Twins are the first in the class and the last in the class. What should I say when attending a parent-teacher conference?

Seeing this problem, talk about your own experience for parents' reference, regardless of whether the children are twins or not.

My children are twins, twins, and they have basically received the same education from primary school to junior high school. Now in different high schools, I am preparing for the 202 1 college entrance examination.

I have attended many parent-teacher conferences, but here, I want to talk about other ideas.

All along, the two children are the same teachers, the same parents, the same environment and the same basic education from home to school.

The difference is that since kindergarten, the extracurricular arrangements of the two children are different. Boys have been learning chess, while girls are learning art and music.

The primary school is in Beijing.

In the lower grades, the two children have similar cultural achievements and can't tell them apart.

After the fifth grade, some gaps began to appear, mainly in mathematics, which girls never liked and their grades slowly fell behind.

At that time, in order to improve the girls' math level, the children's mother was going to give them an Olympiad. After the audition, the girls didn't like it very much and finally gave up.

When I was in junior high school, I returned to Baoding, Hebei Province to study.

There are many courses and heavy homework. The adaptability of boys has played a role, and they have always been the first or second in the class. Another competitor is also a boy, who happens to be my graduate student's child. Two boys compete with each other, and the other children are far behind, often third, and will be 20-30 points behind their grades.

Maybe it's because some habits of playing chess help him. He is used to setting goals and making plans to achieve them, which makes me very happy.

At this time, the problem of girls is more serious, and it is difficult to correct some subjects, but it is still passable on the whole. In Class Two, the class ranking is about 6- 10.

In order to improve their physics and chemistry, especially the physics and chemistry of girls, I built a small physics and chemistry laboratory with four other parents, and invited the master of engineering from the nearby 2 1 1 university to give them early enlightenment experiments.

So far, this is probably the most time they participated in the experiment, because later, there were few experimental classes in middle schools.

In a blink of an eye, it was time for the senior high school entrance examination.

Because of their hukou, they came to Tianjin to take the senior high school entrance examination.

The ideal for boys is Nankai Middle School. In his words, Grandpa will be very happy to be an alumnus of Premier Zhou Wen.

However, I didn't take the independent examination of Nankai Middle School as I wished. Boys' math scores are poor, and most of the questions are suitable for the Olympics. This is my only regret. At that time, I didn't ask them to insist on learning Olympic Mathematics.

After missing out on Nankai Middle School, the boy was admitted to another key high school and joined the experimental class.

The girl met another difficulty. She is not very good at physical education, and her physical education score in the senior high school entrance examination accounts for 30 points. For this reason, I took her to Beijing every weekend for two months, invited a national champion to train her, and made a training plan for a week.

In the end, the girl was nearly 5 points behind the scores of key high schools and about 40 points behind her brother's grades, and entered an ordinary high school.

By the second year of high school, the scores of the two children had increased to 100.

Now facing the college entrance examination, boys have their own plans, about 985, such as Beihang University, Beijing Institute of Technology or Nankai University. I feel that if there is no accident, it should be more certain.

I discussed with him, is it possible to clear the north?

He said no.

I said, whether you can get into Beijing or not does not depend on your parents, teachers or yourself.

The boy asked, who does that depend on?

I said: that depends on whether there will be smoke in our ancestral grave.

The girl set herself the goal of Shanghai International Studies University.

I asked: There are many good universities in Tianjin, such as Medical University and Normal University. Have you thought about it?

She thinks it is also a good choice if she can learn a foreign language well.

I think if we do well in the next five months, we will have a better chance. Actually, I'm still worried. This goal is a bit high.

I hope she can be admitted to a normal school and become a teacher in the future. I think that's the most suitable job for girls.

In fact, if your children are not extremely outstanding, or extremely outstanding (you know), you won't have many opportunities to speak formally at the parent-teacher conference.

When I was in junior high school, I got a chance to speak at the parent-teacher meeting of the whole school. Interact with the vice president of a famous school in Beijing invited by the school. The vice president asked me to summarize and refine some advantages of my children. I objectively evaluated the two children. The principal actually wants to see if parents know their children objectively.

Generally speaking, after the parent-teacher meeting of the school class, you can talk to the teacher alone about your child. In fact, this is an unsystematic communication with limited effect.

