Can grandparents take care of their children wholeheartedly all day, instead of their parents' love?

Many families are grandparents or grandparents who take care of their children, so there will be a situation of "separated parents", which is easy to overindulge children, and small things in life will be blindly taken over, which will make children have poor self-care ability and strong dependence to a certain extent. Over time, it will give children the illusion: "I think everything you do for him is what you should do."

I still remember when Dabao went to kindergarten, as parents, we were busy with work every day and had no extra time to send our children to school. Grandparents are the people who accompany him the most. Every morning, grandpa wakes up the children after breakfast. The children always habitually sit up, mutter a few words, and then fall asleep. At this time, grandpa will patiently call: "Dabao, get up and go to school." If Dabao still doesn't want to get up, grandpa will bring his clothes, pants and shoes, help him put them on, drag them to the bathroom, squeeze toothpaste for him to wash his face ... When he comes home from school in the afternoon, he won't let Dabao do his homework and let him do what he likes. His grandparents love Dabao silently and selflessly day after day.

Dabao has entered primary school now. A new school and a new teacher are a new beginning for our family.

Just a few days after school started, there was a class meeting in the class. It was my first time to attend a parent-teacher conference in primary school. I am both happy and looking forward to it. Unexpectedly, the questions and suggestions put forward by the teacher made me understand that primary school is different from kindergarten, and especially emphasized the importance of the first grade of primary school, which made me feel great pressure.

The next time, I was furious and my blood pressure rose. The storm was "helping Dabao with his homework." Before tutoring homework every night, I have to tell myself repeatedly "calm down, calm down, calm down again". Every time I do my homework, I should pay special attention to "sitting still". I can't do anything unrelated to my study during my homework. Remind each time to do the questions in order; I have to explain some problems several times every time ... and most of me will be forced to break my work, be taught at the top of my lungs or be forced to solve them! Because as soon as I do my homework, I have a lot of questions. Dabao always said innocently, "Mom, I am thirsty and want to drink some water;" Mom, I want to go to the toilet; Mom, I'm at school today ... "I really want to say," Son, it's no use not sending you to be an actor. " Full of heart and helplessness.

In this way, he endured internal injuries and helped Dabao do his homework for a while. Dabao was unhappy. Every time he does his homework, he makes a face and mutters, "fidgety, there is so much homework." So he began to miss the study life in kindergarten and began to complain to me: I don't like you anymore. I always have to do a lot of homework and don't even have time to go out to play. I still like my grandparents, playing with me and taking me out to buy delicious food. "There is really no harm in not comparing. Actually, I also want you to play and take you out to buy delicious food, but your study time is really short. Your classmates and friends are racing against time to review and preview. They all want to learn more knowledge and get better grades. This is the current education system in China. We must follow the trend, or you will fall behind!