4 Recruit your conversational skills so that even the workplace can be successful even if you are afraid

How to accumulate good popularity in the workplace

1. Good popularity in reply skills

1. Scenario

A colleague invites you but you have to work overtime. Or this person is so annoying that you can't even eat with him.

2. Formula

Reject + Affirm/Rhetorical question.

3. For example

Q: "Xiao X, let's go to dinner together after get off work."

A: "No, I have to work overtime."

A: "No, I can't go. I recently found a delicious barbecue restaurant. Let's go there together next time. I have to work overtime today, so I won't waste your time." "No, I've been busy recently. "Why do you want to go shopping today?"

4. Reasons

Even if you refuse, you must give the other party a step back. Don’t make people feel cold. Express yourself more from the other party’s perspective, and the effect will be better! You can also throw the question back, which is both a rejection and a change of topic without embarrassing the other party.

2. Replying to Popularity

1. Scenario

The other party compliments you, you smile uncomfortably, deny it in a hurry, or leave it with a vague answer , who is willing to continue to praise you?

2. Formula

Affirmative + rhetorical question.

3. For example

Q: "Little

A: "No, it's okay."

A: "That's necessary. I work with beauties like you every day and you don't let me learn a few tricks. Speaking of which, do you know how I bought this necklace?"

4. Reasons

If a positive answer cannot continue the topic, you can try to use a positive + rhetorical question method to continue the chat.

3. Good Replying Skills

1. Scenario

When someone asks for help about a problem that you don’t know much about, you are afraid of saying the wrong thing, so you can only say it awkwardly The answer was, "I don't know either."

2. Formula

Negation + explanation.

3. For example

Q: "Can you read the infrared identification spectrum? Can you help me see what functional group this position represents?"

A: "No, I don't know."

A: "I don't know, but when I parsed xx before, I memorized the parsing steps and several feature positions. See if you can help."

4. Reason< /p>

Although it is a denial, it gives an explanation and explains that I have seen other pictures. Then, the follow-up is likely to focus on "infrared identification", exchange what has been learned, and kill two birds with one stone.

4. Good Reputation Skills

1. Principle

Whether they are high-ranking peers or even newcomers, they all desire to be recognized and respected. When we communicate, we must not only speak clearly, but also speak deeply into people's hearts.

2. Skills

Break expectations and adapt to tension.

3. Real example

When I graduated, my tutor took special care of xx, which made everyone think there was some special relationship. When I asked her later, she laughed, no, she was just used to it. Just look up and interact with the teacher in class. Just imagine how satisfying it feels to have a pair of eyes following you all the time in the classroom.

4. A similar workplace habit

When listening to leadership training, bring a notebook with you. You can interrupt when appropriate. Can I write it down, leader? I’m afraid it will take a while. Forgot.