At the beginning of every education stage, you should do one thing, that is, establish effective communication channels with your child's head teacher and other teachers, instead of cramming for the last minute when you encounter problems.

In junior high school, once, my son was naughty in physics class and the class teacher hit me. Because everyone is already familiar with it, her first sentence is a bit ridiculous: your son is angry with the physics teacher.

I was out of town and called my physics teacher to find out the situation: my son was sitting in the first row. In physics class, when the teacher was about to explain the pinhole imaging experiment, his son blew out the teacher's candle and made the whole class burst into laughter.

No big deal. Call my son at night.

He completely guessed what I was going to call, and I guess he already had a way to deal with me in his heart.

I asked directly: What did the teacher do after you blew out the candles? Did I criticize you or punish you?

The son said: No, the teacher lit the candle again and continued the class.

I asked: Do you know why the teacher doesn't criticize you?

He was silent and I began to make up stories. I said:

The teacher first thinks that you are a good student, and you have fully previewed the course (remember the self-built laboratory I mentioned earlier). More importantly, the teacher should save face for you. The teacher left you face, so consider for yourself whether to find a chance to apologize to the teacher privately.

The son was surprised and stretched his voice: Oh. ...

Then I heard the silence.

A few days later, on the weekend, my physics teacher and I found a place to drink. I asked, Mr. X, did the child apologize to your face? The teacher said that the child had looked for him, and in the end he didn't say anything to apologize.

The two men laughed and felt that two big men were playing tricks on a child.

Parents and teachers should fully communicate, give their children self-esteem and thinking, and treat them equally, which is the only way to promote their healthy growth.

Junior high school students, in particular, are entering adolescence and are prone to rebellion.

Cooperate with teachers, especially the head teacher, and your child will grow up smoothly.

In front of children, you must maintain the dignity of teachers.

In front of the teacher, be sure to understand the advantages and disadvantages of the child.

Up to now, my two children are willing to tell me whether their grades are good or bad at the first time, especially when their grades are not good, because they can find comfort and some methods here, instead of a sweeping sentence: Why didn't I do well in the exam?

Parent-teacher conference is just one of the communication methods, not even the most important communication method, unless the school arranges major issues in a unified way.

Effective cooperation between home and school can ensure the healthy growth of children and achieve the ideal effect suitable for them.

Thank you for sharing and wise comments! Deeply inspired, I feel that the long road of parenting needs constant practice and self-improvement … grow and progress with Longfeng * * *!

You can answer: differentiated education [covering your face]

In the actual teaching work, there are still many twins, sometimes a pair of sisters, sometimes a brother and a younger brother, and also a boy and a girl twins. For twins, generally speaking, one has a good academic record and the other is relatively poor. Of course, there are also cases where twin sisters or brothers have excellent grades.

There is such a pair in my class at present. Brother's grades are poor, and brother's grades are good. My brother is basically at the top of the class, and my brother is basically at the bottom of the class. Both brothers are now in Grade One. Intellectually, there is not much difference. The main factor that affects their grades is the degree of diligence. My brother gets good grades because he is quiet, can sit still and study with peace of mind. On the contrary, my brother can't sit still, he is impetuous, and his academic performance is far behind.

The difference in grades is mainly caused by acquired factors. Therefore, in the process of family education, parents should pay attention to the guidance and cultivation of methods and habits. Although we say that the palms of our hands are all meat, it is difficult to treat twins equally in reality, and most twins are particularly sensitive. They are particularly sensitive to different eyes from parents, relatives, teachers and classmates. , left a lifelong mark on their young hearts.

As parents, they should analyze their children's problems realistically and express their opinions objectively and fairly in the process of attending their parents' meeting. It is normal for children to have different grades, so parents should not deliberately compare them. The backwardness of grades may be only temporary. Or the child just has poor grades, but may have his advantages in other aspects, such as high emotional intelligence, being good at communicating with people, being good at communicating with people and being sincere with others. Parents should, according to their children's characteristics, encourage their children to develop their strengths and avoid their weaknesses, and guide them according to the situation.

In short, parents should treat the family education of twin children differently and teach them in accordance with their aptitude. It is not recommended to treat two children equally. Parents should respect their children's personality and guide them to develop and grow according to their own personality characteristics.

