, but only for a few days. Silla sighed: it's hard to find a good man in this world!

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If others talk too much, they will always meet a few straightforward people. There was once a boy who bluntly said, "Why don't you look at yourself?"

Silla, then 29, was surprised to hear the news. After returning to China, she kept thinking: Yes, why did everyone around her find love and get married one after another, but only herself, but never met the right person?

She thought about it all night and finally got the answer: she never "faced up" to her own strength.

When she wants to understand this problem, she has entered the ranks of 30 years old. It happened that a friend introduced her to the object, and Silla agreed to meet. When I met her, I didn't have the urge to fall in love, but the other party still asked her out to play.

Silla didn't refuse, but first analyzed her overall situation: she looks ok, has a good figure, has an average education, graduated from a key undergraduate course, has an average job, has a bad temper and is easy to get along with, but she is 30 years old.

Then analyze the other person's situation: average, average-looking, a bully, graduated from graduate school, has a house and a car, and has great job prospects. He is one year younger than her, but he is introverted and has never been in love.

If it was before, Silla ruled out the other side for the first time, not tall enough, not outstanding in appearance and unable to speak. How could she like such a person? But after such analysis, I found that he obviously has many advantages over himself!

Silla tried to get in touch with him. He was sincere because he wanted to be nice to her and made some jokes, which made Silla feel a contrast. After getting along for half a month, she found that she seemed to like him a little.

So, two months later, there was a flash marriage and a later story.

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In the eyes of outsiders, everyone thinks Silla has married a good husband who is capable and kind to her. Why does everyone think so? Silla said it herself. After getting married, she felt that she really chose a good man.

Although he also has many shortcomings, for example, he really can't do housework at all, and his personality is particularly straightforward. His words and deeds will make her angry. But Silla said that there is no perfect person in this world, and she has many shortcomings herself.

Someone asked her how to find true love at the age of 30.

Silla said: "There are two aspects. The first is that when you can' face up to' your own strength, love will follow; Second, don't believe in love at first sight. Most people's looks don't have that capital. Love means going to the details of life. "

Just like Silla and him, their love came into being after getting along. This is not a make-do, but a process that she neglected before to help make a choice.

Regarding the bridge between the princess and the prince, Silla said, "The prince doesn't really exist, because the prince is so perfect. Such people are suitable for those who can't be found in books and TV plays. Even if there is, he doesn't belong to you. "

Someone asked, "Why?"

Silla smiled and said, "Because practice tells me that a real prince always likes a real princess."