How to explain adolescent sex education in a novel, relaxed and funny way?

In the face of students' puppy love, different people have different attitudes: some advocate resolutely prohibiting it! The reason is very good: the child's body is developing, his psychology is not mature, his studies are not over, his career has not been chosen, his economy is not independent, and he is not ready to start a family and have children. At this time, there was a love affair, and there was still a period of time before the legal marriage age. It is really forbidden to waste energy, delay study and affect the future. Some advocate acquiescence for good reasons: adopting acquiescence is a manifestation of full democracy and full respect for human nature. It is said that parents in Europe and America often share happiness with their children when they find their middle school children in love, praising their daughters as "sexy" and their sons as "charming". If their daughters go out to see their boyfriends on weekends, their mothers will remind them to "wear condoms"-is the ban too outdated?

Look at the attitude of these two people: 1. Those who advocate resolute prohibition have been proved by years of practice: prohibition is endless! The incidence of middle school students' love continues to rise, becoming universal and younger in some cities, and even opening up in some middle schools. Some teachers have to admit: "What you forbid and what he loves can't be controlled at all." Some middle school students said: "No way, you are not allowed." Some teachers complained: "The reason why it is not prohibited is because the sexual and physical development of middle school students is advanced, because social media stimulates neutral information too frequently. Some students said, "Don't blame others, the most important reason is that our feelings are not respected, and teachers and parents don't treat us as human beings! ""2. For those who advocate acquiescence, from the psychological needs of middle school students, it is the first time in life that students fall in love, which is both happy and uneasy, both happy and painful. At this time, the sensitive eyes and suspicious ears of the parties accepted too many environmental hints, and many expressions and words made them at a loss. They have grievances to talk about, doubts to analyze, and they really want a kind of help so that they don't give up their feelings and violate social norms. They are really eager for democracy and respect, but also for help and guidance. At this time, the class teacher and parents can't stand by and watch. Just acquiescence can't meet the growing needs of children. Some individual students get pregnant and have abortions because of their ignorance of sex, which brings great harm to their body and mind.

To guide students to puppy love, we must first understand the psychology of puppy love:

One is driven by sexual psychology. Teenagers like to be close to the opposite sex because of their sexual psychology. When you meet the opposite sex you love, love arises spontaneously.

The second is the psychology of following the trend. Middle school students' psychological development is immature, their social experience and life experience are limited, and their conformity psychology and imitation are extremely strong. Mass media and love "role models" in real life make them have the psychology of trying. As a junior high school girl wrote in her diary, "Xiaomei and Fang did a good job and quietly dated Li Jun several times. Seeing so many classmates talking about friends, I made friends with him. I miss him very much, but I don't know what I see in him. I'm afraid I can't even find friends in the future, and I'll be called incompetent by my classmates.

The third is psychological sustenance. In some families, the long-term estrangement between husband and wife, bickering over trifles all day, or running around for work and money every day, often ignores the love between parents and children, making children unable to appreciate the warmth of the family for a long time, and easily leading children to look for the sustenance of the opposite sex.

According to students' psychology of puppy love, our school has taken a series of educational measures: First, popularize psychology and physiology courses, explain the development characteristics of adolescent boys and girls, the similarities and differences of male and female personalities and psychology, and adolescent sex education. Secondly, encourage students to participate in collective exchange activities. Such as: spring outing, social practice activities, sports competitions, cultural activities and so on. Third, using the theme class meeting class, let the students discuss "how boys and girls should communicate normally" and issue the "eight advocates and eight discouragements" norms for the communication between boys and girls in schools:

First, the object of communication: promote more communication between male and female students, do not advocate cross-class and cross-grade communication between male and female students, and do not advocate cross-school or even cross-industry communication.

Second, the scope of communication: promote collective communication between boys and girls, and do not advocate single-density communication between boys and girls.

Third, communication occasions: encourage boys and girls to communicate in school, and discourage boys and girls from communicating outside school, especially in entertainment places.

Fourth, communication content: encourage students to talk about health content such as study and work, and discourage students from talking about eating, wearing and playing.

Verb (abbreviation of verb) communication form: encourage students to value spirit over material, and discourage students from giving gifts.

6. Ways of communication: encourage boys and girls to communicate in a civilized way and behave appropriately, and discourage boys and girls from contacting each other.

Seven, communication and guidance: to promote communication between men and women, we should take the initiative to listen to the guidance of the elders, not to preach behind the elders, especially guardians.

Practical communication: boys and girls are encouraged to communicate in the real environment, and online communication is not encouraged.

Fourth, hold a symposium on student representatives and administration. At the meeting, some students asked: What do school leaders think of students' first love? School leaders seize the opportunity to carry out love education: first of all, they affirm that first love is a normal behavior in the process of teenagers' growth, and at the same time, they also make students understand that love is the most sincere love between men and women. For the purpose of getting married and starting a family, they require both parties to bear certain moral obligations and social responsibilities and pay considerable time and energy, which is by no means fashionable. Teenagers who are not yet independent in economy and immature in mind have entered the field of love with great blindness, adventure and impulsiveness. Puppy love is easy to distract learning energy and delay good learning time. Moreover, due to the imperfect physical and mental development of teenagers, social experience and life experience are not enough to deal with a series of complex emotional problems in puppy love, which is easy to act rashly and cause lifelong regret. Therefore, it is suggested to overcome feelings with reason and give up unwanted relationships as soon as possible. Or bury this feeling deep in your heart and wait until you grow up to see if it is possible to continue.

After the video was broadcast, it caused great influence among students. A senior three girl wrote in her diary: I am worried about how to deal with a person's pursuit these days! After listening to the conversation of the school leader, I decided to tell him to keep this feeling in my heart and wait until he grows up and matures to see if there is any possibility of continuing. Hehe-

In my opinion, there are three preconditions for formulating the countermeasures of middle school students' love education: (1) Defining the preconditions of democracy and respect. Democracy and respect are the essence of modern education. We gave up the strict prohibition policy, not because we were out of control, but because the prohibition policy violated the democratic essence of modern education. (2) Clear the premise of "student-oriented development". To formulate educational countermeasures, we should not be satisfied with calm performance, and should not stay on utilitarian goals such as temporary high scores and college entrance examinations, but should be responsible for the happiness and all-round development of students throughout their lives. (3) Clear the premise of the development of the times. With the progress of the times and the opening of society, the subjective consciousness of middle school students has been greatly awakened. We must conform to this general trend, and we must never look at the interpersonal communication of the new generation with feudal reading glasses, nor can we measure the quality of students' communication with the weight of utilitarianism. Our students must adapt to the social environment after China's entry into WTO, and our children must adapt to the changed marriage and family reality in China.

Because our school treats the individual phenomena of students' puppy love with affection, with reason and with agreement, most students can correctly handle the normal relationship between men and women and correctly distinguish friendship and love. So I can concentrate on my studies. It is welcomed by most parents.