Thank you for your question:

The essence of education is to amplify individual growth differences through "deliberate practice" in teaching.

As the saying goes: "The dragon gives birth to nine children, each with its own differences." "If an old tiger gives birth to three children, there must be a tiger." You can't find two identical leaves and two identical rivers in nature. Similarly, human society cannot find two identical people, even identical twins.

Life is endowed with the natural material combination form of reproductive ability+growth cycle+a little damage self-healing function. What an individual should look like, how to realize intergenerational rotation, and what is the natural environment suitable for survival ..... These are all determined by natural physiological genes. However, as a more advanced natural life, besides the basic physiological characteristics, the ability of animal groups to adapt to the natural living environment also needs to be obtained through groping, such as the predation skills of carnivores such as lions+tigers+cheetahs, and the ability of vegetarian animals such as antelopes+rabbits+bison to avoid enemy harm. However, it is these dribs and drabs that bring together different life skills, leading to different families in similar species, such as more than 2,000 different human nationalities living on the earth.

Humans are the smartest and most advanced mammals in the natural life system. In the natural life system, only human beings have evolved systematic and abstract achievements of social civilization, only human beings have the ability to transform the combination of natural materials through large-scale similar division of labor and cooperation, and only human beings can improve their food supply structure by domesticating and sowing plants and taming captive animals ..... However, the social and civilized life skills formed by human society have no genetic characteristics except physiological characteristics. Therefore, in the course of thousands of years of evolutionary practice, human society has formed a complete and unique guidance &; Education is a comprehensive social practice to help children grow up.

Education is a comprehensive social practice for human beings to guide and assist their children's growth, the core of the inheritance of human social civilization from generation to generation, the fundamental guarantee for everyone to acquire basic survival skills after birth, and the strong backing for helping modern families solve their worries about childbirth. The core goal of education is to inherit and enlighten wisdom, and the fundamental task of education is to improve intelligence, teach and solve doubts. Its essence is to restrain children's growing mind with the help of mature rules of human society and give them comprehensive ability to adapt to human social life independently.

Education is the most complicated comprehensive performing art in the history of human society. Just like painting. Parents and teachers paint their children over and over again, expecting them to present an imaginary picture. However, children are independent individuals with full will to act, and they will give up or add a lot of colors according to their own preferences; Education is the most difficult picture in the history of human society, because every parent and teacher can only guide and assist their children to learn and grow with their own experience, and can only guide and assist their children to adapt to the life in the unknown world with the help of the known social civilization of human society; Education is the easiest picture to draw in the history of human society, because as long as the environment adapts, children will always color themselves according to their own preferences. For the problems encountered in life, children can always use their existing wisdom and experience to "see the move and remove the move"; Education is the greatest century project in the history of human civilization, because only by supplying the best resources of human society to children can human society produce talents and ensure that talents are stronger from generation to generation.

Interpretation of the Book of Rites: "The Book of Changes says:' A gentleman is cautious at the beginning, and if he makes a mistake, he will take a thousand miles.' "Small differences make big differences: it means that although the difference is small at first, the result will be very different. Allusion: During the Western Han Dynasty, Zhao Chongguo was ordered by Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty to quell the rebellion in the northwest. Seeing that the rebel side was up to no good, he adopted the method of persuasion and made most people surrender. But Emperor Xuan Di ordered him to send troops, which turned out to be a bad start. Later, he collected rations according to the emperor's orders, causing rebellion. He said with emotion: It was a miss, a hundred thousand miles.

Human beings are the most plastic in the natural life system. Almost identical children at birth grow up to be farmers, workers, businessmen, doctors, teachers and civil servants ... Humans are the most similar at birth, except for weight, gender and sparse hair. All their food and daily life must be completed with assistance.

Personal talent = 1% talent +99% sweat, 1% talent is yeast, such as diving+track and field+weightlifting+shooting+... and other sports champions, calligraphy+folk art+literature+painting+... and other famous artists, aerospace+deep sea exploration+energy research+education+... However, Of course, a child without an education is just like a child without a class &; To aim at the shot, we all lie together in the same way. However, once children begin to receive education, they will be put into different "gun barrel schools" and shot at different targets. Therefore, education is essentially to amplify individual growth differences through "deliberate practice" in teaching.

As a parent, I must be deeply touched by being able to train twins into two extremes. If I were a child's head teacher, I would definitely praise the first positive child and talk about his advantages. Then I will discuss with you privately who is the last child, what shortcomings and shortcomings he has, and why he is the last child. I won't force the penultimate child to become a positive number. I will hope to work with you to make the penultimate child progress slowly, even if it is the penultimate child.

Parents must know the details of the last child best, so I won't make any assumptions.

Sorry, the answer doesn't matter!

This case just proves the difference between learning and development! In other words, the development environment is the same, the genes are the same, and the living conditions are the same, but their hobbies, ideals and beliefs, and potential development are different!

The child with the lowest score didn't play his hobby and potential!

There are two successful presidents in the history of Peking University. Admitted to Peking University, one got 25 points and the other got zero! In other words, their hobby and potential are not in mathematics! Their hobbies and potentials are in Chinese, politics or management!

The fine tradition of education in China is to cultivate outstanding talents with 360 lines, and its evaluation standard should be to evaluate 360 top students with 360 lines, but today's college entrance examination is to test 360 top students into two top students in arts and sciences with 360 lines!

If you are interested in other foreign languages, you can't learn them. You must learn English, otherwise you can't go to key high schools and universities! You will be sentenced to death in the college entrance examination!

Therefore, the education in China should be reformed, the evaluation standard of talents should be reformed, and the reward of scientific and technological talents should also be reformed!

Ask interested friends to read my article 1 1 1 China comprehensive education reform plan!

In this case, as a class teacher, you will not be easy to speak, because this kind of speech is not very positive to children or class parents. No matter in good or bad ways, it is your own children who are hurt. The bad kind is more harmful. I hope you will give up this idea of speaking as soon as possible! Let children grow up happily and communicate with teachers more. Learn more about the life and study of poor children!

I think it can be said that;

This is easy to handle! Isn't there an exam? In this exam, those who did well pretended not to do well. I'll change it next exam.

Otherwise, it's on the exam paper. You write my name and I'll write yours. So the results of two people are not balanced?

Usually in class, two people can often change seats and answer questions. Because most students and teachers look at clothes and accessories to distinguish you from me.

This operation is very feasible. This encourages the advanced and helps the backward. Twins can go hand in hand. Under the "fame, in fact, it can also be negative", slowly, the results of two people will really get better.

Once upon a time, there was a man who opened a biscuit stall and sold biscuits. The sesame seed cake is quite big, and adults will be full after eating two. At this time, an adult with a little boy came to buy sesame cakes.

The adult said, "Your baked wheat cake is too small and expensive. My children can't get enough to eat both! The seller of biscuits was very angry and said, "No way, you can let the children eat first. If you can eat four, then I won't pay, and the biscuits will be given to you for free! "!

The children began to eat sesame cakes. The child quickly took two bites and said, "Dad, I'm going to pee and eat when I come back." The child went to the toilet and came back after peeing. The child also touched his stomach with dignity and began to eat again. Of course, there are two other baked wheat cakes.

The biscuit seller lost. The adults left the sesame seed cake stall with their children. The seller of baked wheat cakes is still muttering, this child can really eat four!

What happened? Because this article tells the story of twins, readers can certainly guess. Otherwise, wouldn't that be retarded?

The children who eat sesame cakes are twins. When I went to pee, I "changed someone" in the toilet. Twins, even your mother, are often confused, not to mention "other people's two surnames" It's not that one mother fed one child twice, while the other child didn't. One child took a bath twice, and the other child didn't, which caused a "classic joke".

Twins have many advantages and disadvantages. We should foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and let this natural phenomenon exist naturally. As long as you are selfish in your marriage, there will be no mistakes and troubles. Aren't there triplets, quadruplets and multiple births? That is even more blessed, and it is also a strong home fragrance.

As we all know, there are twins named Liu Quanli and Quanhe Liu. They are both comedians. They skillfully used the innate advantages of "twins" and created many comedies, pantomime and drama works, which were affirmed and appreciated by the audience.

Twins were rare in the past. Now I feel that when I go to the park and the school gate, twins emerge one after another, which is infinite for my children and grandchildren.